zeppodog

Here I go again, starting day three after drinking too much for a couple days. Moderation lasts for me about two beers and then moderation goes out the window. Thankfully I didn't get too carried away, but my wife is pretty upset with me even though she wasn't with me. She's been sober for about 8 months and doesn't understand why I still get the urge to drink, well I wish I didn't . I had gone 6 months earlier this year. Well at least I'm not having withdrawals.

IOAA2

"Well at least I'm not having withdrawals."

YET.

BE WELL

KAD

Good you caught it early and put a stop to it. Moderation just won't work for us anymore. I have to repeat that to myself all the time.

geno198

I went through that cycle also. It is hard in the beginning to get over the urge, but at those very moments you have to choose not to give in. Do something else. Anything, switch up your routine. Choose not to. Good luck friend

jdooner

[QUOTE=zeppodog;4738212]Thankfully I didn't get too carried away/QUOTE]

Your mindset is all about giving you a hall pass to conitnue drinking. Look at your choice of words above.

I have never seen an alcoholic that can moderate. The amount of energy spent trying to fight this could power the World for quite some time it feels like.

For me when I accepted who I am, which also means who I will never be things became simpler. When things became simpler, I began to find contentment in this life.

I wish you the best but nothing changes if nothing changes and it look like you are setup and repeat my friend.

PurpleKnight

Yeah I had to accept that moderation was never going to work, that any period of abstinence somehow didn't fix or cure me, I hadn't changed in anyway no matter how long the period, the 1st drink would always lead to the same spiral of progression.

You can do this!!

biminiblue

I can see how this would be a problem for her.


I would not want to continue in a relationship with a drinker if I was fighting for my life, either.

Nuudawn

Is that quite right? Did she quit for you...or for herself?
If it's the latter, I'm thinking she understands the urge to drink.
She might be having trouble with any justifications you're throwing out there for doing so.

Do you want sobriety for you. That's the question.

Hawkeye13

Moderation didn't work for me either.
If she has been 8 months sober, she must not be trying to "moderate" right?

It just won't work if you have serious on-going issues with alcohol.
Facing that is hard, but it also brings peace.

ultradad

Yeap, never worked for me either!

ultradad

It took me getting a plan and going to AA! It also took me hitting rock bottom!

Cahabr

There is nothing good that comes from alcohol. That's awesome that you have a sober partner! Congrats on hitting 6 months, that is quite a feat. Hit it again but this time just keep the clock rolling.

zeppodog

I stayed sober for 6 months, my wife quit the same time. We both knew we drank too much and needed to quit. I was doing great when I avoid old friends, who are all heavy drinkers. But last week went to a couple social events without my wife and drank pop the first evening a couple beers the second day and the too many drinks for 2 days. I was ok to drive home the next day and really didn't feel shaky, just pissed at myself for thinking I could moderate, and also feeling like it's best to avoid my old friends who I miss. I just can't resist the temptation when it's right in front of me.

Hawkeye13

I totally understand that zeppodog--
Truth to tell I had to drop socializing with my alcoholic drinking buddys
because I decided my sobriety was more important.

They're still drinking and I'm earning an extra 20 grand a year with all
that former drinking time. I also don't have hangovers and feel great.
I no longer miss the lifestyle at all, and when I'm around a bunch of durnks
slurring their stories, I feel bored rather than missing it

Stoogy

Hi Zeppodog, try to take a positive from the situation rather than beat yourself up over it, you have learned a valuable lesson and truth be told it will make you stronger for the experience.
Good luck my friend.

Hevyn

Hi Zeppo.

In the end it just became easier to stop all together. It was exhausting trying to manage it and pretend I could be a social drinker. I was always angry and frustrated. It's such a relief to be truly free of it.

zeppodog

I know when I'm sober I don't want to be around drunks, I certainty don't want to be one. I hate to think I need my wife with me constantly like my guardian angel. I have to be able to stick with it when I'm by myself and facing temptations.

zeppodog

I realize it's easier to avoid the situations and triggers than it is to stop once I get going.

Coldfusion

My wife and I quit a year and a half ago. We started out with ninety AA meetings in ninety days--neither of us liked the idea at first. But it gave our sobriety a solid foundation. I still go to meetings, but she doesn't seem to need them.

KAD

Friends who drink, you can avoid. It will hurt and you'll miss them at times but if you can't avoid joining them in the drinking, then it's best to avoid them.

Now, my problem is I did all my drinking alone. Can't possibly avoid myself!