Day 10
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Day 10
Double digits now 
I had an acquaintance (co-worker actually) approach me a few weeks ago, saying she needed to talk to me. I was shocked, because we have had our differences in the past and I truly thought she disliked me. I put that aside and sat down with her and listened while she broke down describing fears about medical issues. This led to further admissions of attempts to OD on sleeping pills (that might sound familiar to those of you who knew me back in November) and a discussion about her alcoholism. I admitted to this person that I barely know and kinda don't really like that I have problems just like hers. I think that conversation started me on the road back here, I looked at her and saw myself.
She approached me again today, in tears, wanting to talk. We discussed different issues (domestic violence in her home) but it came back to a discussion about alcoholism again. I told her I was going to a meeting tonight and offered to pick her up, but she did not respond ... no "yes', no "no" ... just nothing. I told her it was up to her and to let me know if she wanted to go. She didn't say anything for the rest of the day, so I just let it go. I know I can't push her, all I can do is offer support. I am so early in my own recovery, I am hardly one to offer advice.
I don't even know why I'm typing all this, except maybe I need to put it out there so it doesn't fester in my brain and feed that damn little monster. Throughout all this (today), the thought of drinking didn't enter my mind. Negative reinforcement maybe? I dunno ...
Anyways, day 10 in the bag ... onward to day 11!!
I had an acquaintance (co-worker actually) approach me a few weeks ago, saying she needed to talk to me. I was shocked, because we have had our differences in the past and I truly thought she disliked me. I put that aside and sat down with her and listened while she broke down describing fears about medical issues. This led to further admissions of attempts to OD on sleeping pills (that might sound familiar to those of you who knew me back in November) and a discussion about her alcoholism. I admitted to this person that I barely know and kinda don't really like that I have problems just like hers. I think that conversation started me on the road back here, I looked at her and saw myself.
She approached me again today, in tears, wanting to talk. We discussed different issues (domestic violence in her home) but it came back to a discussion about alcoholism again. I told her I was going to a meeting tonight and offered to pick her up, but she did not respond ... no "yes', no "no" ... just nothing. I told her it was up to her and to let me know if she wanted to go. She didn't say anything for the rest of the day, so I just let it go. I know I can't push her, all I can do is offer support. I am so early in my own recovery, I am hardly one to offer advice.
I don't even know why I'm typing all this, except maybe I need to put it out there so it doesn't fester in my brain and feed that damn little monster. Throughout all this (today), the thought of drinking didn't enter my mind. Negative reinforcement maybe? I dunno ...
Anyways, day 10 in the bag ... onward to day 11!!
Sobriety is Traditional
Join Date: Dec 2012
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Ten days is awesome! It's good to try to show others the path to sobriety, but don't be discouraged if you don't see immediate results. You may have already planted seeds of recovery.
Magsie
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
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Hiya hokey, firstly, congratulations on 10 days, woohoo.
It's good to write it down, I don't know, but it's sometime a therapy in itself seeing our thoughts in writing.
I am learning myself, that I don't have to be master of the universe, that I don't have to have a solution for everyone's problem and I realise they don't want me to they just want a friendly ear. But that's me.
Be well
It's good to write it down, I don't know, but it's sometime a therapy in itself seeing our thoughts in writing.
I am learning myself, that I don't have to be master of the universe, that I don't have to have a solution for everyone's problem and I realise they don't want me to they just want a friendly ear. But that's me.
Be well
Realising my life
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Dorset, England
Posts: 3,656
Day 10 is great and it's wonderful that you reached out to help - even more so as it's someone you didn't really like. You will have helped her enormously and, by doing so, helped yourself 
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