HAS to be the final day 1
10/03/2014
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Posts: 78
HAS to be the final day 1
I am so tired of this disease and what it allows me to do. I love the sober me, but one bad decision, to pick up, can ruin all that.
I don't want to hear "relapse happens". It doesn't have to and many on here prove that.
I would appreciate constructive encouragement, suggestions etc.
Hope this doesn't sound witch. Just need help getting it together before I get to a point of no return.
I don't want to hear "relapse happens". It doesn't have to and many on here prove that.
I would appreciate constructive encouragement, suggestions etc.
Hope this doesn't sound witch. Just need help getting it together before I get to a point of no return.
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Ireland
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So what's the new plan? . . . for me carrying on in the same way simply lead to the same results, we got to change something to create a different outcome, more support? meetings? etc
Have you accepted that alcohol is no longer an option? I went round and round trying to convince myself that I could some day moderate, after a few weeks, I'd convince myself that 1 drink wouldn't do any harm, I finally had to surrender that this was my downfall and was never going to achieve long term Sobriety with this type of thinking!!
I needed to admit, I had no control over alcohol and so myself and alcohol had to part ways for good, I was now a non drinker from now on!!
Make that commitment and make this your final Day 1!!
Have you accepted that alcohol is no longer an option? I went round and round trying to convince myself that I could some day moderate, after a few weeks, I'd convince myself that 1 drink wouldn't do any harm, I finally had to surrender that this was my downfall and was never going to achieve long term Sobriety with this type of thinking!!
I needed to admit, I had no control over alcohol and so myself and alcohol had to part ways for good, I was now a non drinker from now on!!
Make that commitment and make this your final Day 1!!
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Ireland
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Yeap, I suppose it's through actions, so for example in my head for a long time I thought I'll not drink today and I'm committed to Sobriety, then a few weeks later would think I could maybe have a few drinks, I'm not feeling too bad, that really didn't indicate any shift in my thinking or commitment to completely surrender to my lack of control over alcohol, I thought I could, over and over again, I went round in circles for a long time!!
So the shift in my thinking came when those same thoughts inevitably still cropped up, but this time I had a plan in place to counteract them, reaching out for support, riding that craving, new activities, changing up the people I hung out with, a complete revolution of my lifestyle to make it happen, really grinding out the idea that myself and alcohol were finished, no more first drinks, I was done!!
So the shift in my thinking came when those same thoughts inevitably still cropped up, but this time I had a plan in place to counteract them, reaching out for support, riding that craving, new activities, changing up the people I hung out with, a complete revolution of my lifestyle to make it happen, really grinding out the idea that myself and alcohol were finished, no more first drinks, I was done!!
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Join Date: Apr 2007
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Two main things I had to do lastchance
find the right level of support, and use it; and change those things in my life that made it easy for me to drink - it might be lifestyle, it might be the way you approach problems or stress or boredom...
basically look at what you've been doing for your recovery so far - and think about what you could add to that?
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find the right level of support, and use it; and change those things in my life that made it easy for me to drink - it might be lifestyle, it might be the way you approach problems or stress or boredom...
basically look at what you've been doing for your recovery so far - and think about what you could add to that?
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You're right, relapse does not have to happen.
It sounds like you need to change your plan of action. What can you add that will help you to stay sober? Are you prepared to make the necessary changes in activities and people in your life?
It sounds like you need to change your plan of action. What can you add that will help you to stay sober? Are you prepared to make the necessary changes in activities and people in your life?
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: California
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Lastchance,
I logged in here for probably 3-4 hours a day during my first week. Sitting here and reading seemed to be the only thing that kept me from drinking. It also filled the time. I couldn't get a day one for over seven years even though promising myself I would stop every morning when I woke.
You sound like you want to be sober more than you want to drink. That's what it takes. I didn't reach that point til June 27th of this year and I haven't had a drink since. When you truly want it, you can do it. For me, if there was any doubt, I knew I would drink again and it was usually within 72 hours of swearing off of it.
Keep this site close and keep us updated on how you are doing.
I logged in here for probably 3-4 hours a day during my first week. Sitting here and reading seemed to be the only thing that kept me from drinking. It also filled the time. I couldn't get a day one for over seven years even though promising myself I would stop every morning when I woke.
You sound like you want to be sober more than you want to drink. That's what it takes. I didn't reach that point til June 27th of this year and I haven't had a drink since. When you truly want it, you can do it. For me, if there was any doubt, I knew I would drink again and it was usually within 72 hours of swearing off of it.
Keep this site close and keep us updated on how you are doing.
10/03/2014
Thread Starter
Join Date: Mar 2014
Posts: 78
Thank you for all the responses.
Nowsthetime. I love that. Relapse is not going to be a part of my RECOVERY.
I have never heard it put that way, but makes a ton of sense. A simple yet huge change of mindset. Thank you.
Nowsthetime. I love that. Relapse is not going to be a part of my RECOVERY.
I have never heard it put that way, but makes a ton of sense. A simple yet huge change of mindset. Thank you.
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