walkbeformakrun

My wife and I, both drinking, would often become unpleasant with each other. When my wife would say something really mean and upsetting, I'd take that as my cue to get really hammered. This is what I was thinking:

I know she really HATES it when I get hammered. So now that she has said something so vile to me, I will show her! Now I'm going to go get really drunk! That will teach her not to talk to me like that ever again! Next time she thinks to say something like that to me she will remember that it causes me to get really drunk and she will hold her tongue.



When I stopped drinking and told her this we both had a good laugh about it. Never even crossed her mind that was what I was doing. Still now when she is mean and nasty (funny how life goes on unchanged) I still want to drink. The urge passes.

Anyone else have some stupid reason they used to have for drinking?

trachemys

"I'm awake" was usually enough for me.

LBrain

my ex-wife telling me not to drink was the same as telling me to drink. The more she said stop, the more I said go. I'll show her!

FreeOwl

is there a reason to drink that isn't kind of stupid when you boil it right down?

ccam1973

I'll second the "i'm awake" reason for drinking...

HockeyGuy

For myself, I guess I never really paid much attention to the "reasons" I would drink.. it was just kinda like I would drink no matter what was happening. It's like I never really wanted to spend too much time as my sober, true self.. I had to take a vacation from being exhausted by my own sober thoughts as often as possible. Apartment door closed and locked, one beer opened and one in the freezer and 10 more in the fridge, and then it's check out time.

Jsober

I did the same with my wife. That is funny to think about now. She wronged me so I'll go and hurt myself. Just insane. I drank for many other reasons; all on lies, stupid rationalizations and justifications.
I see why they say watch out for resentments. When I resent the thought of a drink still pops up- like that is really going to teach the other person if I get all drunk. Oh, the thinking of an alcoholic.

MIRecovery

I'm not dead yet

ProudDaddy

I've never used any one specific excuse. I could literally take any circumstance and "justify" drinking. The funny thing is I usually lied about going to have a drink and when I got caught and felt humiliated I would shout " I am a grown man and I don't need a reason to drink! If I want to have a drink then I am going to have a drink!" I can't wait until a day where I can look far behind me and know that it was only part of my past.

DopieDopeMan

I'm pretty sure I was looking for reasons to get upset and angry most of the time so I could give myself a reason to get hammered.

JD4010

My reasons were similar. I'd see how drunk I could become and get away with it. I resented my wife constantly yammering at me about drinking. I was pretty good at "acting sober" when I was loaded and felt a warped sense of pride for fooling my wife (and more unfortunately, my teenage daughter).

Now, I'm on my own. Got the bum's rush out the back door of my own house. Nobody cares if I drink or not, except me. And occasionally, a friend.

SonomaGal

I think my craziest reasons were: I'll feel less stressed and less depressed if I drink! Maybe the best one is if I drink, I will be able to figure this problem (whatever it was) better.

blackjay

I had a lot of reasons over the years, but the most common was "it isn't hurting anybody. " Of course, it was hurting ME, but I thought as long as nobody knew it wasn't a problem. My husband could usually tell I had drank the night before, even if he wasn't home to witness it, so I wasn't really getting away with anything.

PurpleKnight

I never really needed a reason, as long as there was alcohol and I wasn't at work, I was drinking!!

cincinnati

For me, I'm realizing that drinking meant I could be lazy and avoid responsibility. I'm quite ADD, so I see all the little tasks as one giant task that I'm afraid to tackle. The irony is that when I don't drink (which has been rare), I find I actually enjoy all those "mundane" tasks.

Wastinglife

I would often search for an excuse to drink. I was living with a girlfriend at the time and she was starting to realize that 12 tall cans beer every night isn't normal. I remember going to a funeral and when I got back with the booze I justified a night of drinking by saying I was a sad and grieving the loss. The funeral was for a friend's father who I had only met a few times. I was at the funeral out of respect to my friend but gave the impression I knew his dad very well so my girlfriend would let me drink.

Wastinglife

I was finally diagnosed with ADD while in rehab. Without the booze, I didn't get anything done. I needed it to clean and do the laundry. I am on ADD meds that replace the need and craving for alcohol.

ScottFromWI

I needed no "reason" to drink, I just drank. All. the. time.