Introversion
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Introversion
I've noticed from reading many posts that some of us use the term "socially awkward" or "uncomfortable around others" so we drank to feel more at ease in social gatherings. I know I've felt that way (social anxiety disorder). I read a great book titled: "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking." It helped me realize that there is nothing wrong with being an introvert! Call it validation or whatever, this book took A LOT of pressure off me from feeling like being outgoing, loving large groups of people, being the life of the party etc. was what it meant to be "normal" and there was something about ME that was flawed. Large groups of people drain me...and there isn't anything wrong with that. Period!
Anyway, I just thought I'd share that because I've read so many posts, that ring a familiar tone with me.
Anyway, I just thought I'd share that because I've read so many posts, that ring a familiar tone with me.
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Great book! I am one and I have read the book.
Interestingly, when I began recovery and I was at the bottom, I stopped trying to fit myself into someone else's mold. I really had no choice. I'm not an outgoing person and that's perfectly alright.
Interestingly, when I began recovery and I was at the bottom, I stopped trying to fit myself into someone else's mold. I really had no choice. I'm not an outgoing person and that's perfectly alright.
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It's a great point, introversion is not a weakness or a flaw, it is a personality type.
I always was intrigued about the Myers-Briggs or Jung personality tests, they were the first idea I had on people being either extroverted or introverted!!
Drinking I guess can make people come out of themselves more, I would consider myself an introvert, but in my drinking days I would be more extroverted, in all aspects of life alcohol blurred the lines from who I was and who I became!!
Contentment and liking who I actually was Sober was a big part of my Sobriety!!
I always was intrigued about the Myers-Briggs or Jung personality tests, they were the first idea I had on people being either extroverted or introverted!!
Drinking I guess can make people come out of themselves more, I would consider myself an introvert, but in my drinking days I would be more extroverted, in all aspects of life alcohol blurred the lines from who I was and who I became!!
Contentment and liking who I actually was Sober was a big part of my Sobriety!!
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I am going to have to get a copy if this book because I am a huge introvert. I use alcohol as way for me to feel comfortable around people and the more I drink the more people like me.... Or so I thought. I will need to read this book because I feel it could help me to heal. Thank you for sharing!
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Great post, KDBnSLC!
I am definitely an introvert by nature and am comfortable with being this way normally, but interestingly, drinking rendered it worse for me, because it made me mentally unstable, insecure, and very isolated.
One misconception that often appears in the public is that introversion equals to shyness and social anxiety. This is not necessarily the case. Here is an article written by Susan Cain that examines various aspects of the subject for those that may not have read the "Quiet..." book:
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/15/op...anted=all&_r=0
In the context of recovery, I always like to think that online resources such as SR are particularly helpful to more introverted people who don't want to or don't feel comfortable with seeking help in face-to-face meetings, rehab, therapy, etc. We don't need anything but a computer and some quiet to have this fantastic source of information and support system in our corner!
I am definitely an introvert by nature and am comfortable with being this way normally, but interestingly, drinking rendered it worse for me, because it made me mentally unstable, insecure, and very isolated.
One misconception that often appears in the public is that introversion equals to shyness and social anxiety. This is not necessarily the case. Here is an article written by Susan Cain that examines various aspects of the subject for those that may not have read the "Quiet..." book:
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/15/op...anted=all&_r=0
In the context of recovery, I always like to think that online resources such as SR are particularly helpful to more introverted people who don't want to or don't feel comfortable with seeking help in face-to-face meetings, rehab, therapy, etc. We don't need anything but a computer and some quiet to have this fantastic source of information and support system in our corner!
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INTROVERTS UNITE!! TOGETHER!! SEPREATEY IN YOUR OWN HOMES!
I was told early on in recovery I was one. thought it was abad thing and thought I had to get out and be more social. mentally and emotionaly draining!!
then I learned theres nothing wrong with it and we have qualities others don't get to experience.
I was told early on in recovery I was one. thought it was abad thing and thought I had to get out and be more social. mentally and emotionaly draining!!
then I learned theres nothing wrong with it and we have qualities others don't get to experience.
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