A Date
 

So...I'm over six months sober.

And after all my whining I got chatting to this guy a couple of weeks ago when I was out with a few friends.


Anyway, he called me tonight and asked if I would like to meet up? I said a coffee would be very nice sometime as I don't drink alcohol. He asked why and I said I am training for a charity mountain climb next month (which is true, I am trying to raise money for a cancer charity...my uncle died of cancer last September). He said that's very impressive and asked if I was free this weekend.

Now I am kind of torn over what to do. I know the rule about no dating until after one year is up...but I would kind of like to go as he seems like an interesting person and well...I don't get to go out much these days...

So what should I do?

Go.

Go and enjoy your time out of the house. :) Congrats on over six months sober! :scoregood


I don't think it's a 'rule' as much as a 'suggestion'.

I say go.

I think the suggestion is more about not making any major life decisions in the first year. A date is just a date, go and have fun!

Go!

OMG GOOOOOOOOO!!!!


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Go Tetra, you deserve it

Go, and have fun! Ditto on what Flying4life said. Awesome on training for the charity climb.

Go, Tetra!

Hope, you'll enjoy your date)

Its not advised as you know, relationships can be very emotional and at6 months assuming you have been drinking for a while you may not be well equipped to handle them.

Have you not got anyone you can talk to about this in the real workd, i.e. Sponsor, counselor...someone sane?

I also say 'GO GIRL'!

Oh you are SO going to enjoy the company. What an adventure! Dating. sigh. Cannot wait to hear some details (if you wish, of course)?!

Go, Tetra! Go, Tetra! Go! Go!Go! :bigok:

I'm amazed at how many people are telling you to go for it without knowing you personally. It's pretty irresponsible!

Hi Tetra,

Meeting someone for coffee is long way from a relationship - at least we I live.

Meeting someone for coffee is something I did yesterday.
My 'date' was 79....

we're gonna take it slow yeahgr8 :D

Hope you have a good time Tetra :)
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Tetra

Its just a date not a marriage proposal ;) Go and have some fun !

I think it's a suggestion rather than a rule. It's just coffee - you can take this really slowly.

Whilst what you said is true about your charity climb I would be cautious as don't want him to get the impression that once you've done the climb you will start drinking again.

I've learned not to be afraid to say I don't drink. I don't need to go and don't go into detail or long stories. Most people take it at face value-it's no big deal. Those who think it is a big deal usually have their own drinking issues.

Enjoy the coffee and congrats on 6 months :)

By all means, if you're up to it, go!

It's a cup of coffee!! . . . I had a coffee yesterday with a friend, and as far as I know no engagement rings were involved!! :)

Who makes these rules? What rule are you talking about?
There is one rule that I try to live by. That is don't lie to people.

And volunteering that you don't drink alcohol in such a manner will only lead to more questions. The person did not ask you if you drink, he only asked you if you'd like to meet up.

Enjoy yourself. Keep it casual.