Rephrase the Question
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Rephrase the Question
Okay, since either I asked the question incorrectly or ... JFC already.
Little Johnny is an alcoholic who cannot control his drinking no matter what he tries.
Little Johnny is sent off to rehab to get clean and 'sober'.
Little Johnny comes home from rehab and is struggling with his desire for a drink. He can barely contain himself wanting a drink.
QUESTION: DO YOU THINK IT WOULD BE OKAY FOR A FAMILY MEMBER TO SIT THERE AND DRINK IN FRONT OF LITTLE JOHNNY?
Yes or No?
I'm not asking if you are comfortable having other people drink near you or whether al anon f'd up your brain. Or whether you think it is your problem to bare. Or anything else. Just a simple question.
Little Johnny is an alcoholic who cannot control his drinking no matter what he tries.
Little Johnny is sent off to rehab to get clean and 'sober'.
Little Johnny comes home from rehab and is struggling with his desire for a drink. He can barely contain himself wanting a drink.
QUESTION: DO YOU THINK IT WOULD BE OKAY FOR A FAMILY MEMBER TO SIT THERE AND DRINK IN FRONT OF LITTLE JOHNNY?
Yes or No?
I'm not asking if you are comfortable having other people drink near you or whether al anon f'd up your brain. Or whether you think it is your problem to bare. Or anything else. Just a simple question.
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Poor Brain. You're just having one of those days, huh? Awwwww. Hugs.
No, I would not think it is OK for a family member to sit and drink in front of little Johnny.
*JFC? Just effin' choose?
No, I would not think it is OK for a family member to sit and drink in front of little Johnny.
*JFC? Just effin' choose?
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Yeah, it's not the nicest things in the world for a relative to be drinking in front of Little Johnny, if Little Johnny is having so much trouble. That said, does Little Johnny have functioning feet?
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While I don't think it's a kind thing to do ( drinking in front of someone in early recovery ), I accept that it's a possibility that little Johnny might have to face. Johnny's brother, aunt or uncle might also be an alcoholic that hasn't been to rehab and cannot stop. Or Johnny's uncle might just be an inconsiderate person who will choose to drink in front of him even though it's not a responsible thing to do. Whether or not I think it's OK or not is really kind of irrelevant because Johnny can't control the actions of others. He can only control his reaction.
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Is it ok, as in a moral sense? Yes, I think it is ok. It's not "wrong." It's inconsiderate maybe, but that's life. It wouldn't be wrong for little Johnny to write off inconsiderate people in his life.
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Originally Posted by trachemys 
First rule of survey writing: If you aren't getting the answers you want, rewrite the question".
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Supportive? No. Okay? Maybe. One drink - could be okay. Many drinks - definitely not okay. But as another poster said - Little Johnny could use his feet to remove himself from the situation if it was not okay.
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI
While I don't think it's a kind thing to do ( drinking in front of someone in early recovery ), I accept that it's a possibility that little Johnny might have to face. Johnny's brother, aunt or uncle might also be an alcoholic that hasn't been to rehab and cannot stop. Or Johnny's uncle might just be an inconsiderate person who will choose to drink in front of him even though it's not a responsible thing to do. Whether or not I think it's OK or not is really kind of irrelevant because Johnny can't control the actions of others. He can only control his reaction.
I want to say NO. But that's not real life. I'm with Scott.
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I want to say no, it's not ok.
But here is the BUT (even though I know you said no buts) This is assuming the family members are kind and supportive of the struggle. A lot are not.
But here is the BUT (even though I know you said no buts) This is assuming the family members are kind and supportive of the struggle. A lot are not.
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