sandrapoos

Really hope so cos at the moment I'm going mad

hayley86

Welcome Sandra, congrats on two weeks! The first few weeks are very tough but it gets easier. SR is a wonderful place for support, it's helped me a lot. Glad you've joined us.

DarkDays

Great on 2 weeks , like others have said it will get better .

Just deal with the day in hand and move forward , grind through these early weeks , good things await.

sandrapoos

Thank you all. Means so much knowing I have support here

SixSongs

Hi sandrapoos,
pls don't say just two weeks, it's a great start. Things will get better.

Stay strong.

HeadLump

Welcome from a very sunny Dorset, Sandra!

2 weeks is fabulous, especially considering what you're going through

This could transform life for you and for your children. Lean on us when you need to. We understand and are always here to provide support

Mountainmanbob

I see where many here on site are wanting to help you
this site has been a blessing for many

may I also suggest hitting a few AA meetings

and buying a AA Big Book
this book explains our condition in easy to understand terms

you will meet ones in AA face to face
who have Recovered from their addiction to alcohol
and no longer hang out with the liquid devil

also
many a drunk have crawled into a local church when down and out
and in short time find themselves sober

for there is One Mighty Healer


MountainmanBob

awholenewlife52

Keep strong, Sandra, we're right with you. (Another fellow Brit here, by the way )

I know I'm at the stage where I just could not live with drinking anymore, just can't do it. I'm also realising that drinking cannot solve any problem, it just makes things worse. I'm beginning to realise that everything alcohol appears to offer is just an illusion. That's a breakthrough I never had in previous attempts at giving up for good.

Well done you and keep going.

Sasha4

Hi Sandrapoos

Drinking makes nothing better.
I was 2 years drink free in Feb 2014, mostly with the help of SR.
I have a 4 year old so I have little free time for me to go to AA etc.
How old are your kids?

I'm on my own too and at times I am beyond lonely, especially when my little girl goes to bed.

However I would never go back to how things were.
2 weeks is great and in time it will become your new normal not to drink.
I never, ever thought that would happen to me, but it did. I could not imagine not drinking every night.

Be kind to yourself, do what you can to take your mind off drink.
Have a good book or magazines to read at night.
Don't sit in the same room you used to do your drinking in. I like going to bed early and reading on here. It might sound dull now, but for me dull is 150% better than the chaos drinking brings to your life.

I wish you the best xxxx

sandrapoos

My children are nearly 2 and nearly 5

Mountainmanbob

if you are alcoholic ?
the reading of the AA Big Book would answer this question

if so
the very best gift that you could ever give your children
would be a sober mother

this would also save you and your whole family
much sorrow later on in life

MM

ccam1973

So glad you have found SR sandra! You have a lot being thrown at you right now.

Think you all ready know drinking will only make things much worse. Two weeks is a huge accomplishment.

Stay strong sandra. We all share many similarities here at SR and have struggled or are struggling now to overcome our addictions.

You are among friends! Good luck

Thatdeliveryguy

Give up, never give up you're worth it, your children depend on you friend. I too am 34, and wasn't am not the best person. I promise you this you will grow an be stronger for not drinking. Need someone to talk with TDG is going to camp on this site for today, his sobriety relies on it. Good luck friend.

ReadyAtLast

I have a 4 year old and quit 20 months ago. I never want my child to see me with a drink in me.

MMbob is right- the best gift you can give your children is a sober mother

Hawkeye13

Two weeks is a great beginning.
The first month or two was the hardest for me.

I'm sorry you are dealing with parenting alone and quitting drinking at the same time.

I want to send you encouragement because I grew up in a single-parent home with an alcoholic mother and it was extremely tough.

I dreamed of my mother doing what you are doing now--quitting drinking.
It isn't easy--I'm a recovering alcoholic myself--so I've been on both sides of the issue.
But sobriety will make such a difference for you and your kids.

Don't give up and keep moving forward. It really will get better
and you will be able to be there for not only your kids but for yourself.

You are worth it.