Weasel1966

Needinghelp... I have been the one beaten.... You have a child. So that's number one.

I was with my partner for 18 years... He bashed my face in... I could easily have said it won't happen for 18 more... But it will...

I hear what people are telling you and they are not wrong.

But to feel the feeling of being hit by the one you love is absurdly astonishing. An out of body ...WTF...

But try as hard as it is at this moment to clear your head. And do follow the advice here. Make a call. Get some help.

KAD

He injured your foot and is insisting you drive yourself to the hospital?! There's a way I would deal with him man to man if I could. He's trying to cover his own ass and stay under the radar because he knows he's done wrong.

Needinghelp82

I am waiting in A&E, alone. Took a cab

PurpleKnight

Very pleased to here that Needinghelp82!!

Your foot needs treatment, if it's swollen or has broken bones then it needs to be looked at!!

Nuudawn

Bravo! Ohhhh...I'm so happy to read this. A whole lot of other folks here will be too.
Nice work NH.
Wait to be a hero in your own story : )

Nuudawn

Please be honest as to how it happened. Please.

ReadyAtLast

Well done for going to A&E. I'm so glad you have gone. I know it isn't easy but please tell them the truth and ask them to notify the police.

sugarbear1

very happy to know you went and are getting medical help

hugs and love to you

KissMyTiara

I understand you are reluctant to file a police report against your husband. But that doesn't mean you are pressing charges and having him arrested. That is completely different. Just file the report then it will be on record if something happens again. He doesn't even have to know if you don't want him to. Not recommending this, just know it is an alternative option.

Hawkeye13

I'm glad you're getting it looked at

Big hugs. I know this must be very shocking and scary.

Carlotta

I am really glad you are at the emergency room, please do yourself and your child a favor and tell them the truth, get some help.
I was also in a DV relationship and believe me, it does not get any better.
Here are some links about abuse which are posted in the friends and family forum, lots of helpful things:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...hat-abuse.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ng-abused.html

Dee74

I'm really sorry for this needinghelp.

I'm glad you got to the A&E. I can only reiterate what others have said - don't rationalise this away or sweep it under the carpet.

I did that with an abusive spouse.

I loved them so much I thought I must be at fault. I wasn't.
I didn't want to rock the boat so I put up with physical mental and emotional abuse.
I was too ashamed to seek help.

I sublimated my happiness and my self respect.

Please be smarter than me. you deserve it and so does your daughter.

D

aussieblue

Glad your getting some medical help. Sorry for what your going through.
Please take care.

Needinghelp82

Two bones in my foot are fractured. They won't do anything apart from leave it to heal but did ask how it happened. I said I wasn't sure

Carlotta

I stayed with my X after he hacked my furniture with a machete and even after he tried to strangle me. Sometimes the thought of escaping an abusive relationship is scarier than to live in one because our self esteem is so destroyed... reread your words, you did not want to waste the EMT's time (as if you were not worthy of medical attention )
I wonder how many times he hit you or abused you when you were in your cups and could not remember

Will you at least call the hotline that Opivotal (I think) shared and also read the stickies about abuse I posted?

Also, I would like you to be prepared:
Get a small prepaid debit card with a couple of hundred bucks on it to cover a cheap motel for a few nights and leave it with a set of car keys and yours and your daughter's IDs in a place which is easily accessible so when he flips out again all you have to do is grab the kid, grab that bag and bail ...

aussieblue

I will say it again please take care and listen to the advice being given here.

sugarbear1

so sorry you didn't feel comfortable telling the truth.

in my experience, abuse is more progressive than alcoholism.

hugs and love to you

Needinghelp82

I called the line posed earlier. At firs they wouldn't speak to me as he was in the house but had a chat later with them.

I just can't believe this happened. I love my husband, he has been great supporting me until this. I just don't know what to do from here...

jdooner

Sometimes when we don't fully understand how to love ourself we can confuse the love we think we have for others.

I am sorry you are in this situation. This is not your fault it is his. Abuse escalates very quickly, particularly when the abuser believes he can get away with it.

Be strong for your daughter and do the right thing...you know what that is.

ImperfectlyMe

Sometimes we aren't ready to speak up for ourselves. Often it seems not worth it or too scary. Build yourself up little by little. What happened today isn't ok and it's not ok to ever happen again. Start by educating yourself a little bit on what you may have been blind too for years. Many people in abusive relationships have no idea they're in one.
So much useful info here... thank you Seren
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html
Sending hugs and prayers to you and your daughter. Fight for your daughters mother!