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Most men would rather shock themselves than be alone with their thoughts:
Most men would rather shock themselves than be alone with their thoughts - The Washington Post
Seems to be a corollary that many of us abused drugs/alcohol rather than be alone with our thoughts. Or at least I did.
In the time I was in therapy, one of the things that stuck with me that I needed to learn to sit with myself. Turn off the radio on the drive home, maybe try meditation or contemplative prayer, try getting a massage. I get too wound up in the moment, in everything that needs to be done and have a hard time letting it go.
Most men would rather shock themselves than be alone with their thoughts - The Washington Post
Seems to be a corollary that many of us abused drugs/alcohol rather than be alone with our thoughts. Or at least I did.
In the time I was in therapy, one of the things that stuck with me that I needed to learn to sit with myself. Turn off the radio on the drive home, maybe try meditation or contemplative prayer, try getting a massage. I get too wound up in the moment, in everything that needs to be done and have a hard time letting it go.
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It is a huge life-skill I learned. My thoughts are like ocean waves, they come and they subside.
Thoughts occur randomly. Memories are triggered by seemingly unrelated things. It is my choice what to do with random thoughts. If they are unpleasant I choose to say the Serenity Prayer and make a decision whether to act or let them go.
If they are pleasant, I may let them stay around for a few minutes.
I learned a great exercise. I wrote down a memory I was struggling with on a piece of paper. On the back I put a picture of something I love, a beach or vacation scene, a child or a pet. I would look at and think about the bad thing for say, 20 seconds. Then flip the paper over and look at the pretty thing for two minutes. That was the end of the exercise.
It's an old Bible verse to (paraphrased) "think upon things that are lovely and true."
~Philippians 4:8
Whatever I spend time with, that is what I choose as my thought.
Thoughts occur randomly. Memories are triggered by seemingly unrelated things. It is my choice what to do with random thoughts. If they are unpleasant I choose to say the Serenity Prayer and make a decision whether to act or let them go.
If they are pleasant, I may let them stay around for a few minutes.
I learned a great exercise. I wrote down a memory I was struggling with on a piece of paper. On the back I put a picture of something I love, a beach or vacation scene, a child or a pet. I would look at and think about the bad thing for say, 20 seconds. Then flip the paper over and look at the pretty thing for two minutes. That was the end of the exercise.
It's an old Bible verse to (paraphrased) "think upon things that are lovely and true."
~Philippians 4:8
Whatever I spend time with, that is what I choose as my thought.
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