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Greetings! I am happy to join this forum and finally have a place to talk about some of the problems I'm having with alcohol and the damage being done in my family by my sister's heavy drinking. I want to stop drinking myself as I'm very unhappy with the idea of turning into my sister if I keep going. I'm looking forward to meeting new friends here and learning from the experiences of others.
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Welcome, and good for you for recognizing the path you might be on. I hope that your sister will seek support for herself, too. Have you considered AlAnon as a support for you and your family? Also, we have a Friends & Families forum on the board, too.
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Thank you for getting back to me ... I appreciate the welcome. Today has been a hideous day with my sister and I'm tired and sad. I know that I can't change her behaviour and she will never admit that she is drunk a lot of the time.
What I do know is that I drink too much and need to stop before I end up like her. I've slipped into some bad habits with alcohol when I'm tired, stressed, or lonely. I don't ever want to say to another person the things my sister said to me today.
What I do know is that I drink too much and need to stop before I end up like her. I've slipped into some bad habits with alcohol when I'm tired, stressed, or lonely. I don't ever want to say to another person the things my sister said to me today.
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Welcome Sophie. I'm happy you found SR - a safe place to talk about things where everyone understands. It's a huge relief to know we're not alone.
For me, I was unaware that my personality changed drastically when I drank. I became confrontational, even mean. That's not me at all. People would tell me things I said & I wouldn't believe them - I'd insist they misunderstood.
It's such a relief to be free of it, and always in control of my actions. We're glad you joined us.
For me, I was unaware that my personality changed drastically when I drank. I became confrontational, even mean. That's not me at all. People would tell me things I said & I wouldn't believe them - I'd insist they misunderstood.
It's such a relief to be free of it, and always in control of my actions. We're glad you joined us.
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Again, thank you for the welcome. I guess the thing I'm struggling with the most with respect to my sister is the following. Are the things she said to me today how she really feels about me? I had no idea that she was holding that level of venom toward me. Who was talking? Has she always wanted to say these things but kept it hidden or submerged? People have told me that it's the "booze" talking, but I don't think I understand precisely what that means.
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I hope you'll get the opportunity to talk calmly to her about it - when she's not under the influence. She may not even remember what she said, or why. I do know that I'd say things that were mean and completely untrue. I could never figure out where they came from.
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Welcome to SR. No matter where you post there will be people to listen and support you. Quitting drinking yourself is a good first step. A drinking person will not trust someone who is drinking too. As a sober person you may be able to handle it better. I would not believe anything coming from someone who is drunk. They have no clue what they are talking about. She probably won't remember it tomorrow. Good luck to you, and remember, we are all here for you, you are not alone.
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