Having trouble moving on from past.
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Having trouble moving on from past.
For the last few weeks, I have been having constant anxiety and insomnia over past drunken misdeeds. I am recently off Anti-depressants so I am sure that has something to do with it. However, I now am really only dealing with true emotions and I just feel so guilty and ashamed. I made a fool of myself so many times that I am paranoid my reputation is tarnished forever.
I just can't shut by brain off even for decent sleep. I know I can't change the past but I just can't stop ruminating about everything.
I just can't shut by brain off even for decent sleep. I know I can't change the past but I just can't stop ruminating about everything.
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Time heals all wounds. As you make the effort to begin doing the right thing now, and continue consistently, you will see that people will get used to the new you and gradually put aside memories of the past.
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I read something the other day that makes perfect sense.
It said...
"I don't think pain goes away. I think we make room for it. With time, love, forgiveness and healing, it eventually takes up less room. Not until then are we able to fill up that space with a sense of joy and peace in our heart and soul"
You are going to feel like crap until you can work though it. Once you start the space gets filled with positive thoughts, reactions, emotions and acceptance.
It takes time and it is difficult but it is the past and you can't change it anymore then you can predict tomorrow. Take on day at a time.
Live in the today, not the yesterday. That is hard, we have all made mistakes but they were just that, a mistake. Everybody, everywhere make them. It is how we move on from them that can make the difference. We can hold that pain and let it take up room or we can release it and leave some space for good.
It is really up to you what you wish to let take up space.
It said...
"I don't think pain goes away. I think we make room for it. With time, love, forgiveness and healing, it eventually takes up less room. Not until then are we able to fill up that space with a sense of joy and peace in our heart and soul"
You are going to feel like crap until you can work though it. Once you start the space gets filled with positive thoughts, reactions, emotions and acceptance.
It takes time and it is difficult but it is the past and you can't change it anymore then you can predict tomorrow. Take on day at a time.
Live in the today, not the yesterday. That is hard, we have all made mistakes but they were just that, a mistake. Everybody, everywhere make them. It is how we move on from them that can make the difference. We can hold that pain and let it take up room or we can release it and leave some space for good.
It is really up to you what you wish to let take up space.
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In time, with effort, you will build a new, sober self with a new, sober life--and new, sober people who don't have preconceptions about you.
It is possible that the people you have hurt may never forget your drunken behavior and put the past behind.
I know in AA one of the steps for when you're farther along in sobriety (when you've got some time under your belt) is to make amends to people insofar as you can without harming them further.
It is possible that the people you have hurt may never forget your drunken behavior and put the past behind.
I know in AA one of the steps for when you're farther along in sobriety (when you've got some time under your belt) is to make amends to people insofar as you can without harming them further.
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