You're never safe
Community Greeter
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 51,564
Welcome SocratesPlato - I'm so happy you found us & decided to join.
I'm sorry for the circumstances leading up to your relapse, and for the pain you've experienced. I hope telling your story and sharing your feelings here will help ease your burden a bit. I've fallen back on alcohol many times to numb myself against my feelings. It always backfired. As you said - we're never safe.
I know you're disappointed, but try not to be. You put a stop to it - you've reclaimed your life and now have 27 days sober. You'll be stronger and more determined than ever.
I'm sorry for the circumstances leading up to your relapse, and for the pain you've experienced. I hope telling your story and sharing your feelings here will help ease your burden a bit. I've fallen back on alcohol many times to numb myself against my feelings. It always backfired. As you said - we're never safe.
I know you're disappointed, but try not to be. You put a stop to it - you've reclaimed your life and now have 27 days sober. You'll be stronger and more determined than ever.
EndGame
Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: New York, NY
Posts: 4,677
Hi, SocratesPlato.
I was very sad reading your OP and what transpired with your wife, and then with you afterwards.
There's no set timeline for grieving. It's an extremely subjective process; many of us delay (unconsciously and otherwise) acknowledging or accepting the full extent of the loss (perhaps the most crucial part of any grieving process) until, on some level, we're "ready" to handle it. I've learned that being ready to "handle it" is largely an illusion, and I don't believe that we ever fully "get over" such traumatic losses.
I know what it is to lose someone near and dear to you so suddenly and so unexpectedly, so I'm grieving along with you.
I was very sad reading your OP and what transpired with your wife, and then with you afterwards.
There's no set timeline for grieving. It's an extremely subjective process; many of us delay (unconsciously and otherwise) acknowledging or accepting the full extent of the loss (perhaps the most crucial part of any grieving process) until, on some level, we're "ready" to handle it. I've learned that being ready to "handle it" is largely an illusion, and I don't believe that we ever fully "get over" such traumatic losses.
I know what it is to lose someone near and dear to you so suddenly and so unexpectedly, so I'm grieving along with you.
Member
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: UK
Posts: 2,937
Hi
Welcome to our family.
I think it was meant to be that you found us.
I'm really sorry for what has brought you here, but I am so glad that you found us.
I hope you stay and make yourself welcome.
Never feel like you are on your own when you have this forum 24/7.
There is always someone here.
I really wish you the best xx
Welcome to our family.
I think it was meant to be that you found us.
I'm really sorry for what has brought you here, but I am so glad that you found us.
I hope you stay and make yourself welcome.
Never feel like you are on your own when you have this forum 24/7.
There is always someone here.
I really wish you the best xx
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jul 2014
Posts: 10
Thank you all for your kind words and support. It means a lot. I will try to stop beating myself up about the relapse and concentrate on the business of staying sober. I have absolutely no desire to drink at the moment but my relapse has taught me that I'm not safe and must always be vigilant.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Engerland
Posts: 897
I would just like to add my support to that of others here.
And you are right about the need to always be vigilant.
Like you i have always found reaching out so difficult and still do at times.
But it can really be a life saver where this business of addiction is concerned.
Long may we both find the courage when we need to...
Be safe.
G
And you are right about the need to always be vigilant.
Like you i have always found reaching out so difficult and still do at times.
But it can really be a life saver where this business of addiction is concerned.
Long may we both find the courage when we need to...
Be safe.
G
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