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coming to terms
Yesterday I came to terms with the fact that I have a problem with binge drinking.
I've been drinking heavily on and off since October of last year. Before that drinking for me was very rare. Last October I was diagnosed with Meningitis and all the painkillers in the world that they gave me didn't get rid of the severe headaches and photophobia. One night I was in so much pain I just said "**** it" and poured myself a glass of whisky. Tall glass, no mix, little ice. This became my standard drink of choice later. After drinking down the whisky I sat in my chair and to my surprised it helped with the pain. It didn't completely kill the pain, nothing did. But it brought it down from a screaming 10 down to a 6. After that, the rest is history and I spent the next three weeks completely drunk off my ass off whisky until my health was better.
It was easy for me to rationalize this at the time. I was drinking "medicinally" and once I got better I would stop. Looking back on things, I probably would have gotten better a lot sooner had I not gone this route, and I did some damage to my marriage in the process.
After mid January rolled around, I was better and good to go back to work (thank god for my insurance package, or I would have had to work while I was sick.) and to my credit I did stop drinking for a bit, but I couldn't stop for good. Again I rationalized it as I was sick so it didn't count. But now if I was going out for drinks after work, I had a taste for it, and one drink was never enough. After the months went by I found I was drinking heavily again. Rough day at the office? Better get falling down drunk. Going out with a few buddies? better be the drunkest one there by the end of the night. Depressed from your job, marriage, etc? buy a bottle.
I realized that this was an issue, and I had stopped drinking (for the most part) since the end of June (except two instances where I was going to a friends place to drink, and both times I didn't stop until I was black out drunk) but for the most part, it still didn't seem that bad. This weekend was the last straw. I went to a party of a friends with a bunch of coworkers. I planned on not drinking that night, to be honest, i didn't even want to go. I was able to turn down drinks for the first couple hours, but after a while I just thought (well, I can have one) Unfortunately, it didn't stop at one. It ended with me having everything I could have at the party, coming home after the party and drinking straight whisky until I blacked out. I didn't remember much of when I got home that night, but my wife was terrified for me all night, half expecting I was going to die. I woke up to a hole in the bathroom wall from when I was so drunk but thought I needed to have a shower (bon fire) and repeatedly fell in the shower, twisting my knee something fierce.
I had a long talk with my wife the next day and broke down; I have a problem. Not something I thought I would ever say, but ironically one of the most difficult things I ever have said. I have a lot of alcoholics in my family on both my mother and fathers sides. Up until a year ago, I took pride on the fact that I didn't have a drinking problem, and now I do. I want to be able to just change my relationship with alcohol. No more whisky obviously, but I want to know if it is at all possible for me to even have a couple beers at a social event and be able to stop. When I start drinking it seems that once I feel a buzz coming on, that I need to have more and more faster to chase that buzz, to get drunk off my ass. I don't want to live this way anymore.
I don't even really know how to end this, I've just been typing up until this point. If you read this, thank you.
I've been drinking heavily on and off since October of last year. Before that drinking for me was very rare. Last October I was diagnosed with Meningitis and all the painkillers in the world that they gave me didn't get rid of the severe headaches and photophobia. One night I was in so much pain I just said "**** it" and poured myself a glass of whisky. Tall glass, no mix, little ice. This became my standard drink of choice later. After drinking down the whisky I sat in my chair and to my surprised it helped with the pain. It didn't completely kill the pain, nothing did. But it brought it down from a screaming 10 down to a 6. After that, the rest is history and I spent the next three weeks completely drunk off my ass off whisky until my health was better.
It was easy for me to rationalize this at the time. I was drinking "medicinally" and once I got better I would stop. Looking back on things, I probably would have gotten better a lot sooner had I not gone this route, and I did some damage to my marriage in the process.
After mid January rolled around, I was better and good to go back to work (thank god for my insurance package, or I would have had to work while I was sick.) and to my credit I did stop drinking for a bit, but I couldn't stop for good. Again I rationalized it as I was sick so it didn't count. But now if I was going out for drinks after work, I had a taste for it, and one drink was never enough. After the months went by I found I was drinking heavily again. Rough day at the office? Better get falling down drunk. Going out with a few buddies? better be the drunkest one there by the end of the night. Depressed from your job, marriage, etc? buy a bottle.
I realized that this was an issue, and I had stopped drinking (for the most part) since the end of June (except two instances where I was going to a friends place to drink, and both times I didn't stop until I was black out drunk) but for the most part, it still didn't seem that bad. This weekend was the last straw. I went to a party of a friends with a bunch of coworkers. I planned on not drinking that night, to be honest, i didn't even want to go. I was able to turn down drinks for the first couple hours, but after a while I just thought (well, I can have one) Unfortunately, it didn't stop at one. It ended with me having everything I could have at the party, coming home after the party and drinking straight whisky until I blacked out. I didn't remember much of when I got home that night, but my wife was terrified for me all night, half expecting I was going to die. I woke up to a hole in the bathroom wall from when I was so drunk but thought I needed to have a shower (bon fire) and repeatedly fell in the shower, twisting my knee something fierce.
I had a long talk with my wife the next day and broke down; I have a problem. Not something I thought I would ever say, but ironically one of the most difficult things I ever have said. I have a lot of alcoholics in my family on both my mother and fathers sides. Up until a year ago, I took pride on the fact that I didn't have a drinking problem, and now I do. I want to be able to just change my relationship with alcohol. No more whisky obviously, but I want to know if it is at all possible for me to even have a couple beers at a social event and be able to stop. When I start drinking it seems that once I feel a buzz coming on, that I need to have more and more faster to chase that buzz, to get drunk off my ass. I don't want to live this way anymore.
I don't even really know how to end this, I've just been typing up until this point. If you read this, thank you.
If you are an alcoholic, you cannot go back. As Betty Ford says, once you've crossed the invisible line, there is no return. Alcoholics cannot moderate drinking. If we could, we wouldn't be alcoholics.
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if that's the case, I have a very long and difficult journey ahead of me. Starting with Thursday night where I have a "going away party" (promotion starts next week, new position) and it's going to be at a bar. Was hoping I would be able to have just a couple of beers and be social.
Though part of me knows I have the devil on my shoulder who is always telling me to just have one more. I don't seem to need to drink...until I'm drinking. Then I always just need one more.
Though part of me knows I have the devil on my shoulder who is always telling me to just have one more. I don't seem to need to drink...until I'm drinking. Then I always just need one more.
Welcome to sober recovery.
So, all the devastation that alcohol has caused in your life in such a short period of time, and your only concern is being able to drink socially?
You can keep on hanging on to that fantasy, or you can start gathering the information needed to quit drinking for good. Recovery starts with change. Often times big changes that we don't want to make. For instance, skipping your going away party.
You can keep on hanging on to that fantasy, or you can start gathering the information needed to quit drinking for good. Recovery starts with change. Often times big changes that we don't want to make. For instance, skipping your going away party.
Yesterday I came to terms with the fact that I have a problem with binge drinking.
I've been drinking heavily on and off since October of last year. Before that drinking for me was very rare. Last October I was diagnosed with Meningitis and all the painkillers in the world that they gave me didn't get rid of the severe headaches and photophobia. One night I was in so much pain I just said "**** it" and poured myself a glass of whisky. Tall glass, no mix, little ice. This became my standard drink of choice later. After drinking down the whisky I sat in my chair and to my surprised it helped with the pain. It didn't completely kill the pain, nothing did. But it brought it down from a screaming 10 down to a 6. After that, the rest is history and I spent the next three weeks completely drunk off my ass off whisky until my health was better.
It was easy for me to rationalize this at the time. I was drinking "medicinally" and once I got better I would stop. Looking back on things, I probably would have gotten better a lot sooner had I not gone this route, and I did some damage to my marriage in the process.
After mid January rolled around, I was better and good to go back to work (thank god for my insurance package, or I would have had to work while I was sick.) and to my credit I did stop drinking for a bit, but I couldn't stop for good. Again I rationalized it as I was sick so it didn't count. But now if I was going out for drinks after work, I had a taste for it, and one drink was never enough. After the months went by I found I was drinking heavily again. Rough day at the office? Better get falling down drunk. Going out with a few buddies? better be the drunkest one there by the end of the night. Depressed from your job, marriage, etc? buy a bottle.
I realized that this was an issue, and I had stopped drinking (for the most part) since the end of June (except two instances where I was going to a friends place to drink, and both times I didn't stop until I was black out drunk) but for the most part, it still didn't seem that bad. This weekend was the last straw. I went to a party of a friends with a bunch of coworkers. I planned on not drinking that night, to be honest, i didn't even want to go. I was able to turn down drinks for the first couple hours, but after a while I just thought (well, I can have one) Unfortunately, it didn't stop at one. It ended with me having everything I could have at the party, coming home after the party and drinking straight whisky until I blacked out. I didn't remember much of when I got home that night, but my wife was terrified for me all night, half expecting I was going to die. I woke up to a hole in the bathroom wall from when I was so drunk but thought I needed to have a shower (bon fire) and repeatedly fell in the shower, twisting my knee something fierce.
I had a long talk with my wife the next day and broke down; I have a problem. Not something I thought I would ever say, but ironically one of the most difficult things I ever have said. I have a lot of alcoholics in my family on both my mother and fathers sides. Up until a year ago, I took pride on the fact that I didn't have a drinking problem, and now I do. I want to be able to just change my relationship with alcohol. No more whisky obviously, but I want to know if it is at all possible for me to even have a couple beers at a social event and be able to stop. When I start drinking it seems that once I feel a buzz coming on, that I need to have more and more faster to chase that buzz, to get drunk off my ass. I don't want to live this way anymore.
I don't even really know how to end this, I've just been typing up until this point. If you read this, thank you.
I've been drinking heavily on and off since October of last year. Before that drinking for me was very rare. Last October I was diagnosed with Meningitis and all the painkillers in the world that they gave me didn't get rid of the severe headaches and photophobia. One night I was in so much pain I just said "**** it" and poured myself a glass of whisky. Tall glass, no mix, little ice. This became my standard drink of choice later. After drinking down the whisky I sat in my chair and to my surprised it helped with the pain. It didn't completely kill the pain, nothing did. But it brought it down from a screaming 10 down to a 6. After that, the rest is history and I spent the next three weeks completely drunk off my ass off whisky until my health was better.
It was easy for me to rationalize this at the time. I was drinking "medicinally" and once I got better I would stop. Looking back on things, I probably would have gotten better a lot sooner had I not gone this route, and I did some damage to my marriage in the process.
After mid January rolled around, I was better and good to go back to work (thank god for my insurance package, or I would have had to work while I was sick.) and to my credit I did stop drinking for a bit, but I couldn't stop for good. Again I rationalized it as I was sick so it didn't count. But now if I was going out for drinks after work, I had a taste for it, and one drink was never enough. After the months went by I found I was drinking heavily again. Rough day at the office? Better get falling down drunk. Going out with a few buddies? better be the drunkest one there by the end of the night. Depressed from your job, marriage, etc? buy a bottle.
I realized that this was an issue, and I had stopped drinking (for the most part) since the end of June (except two instances where I was going to a friends place to drink, and both times I didn't stop until I was black out drunk) but for the most part, it still didn't seem that bad. This weekend was the last straw. I went to a party of a friends with a bunch of coworkers. I planned on not drinking that night, to be honest, i didn't even want to go. I was able to turn down drinks for the first couple hours, but after a while I just thought (well, I can have one) Unfortunately, it didn't stop at one. It ended with me having everything I could have at the party, coming home after the party and drinking straight whisky until I blacked out. I didn't remember much of when I got home that night, but my wife was terrified for me all night, half expecting I was going to die. I woke up to a hole in the bathroom wall from when I was so drunk but thought I needed to have a shower (bon fire) and repeatedly fell in the shower, twisting my knee something fierce.
I had a long talk with my wife the next day and broke down; I have a problem. Not something I thought I would ever say, but ironically one of the most difficult things I ever have said. I have a lot of alcoholics in my family on both my mother and fathers sides. Up until a year ago, I took pride on the fact that I didn't have a drinking problem, and now I do. I want to be able to just change my relationship with alcohol. No more whisky obviously, but I want to know if it is at all possible for me to even have a couple beers at a social event and be able to stop. When I start drinking it seems that once I feel a buzz coming on, that I need to have more and more faster to chase that buzz, to get drunk off my ass. I don't want to live this way anymore.
I don't even really know how to end this, I've just been typing up until this point. If you read this, thank you.
You need to accept to get better your going to have to make some changes
If you want to do this change today I'm here but I'llalso be here the next day and so on
Well done on recognising now its time for the realisation that will solve this problem
You said thanks for reading
I say thanks for writing it took guts to do that
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Welcome to sober recovery.
So, all the devastation that alcohol has caused in your life in such a short period of time, and your only concern is being able to drink socially?
You can keep on hanging on to that fantasy, or you can start gathering the information needed to quit drinking for good. Recovery starts with change. Often times big changes that we don't want to make. For instance, skipping your going away party.
So, all the devastation that alcohol has caused in your life in such a short period of time, and your only concern is being able to drink socially?
You can keep on hanging on to that fantasy, or you can start gathering the information needed to quit drinking for good. Recovery starts with change. Often times big changes that we don't want to make. For instance, skipping your going away party.
I know what you're trying to say, and I appreciate it.
Welcome to the Forum!!
The problem is that controlling alcohol is not something that can be learned, it is hardwired into our genetics and thought processes, it therefore can't be cured or fixed, in a either you have it or you don't sort of a way!!
Taking alcohol out of the equation is the solution, but that means on a permanent basis!!
You can do this, it's gonna take serious change to your life, but it's worth it!!
The problem is that controlling alcohol is not something that can be learned, it is hardwired into our genetics and thought processes, it therefore can't be cured or fixed, in a either you have it or you don't sort of a way!!
Taking alcohol out of the equation is the solution, but that means on a permanent basis!!
You can do this, it's gonna take serious change to your life, but it's worth it!!
Welcome to the forum.
I think you know the answer to your question as to if you can drink just a few socially.
We can only speak for ourselves and our experiences. Your story is not unique and I'm sure many can relate to the actions and feelings you described; I know I can.
For me, I spent years trying to rationalize drinking. I'm glad you are realizing it early on. I spent 21 years rationalizing. Now finally at 41 have quit. Only 50 days sober today, so very early on in my recovery, but so much happier now.
Not an easy thing to do, but the only option for me, 100% the only option.
Best of luck with your decision. Your goal is definitely attainable and life is much better without alcohol in it; IMO.
Tons of support here for you.
I think you know the answer to your question as to if you can drink just a few socially.
We can only speak for ourselves and our experiences. Your story is not unique and I'm sure many can relate to the actions and feelings you described; I know I can.
For me, I spent years trying to rationalize drinking. I'm glad you are realizing it early on. I spent 21 years rationalizing. Now finally at 41 have quit. Only 50 days sober today, so very early on in my recovery, but so much happier now.
Not an easy thing to do, but the only option for me, 100% the only option.
Best of luck with your decision. Your goal is definitely attainable and life is much better without alcohol in it; IMO.
Tons of support here for you.
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Also, I have A LOT of alcoholism in my family, so I guess that made me realize where I am also.
(I'm 'too smart' for my own good...)
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Yesterday I came to terms with the fact that I have a problem with binge drinking.
I've been drinking heavily on and off since October of last year. Before that drinking for me was very rare. Last October I was diagnosed with Meningitis and all the painkillers in the world that they gave me didn't get rid of the severe headaches and photophobia. One night I was in so much pain I just said "**** it" and poured myself a glass of whisky. Tall glass, no mix, little ice. This became my standard drink of choice later. After drinking down the whisky I sat in my chair and to my surprised it helped with the pain. It didn't completely kill the pain, nothing did. But it brought it down from a screaming 10 down to a 6. After that, the rest is history and I spent the next three weeks completely drunk off my ass off whisky until my health was better.
It was easy for me to rationalize this at the time. I was drinking "medicinally" and once I got better I would stop. Looking back on things, I probably would have gotten better a lot sooner had I not gone this route, and I did some damage to my marriage in the process.
After mid January rolled around, I was better and good to go back to work (thank god for my insurance package, or I would have had to work while I was sick.) and to my credit I did stop drinking for a bit, but I couldn't stop for good. Again I rationalized it as I was sick so it didn't count. But now if I was going out for drinks after work, I had a taste for it, and one drink was never enough. After the months went by I found I was drinking heavily again. Rough day at the office? Better get falling down drunk. Going out with a few buddies? better be the drunkest one there by the end of the night. Depressed from your job, marriage, etc? buy a bottle.
I realized that this was an issue, and I had stopped drinking (for the most part) since the end of June (except two instances where I was going to a friends place to drink, and both times I didn't stop until I was black out drunk) but for the most part, it still didn't seem that bad. This weekend was the last straw. I went to a party of a friends with a bunch of coworkers. I planned on not drinking that night, to be honest, i didn't even want to go. I was able to turn down drinks for the first couple hours, but after a while I just thought (well, I can have one) Unfortunately, it didn't stop at one. It ended with me having everything I could have at the party, coming home after the party and drinking straight whisky until I blacked out. I didn't remember much of when I got home that night, but my wife was terrified for me all night, half expecting I was going to die. I woke up to a hole in the bathroom wall from when I was so drunk but thought I needed to have a shower (bon fire) and repeatedly fell in the shower, twisting my knee something fierce.
I had a long talk with my wife the next day and broke down; I have a problem. Not something I thought I would ever say, but ironically one of the most difficult things I ever have said. I have a lot of alcoholics in my family on both my mother and fathers sides. Up until a year ago, I took pride on the fact that I didn't have a drinking problem, and now I do. I want to be able to just change my relationship with alcohol. No more whisky obviously, but I want to know if it is at all possible for me to even have a couple beers at a social event and be able to stop. When I start drinking it seems that once I feel a buzz coming on, that I need to have more and more faster to chase that buzz, to get drunk off my ass. I don't want to live this way anymore.
I don't even really know how to end this, I've just been typing up until this point. If you read this, thank you.
I've been drinking heavily on and off since October of last year. Before that drinking for me was very rare. Last October I was diagnosed with Meningitis and all the painkillers in the world that they gave me didn't get rid of the severe headaches and photophobia. One night I was in so much pain I just said "**** it" and poured myself a glass of whisky. Tall glass, no mix, little ice. This became my standard drink of choice later. After drinking down the whisky I sat in my chair and to my surprised it helped with the pain. It didn't completely kill the pain, nothing did. But it brought it down from a screaming 10 down to a 6. After that, the rest is history and I spent the next three weeks completely drunk off my ass off whisky until my health was better.
It was easy for me to rationalize this at the time. I was drinking "medicinally" and once I got better I would stop. Looking back on things, I probably would have gotten better a lot sooner had I not gone this route, and I did some damage to my marriage in the process.
After mid January rolled around, I was better and good to go back to work (thank god for my insurance package, or I would have had to work while I was sick.) and to my credit I did stop drinking for a bit, but I couldn't stop for good. Again I rationalized it as I was sick so it didn't count. But now if I was going out for drinks after work, I had a taste for it, and one drink was never enough. After the months went by I found I was drinking heavily again. Rough day at the office? Better get falling down drunk. Going out with a few buddies? better be the drunkest one there by the end of the night. Depressed from your job, marriage, etc? buy a bottle.
I realized that this was an issue, and I had stopped drinking (for the most part) since the end of June (except two instances where I was going to a friends place to drink, and both times I didn't stop until I was black out drunk) but for the most part, it still didn't seem that bad. This weekend was the last straw. I went to a party of a friends with a bunch of coworkers. I planned on not drinking that night, to be honest, i didn't even want to go. I was able to turn down drinks for the first couple hours, but after a while I just thought (well, I can have one) Unfortunately, it didn't stop at one. It ended with me having everything I could have at the party, coming home after the party and drinking straight whisky until I blacked out. I didn't remember much of when I got home that night, but my wife was terrified for me all night, half expecting I was going to die. I woke up to a hole in the bathroom wall from when I was so drunk but thought I needed to have a shower (bon fire) and repeatedly fell in the shower, twisting my knee something fierce.
I had a long talk with my wife the next day and broke down; I have a problem. Not something I thought I would ever say, but ironically one of the most difficult things I ever have said. I have a lot of alcoholics in my family on both my mother and fathers sides. Up until a year ago, I took pride on the fact that I didn't have a drinking problem, and now I do. I want to be able to just change my relationship with alcohol. No more whisky obviously, but I want to know if it is at all possible for me to even have a couple beers at a social event and be able to stop. When I start drinking it seems that once I feel a buzz coming on, that I need to have more and more faster to chase that buzz, to get drunk off my ass. I don't want to live this way anymore.
I don't even really know how to end this, I've just been typing up until this point. If you read this, thank you.
Had this problem with prescription cough syrup! Get a 8 ounce think I can just sip a little, drink the whole thing, fiend for more act a ass. Same with xanax!! And any other escape. I think, something goes a way I dont like, get high. Get drunk. It is never the answer! Even if something goes the way you would like it to!! We got this and being aware through the trial and error is seemingly the way we all got through it!!
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funny thing is, I'm not really worried about this party on Thursday night. Sure it will be at a bar but I'll be fine drinking soda. More worried about a wedding I have to go to in a month or so. about 80% of the people are going to either be strangers, or people I don't like at all. I just know that open bar will be calling to me.
And unfortunately I can't just not go, that's not an option.
And unfortunately I can't just not go, that's not an option.
Fine. Attend the wedding...skip the reception.
I don't give this advice lightly. I've been on SR four years. I've seen soooo many "I have to go to a wedding" posts, which are usually followed by, "I'm back, day one" posts.
Do people make it through wedding receptions. Sure. A few. The safe bet is to avoid or minimize those things that threaten our sobriety. As I said in my initial reply to your post, successful recovery is about change and our willingness to make the changes we need to make when sobriety is our number one priority.
But we are getting ahead ourselves...you haven't made it through your going away party yet.
I don't give this advice lightly. I've been on SR four years. I've seen soooo many "I have to go to a wedding" posts, which are usually followed by, "I'm back, day one" posts.
Do people make it through wedding receptions. Sure. A few. The safe bet is to avoid or minimize those things that threaten our sobriety. As I said in my initial reply to your post, successful recovery is about change and our willingness to make the changes we need to make when sobriety is our number one priority.
But we are getting ahead ourselves...you haven't made it through your going away party yet.
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For what it is worth, I am partially recovered in that I managed to curb my social drinking and I am working on my home drinking now (having joined this forum today!).
For social drinking and weddings particularly I did two things where possible:
- I asked the bar if they had non-alcoholic beer - most of them do now (in the UK at least). Sometimes I would buy 2 at a time and ask for a pint glass then I could chat with my friends with a pint of beer without drinking any alcohol. You do get a kind of buzz from it too, even though it is a placebo.
- If you are disciplined about zero alcohol when driving, drive to weddings because if you tell people you are driving back, they will be glad that you are not drinking and if you were drinking they would probably think less of you.
Just my 2 cents/pence in case it helps!
For social drinking and weddings particularly I did two things where possible:
- I asked the bar if they had non-alcoholic beer - most of them do now (in the UK at least). Sometimes I would buy 2 at a time and ask for a pint glass then I could chat with my friends with a pint of beer without drinking any alcohol. You do get a kind of buzz from it too, even though it is a placebo.
- If you are disciplined about zero alcohol when driving, drive to weddings because if you tell people you are driving back, they will be glad that you are not drinking and if you were drinking they would probably think less of you.
Just my 2 cents/pence in case it helps!
funny thing is, I'm not really worried about this party on Thursday night. Sure it will be at a bar but I'll be fine drinking soda. More worried about a wedding I have to go to in a month or so. about 80% of the people are going to either be strangers, or people I don't like at all. I just know that open bar will be calling to me.
And unfortunately I can't just not go, that's not an option.
And unfortunately I can't just not go, that's not an option.
If you are truly serious about sobriety, you will make the necessary adjustments to either not attend, or have a backup plan in place. Specific to weddings, like Carl said you can attend the ceremony and skip the reception. People do it all the time, and not just because they are alcohlics.
The bottom line is that if you don't take sobriety seriously and make it your number #1 priority, you will not attain it. You will have to make some hard decisions and you won't like some of them. You will be uncomfortable at times, you will have to do things you don't want to do. You may have to change some of the people you spend time with, and also where you spend your time. The alternative though is much, much worse.
if that's the case, I have a very long and difficult journey ahead of me. Starting with Thursday night where I have a "going away party" (promotion starts next week, new position) and it's going to be at a bar. Was hoping I would be able to have just a couple of beers and be social.
Though part of me knows I have the devil on my shoulder who is always telling me to just have one more. I don't seem to need to drink...until I'm drinking. Then I always just need one more.
Though part of me knows I have the devil on my shoulder who is always telling me to just have one more. I don't seem to need to drink...until I'm drinking. Then I always just need one more.
That's the realization I've come to (and still grapple with every day).
Great job. Keep up the good work!
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For what it is worth, I am partially recovered in that I managed to curb my social drinking and I am working on my home drinking now (having joined this forum today!).
For social drinking and weddings particularly I did two things where possible:
- I asked the bar if they had non-alcoholic beer - most of them do now (in the UK at least). Sometimes I would buy 2 at a time and ask for a pint glass then I could chat with my friends with a pint of beer without drinking any alcohol. You do get a kind of buzz from it too, even though it is a placebo.
- If you are disciplined about zero alcohol when driving, drive to weddings because if you tell people you are driving back, they will be glad that you are not drinking and if you were drinking they would probably think less of you.
Just my 2 cents/pence in case it helps!
For social drinking and weddings particularly I did two things where possible:
- I asked the bar if they had non-alcoholic beer - most of them do now (in the UK at least). Sometimes I would buy 2 at a time and ask for a pint glass then I could chat with my friends with a pint of beer without drinking any alcohol. You do get a kind of buzz from it too, even though it is a placebo.
- If you are disciplined about zero alcohol when driving, drive to weddings because if you tell people you are driving back, they will be glad that you are not drinking and if you were drinking they would probably think less of you.
Just my 2 cents/pence in case it helps!
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