Party coming up
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Join Date: Jul 2014
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Party coming up
I have a family party coming up this weekend. We are going to our family cabin where I always used to drink a lot. All of my family drinks and will be there doing that. I don't get to see my family that often so I don't want to skip. I am afraid that this weekend will put a toll on my new sobriety. I am looking for some help on what to do?
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You are putting yourself in a tough position at one week sober. How about you announce to your family that you have quit drinking and to please support your decision by not pressuring you to drink. Also, tell them that if you become overwhelmed by thoughts of drinking, that you might have to disappear and go walking about until the urge passes.
It's that or suffer in silence.
It's that or suffer in silence.
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Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: london
Posts: 146
I just went to a wedding after 12 weeks sober and ruined it by going on a 5 day bender. If you feel mentally strong enough, that u wont drink then go have fun but if its to early and u cant handle it then dont go. For what its worth i wouldnt go, wait a few months until u are fully ready to enter these situations without the hell of deciding wether to drink or not. Listen to youre heart, i didnt and i messed up .
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Surrey, BC
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No person, place, event or situation will ever me more important than my sobriety. This is the motto I had to adopt when I got sober. And yes that even required not going to some family functions when I first quit drinking. My sobriety is more important than that. I don't HAVE to go anywhere if I don't want to.
I pretty well avoided any social situation when I first quit and to this day you won't find me at parties or bars.
Best thing to do like others have said is to make sure you have a fast exit if you need to leave ASAP.
I pretty well avoided any social situation when I first quit and to this day you won't find me at parties or bars.
Best thing to do like others have said is to make sure you have a fast exit if you need to leave ASAP.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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I didn't go to family things for a while.
Years on down the track no one thinks about the few get togethers I missed.
Recovery needs to be a priority. I think it makes sense to make decisions reflecting that?
D
Years on down the track no one thinks about the few get togethers I missed.
Recovery needs to be a priority. I think it makes sense to make decisions reflecting that?
D
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: West Tn
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I agree with Lady in BC and with Dee.
Anyone who loves you will be happy you are doing whatever it takes and going to any lengths to get and stay sober.
I wouldn't hand my sobriety to any friends or family for their safekeeping.
My sobriety is my responsibility and I don't care whom I offend in safeguarding it.
I had a distant cousin ask me to pour champagne into a punch bowl to make Mimosas a couple of years ago.
I told her that I am a recovering alcoholic and that I wasn't going to do it.
She sarcastically said that she wanted me to pour it - not drink it.
I told her that no means no and to forget it.
When it comes to me and alcohol, I make the rules - no one else.
And I don't need anyone's permission to do or refrain from doing something.
Anyone who loves you will be happy you are doing whatever it takes and going to any lengths to get and stay sober.
I wouldn't hand my sobriety to any friends or family for their safekeeping.
My sobriety is my responsibility and I don't care whom I offend in safeguarding it.
I had a distant cousin ask me to pour champagne into a punch bowl to make Mimosas a couple of years ago.
I told her that I am a recovering alcoholic and that I wasn't going to do it.
She sarcastically said that she wanted me to pour it - not drink it.
I told her that no means no and to forget it.
When it comes to me and alcohol, I make the rules - no one else.
And I don't need anyone's permission to do or refrain from doing something.
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Join Date: May 2014
Location: London, UK
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I relapsed at the weekend at a family gathering so I'd say make your excuses!
However, if that's not practical then I'd recommend three things:
1. Have a core group of sober people you can hang out with;
2. Have plenty of non-alcoholic yummy drinks ready;
3. Have a place to go if you feel like you're about to give in.
I would've have cracked if I had those three things, so I really recommend.
However, if that's not practical then I'd recommend three things:
1. Have a core group of sober people you can hang out with;
2. Have plenty of non-alcoholic yummy drinks ready;
3. Have a place to go if you feel like you're about to give in.
I would've have cracked if I had those three things, so I really recommend.
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Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: Colorado
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I agree. Let them know of your decision in quitting drinking. Ask them for their support. Have good non alcoholic drinks available. I did this for a camping trip. Worked great. NA beer, ibc root beer, Reeds ginger ale, ginger beer(na), seltzer water, cranberry juice, v8. Had whatever i felt like at any time. Made social time much easier.
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