Only time will tell
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Only time will tell
Just letting off a bit of steam without excessive details. If you are trying to help an alcoholic---a gently reminder. They are liars, very sneaky and want to drag you down with them. I'm not going. I'm tired of trying to help. I want to cry but that would just give satisfaction to the people who don't deserve it. I don't want sympathy, no empathy either. You know what? The hell with it. I'm staying sober....I'm strong and the hell if I'm going to get myself sick because somebody else can't get it through their thick head it's killing them. I am so glad I am out of that house and my son, two dogs, cat and hamster are with me! (had to show my happy and carefree self again 
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Hi. Unfortunately the only person that can get an alcoholic sober is themselves. This is tough as their thinking is usually not well developed and alcohol is usually controlling the mind and emotions.
It’s a fact that a successful 12 step call is when the person trying to help can leave sober. This said by old timers who have gone on many calls.
A thing that bothers me is I see a mirror reflection of me when talking to an active alcoholic and I don’t like that remember when.
At times we help people without knowing about it when speaking at the podium and at discussion meetings. It’s nice afterwards to have someone say to me “thank you, I needed to hear that.” Usually I have no idea what it was that was helpful.
BE WELL
It’s a fact that a successful 12 step call is when the person trying to help can leave sober. This said by old timers who have gone on many calls.
A thing that bothers me is I see a mirror reflection of me when talking to an active alcoholic and I don’t like that remember when.
At times we help people without knowing about it when speaking at the podium and at discussion meetings. It’s nice afterwards to have someone say to me “thank you, I needed to hear that.” Usually I have no idea what it was that was helpful.
BE WELL
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Originally Posted by hopeful4 
So glad you removed yourself and those you love from an obviously bad situation. Stay strong!
My now X had been a permanent fixture for the part 13 years. I could see myself falling into his routine, and I could not let that happen. He does not see what his drinking and taking heart medicine and blood pressure medicine all together is doing to him, and me too! I've picked him off the floor, I've washed blood from his head, I never got any sleep because everytime I heard a bump in the night I would jump up. Call his name because I thought he had fell down the stairs to the basement. Now I don't have to worry about stoves or ovens being left on. His family says that I'm the bad one. Don't tell me what to do until you have walked in my shoes. Hey, I'm not claiming to be perfect here---but I WILL NOT become what I have grown to hate.
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Genuinely happy to read that you are moving forward in your life, airwick.
Recovering alcoholics are some of the best, most honest, company I have ever kept in my life
Please stick around. We all have a lot to learn from each other.
Recovering alcoholics are some of the best, most honest, company I have ever kept in my life
Please stick around. We all have a lot to learn from each other.
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