I want to WHINE!
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I want to WHINE!
But it wont change anything. What the **** do I do? I spent the last 5 years whining and trying to change people. They WONT. And it's ********. And I can't get away from them! So many people to LEGITIMATELY blame. I could go on and on. I have NO clue why I want a relationship so badly when women have been the starting point of every ******* problem I have.
I had to look at my priorities never.
I finally realised that I'd be no good to anyone as partner, husband or lover, until I sorted myself out.
I know that calls for patience, but I'm really glad I did it that way. I think my wife is glad too.
Think of the good things you got going on. You're sober and you're part of this community.
You're right I can't change people, but I can change my reactions to people - with a little work.
Keep posting here - you're headed in the right direction never
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I finally realised that I'd be no good to anyone as partner, husband or lover, until I sorted myself out.
I know that calls for patience, but I'm really glad I did it that way. I think my wife is glad too.
Think of the good things you got going on. You're sober and you're part of this community.
You're right I can't change people, but I can change my reactions to people - with a little work.
Keep posting here - you're headed in the right direction never
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I just feel like if everyone would just shut up and let me drink my beer, I wouldn't have most the problems I have right now. Like if my family wouldn't talk about it, and try to control it, and if the law would just remove all the DUIs, I'd be fine. It'd drink a six pack or less a night and be okay. I havent driven drunk since my last DUI five years ago.
Acceptance of others' foibles was the topic at a meeting I attended today. Figuring the balance between that and a positive self-image is a continuing challenge for me.
We have a place here for that: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-midnight.html
We have a place here for that: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-midnight.html
I just feel like if everyone would just shut up and let me drink my beer, I wouldn't have most the problems I have right now.
It was the drinking beer that was the problem tho.
you know that...right?
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I thought you had a lovely dry wit.
Now I'm thinking...not so much.
Why you think you need to change everyone? Why the heck is everyone else to blame?
What's your part in this? Do you have one?
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I found that I had to change my way of thinking when I quit drinking. I could not adapt my old way of thinking to sobriety.
A big part of changing my way of thinking involves spending time here at SoberRecovery. One thing I learned is that lives are lost to this disease daily, but I can always be grateful that I am still alive.
A big part of changing my way of thinking involves spending time here at SoberRecovery. One thing I learned is that lives are lost to this disease daily, but I can always be grateful that I am still alive.
I get that.
But the right time never comes man.
if you wait til you make the choice on your own you might have more than an ankle bracelet to deal with.
I wish I'd stopped 15 years before I did.
This could really be a blessing in disguise Never.
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But the right time never comes man.
if you wait til you make the choice on your own you might have more than an ankle bracelet to deal with.
I wish I'd stopped 15 years before I did.
This could really be a blessing in disguise Never.
D
"... I had no rights. Society can do anything it wants with me when I am drunk, and I can't lift a finger to stop it, for I forfeit my rights through the simple expedient of becoming a menace to myself and the people around me..."
Alcoholics Anonymous 4th Ed., AAWS copyright 2001, p. 449.
Alcoholics Anonymous 4th Ed., AAWS copyright 2001, p. 449.
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That's another thing. The positive returns look really ******* far away. I'm not going to save money with all the new costs, and I'm even more undatable than I was before. My license just got re suspended for 3 years. On and on.
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Maybe show 'em all by deciding YOU want to quit.
Nobody and no one can make you quit. It's a deeply personal choice...and you are the only one who can execute it really.
If you quit...and manage to stay quit...that's all on you friend.
You own it.
Completely.
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Ya..and the ankle bracelet is totally sexy?
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