This time feels different...
It feels so good to be sober.
I love your kitty pics. Keep sharing those.
Hey Raider
Keep up the good work. I stopped envying other folk's ability to drink when I accepted that I was an alcoholic. It has taken a while but nowadays I am indifferent to alcohol. I hope that viewpoint stays with me forever. I guess I was able to have a good time just being me without any "enhancements"
Keep up the good work. I stopped envying other folk's ability to drink when I accepted that I was an alcoholic. It has taken a while but nowadays I am indifferent to alcohol. I hope that viewpoint stays with me forever. I guess I was able to have a good time just being me without any "enhancements"
I feel the same way right now too - pretty happy and comfortable - but not complacent. I realize that some people can, and do, have a fun time while drinking, and I used to also, but not anymore. I am a different person when I drink now - incapable of having a safe, good time. I become lazy, reclusive, incapacitated, unappreciative and unlikable. I don't envy anyone I see having a few drinks because I know, and I hope I never forget, the damn misery is causes for my family and myself.
I have been to a few concerts the past couple weeks and I just watch the people that are drinking too much. It makes me appreciate being sober more because I see what it does to people and shows me what I was most likely like when drinking. It stopped being fun quite a while ago and I know it will never be fun again because relapsing showed me that I will just continue where I left off and always go further down than the previous time.
I have been to a few concerts the past couple weeks and I just watch the people that are drinking too much. It makes me appreciate being sober more because I see what it does to people and shows me what I was most likely like when drinking. It stopped being fun quite a while ago and I know it will never be fun again because relapsing showed me that I will just continue where I left off and always go further down than the previous time.
Left the bottle behind 4/16/2015
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Way to go! I'm so glad you're doing better. Eventually you will be able to have a nice time without alcohol. Last night I went to a party where a lot of people were heavy drinkers. I was the only person not drinking, and it was okay. I hung out with a friend of mine who is hilarious and sweet, drunk or sober. When I see her we just laugh and laugh. Sometimes I think that I might not be or have as much fun if I don't drink. That's not the case at all. We laughed and carried on, talking about all kinds of things--from dumb horror movies to our crazy dogs. I had a great time.
It is possible to enjoy life without alcohol. It just takes some getting used to.
xoxoxo
It is possible to enjoy life without alcohol. It just takes some getting used to.
xoxoxo
Left the bottle behind 4/16/2015
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: NC
Posts: 1,416
Are you sure he's having a great time? Maybe he is, maybe he isn't. I only know that my ex-SO only drank moderately but I could observe changes in her behavior after only one glass (she usually only had 2, max). She got that flushed look to her face and became louder and more obnoxious. I don't know if she considered that a good time but I sure didn't like being around her when she got that way.
Was so happy to come on here and read this! Congratulations! Glad to see you back to feeling great. Your kitty is so darn cute.
Hope this good feeling continues for you Raider and you are enjoying life sober. Hugs.
Hope this good feeling continues for you Raider and you are enjoying life sober. Hugs.
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Hey Raider,
Good job getting back on track. Focus on the now and on what you want to change/improve in the future and let go of the past and of the nostalgia. It's over, you have a new chapter now. Envy is a negative and potentially dangerous emotion, like shame, don't stay in it.
You also know now that some places and situations can be triggering and might lead you back to the past. Explore new activities in your new sober life!
I like to watch movies in the theater, it gets me out of the house
Good job getting back on track. Focus on the now and on what you want to change/improve in the future and let go of the past and of the nostalgia. It's over, you have a new chapter now. Envy is a negative and potentially dangerous emotion, like shame, don't stay in it.
You also know now that some places and situations can be triggering and might lead you back to the past. Explore new activities in your new sober life!
I like to watch movies in the theater, it gets me out of the house
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