Hart1

.... has got up and gorn!

Hi. 7th day sober. And it's fine. Can't be bothered, TBH (sound like a bored teenager!).

Is it usual to feel tired, demotivated, uninspired when giving up alcohol? (this is the longest I've gone without in over 10 years or more).

Been thinking about it and maybe the reason I was so busy and motivated was that I was, essentially, trying to prove that I was functioning fine. As long as I was able to run a house, look after family, socialise, work, etc., etc., then my wine problem couldn't be... well... a problem. Now I've stopped, it's like I don't have to bother any more....

Anyone else had this experience?

Ta for reading.

ElleDee

Congrats on 7 days sober! That's an accomplishment!!!

But I know from personal experience that yes, feeling the way you do is normal. I did everything and managed to hold it all together while only drinking at night. Actually I think trying to function feeing tired or hungover from alcohol is just a bad roller coaster ride. From what I've read here they say that the energy comes back (I'm newly sober myself).

Keep coming back.

Thepatman

Can you clarify what managing to only drinking at night means?

FreeOwl

I can relate for sure....

went through periods of fatigue, slight depression, lack of "givash*t" for the first few months.

IT GETS BETTER!!

Hang in there.

CristinaN

Hi Hart. My experience was exactly the same as yours. I ran my home while raising three kids, volunteering and doing countless other things while drinking a bottle of wine or more every night. After I quit I had zero energy to do much of anything. So I just stopped doing and started listening to my body. I rested when I was tired and ate when I was hungry. I gave myself a ton of grace and now I'm at three weeks and slowly getting my energy back. I feel great so it does get better. . Hang in there and congrats!!!!!

Daretodream

So, the random "so tired you feel like you've been drugged" feeling is part of the recovery at first?

Hart1

Thanks for the responses.

ChristiaN - you sound like my twin! 3 kids, job, volunteering, social life, interests - the whole kit and caboodle... plus a bottle or two a night of wine!

Thepatman - I drank 1-2 bottles of wine per night, virtually every night for the past 13 years or so, with the,occasional or two nights off (usually because I had no money!). Of course would drink in the day if lunching with friends and family, etc.

PurpleKnight

My first few weeks, I didn't do a whole lot, except not drink, the body needs time to heal, don't expect to be taking over the world at the start of your journey Sober, give it time, relax, watch TV etc

But one day you will wake up and start to feel more energy, it will come!!

CristinaN

Well twin message me anytime if you're struggling or just want to say hi.

ForgetfulKevin

Yes, that's common. I certainly felt it.

Hevyn

Hi Hart. Glad you are here.

I definitely had those feelings. They all went away. We've beaten ourselves up badly and need time to heal. You will get there. Congrats on your 7 days.

Livingbetter

Hi Hart! Yes I feel the same way, can't wait to get drive going again.

EndGameNYC

Both denial and a desire to continue drinking unabated are tremendous motivators, but the results of our misguided efforts are always the same.

I needed to learn to replace my drinking life (to me, and obvious oxymoron) with a sober and meaningful life in order to be happy. Something for which I was completely unprepared and extremely unwilling to do, but the alternatives were simply too terrifying.

Dee74

I was very fatigued and demotivated for a while.
I'd put my body through a lot - it takes time to heal.

Watch that little voice that tells you were were functional.
Functional people don't need to rely on alcohol

D

DoubleDragons

Yes, I overcompensated a lot when I was drinking and yes, I was exhausted and demoralized and I felt very lazy in the first couple of months of sobriety. However, now at nine months sober I am so efficient I sometimes feel like I have time to kill. I am healthier, thinner and more energized than I have been in years.

C23

For me, i found myself waking up the next day after a binge and trying to do everything i possibly could around the house and for my wife and kids for one reason...guilt! I thought that since i was such a screw up the night before, maybe i could make up for it by becoming super dad/husband. Today i did a bunch of stuff around the house, but it was because i felt great, no hangover, and i had been putting it off for more than a month.

We have all been there!