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Chicagoan 05-11-2014 08:16 PM

To Our Youth Especially
 
Hard to believe, but I was once your age.

Drinking was so cool! After a while it catches up with you and will destroy you.
Alcohol transformed me from a professional person into a bum.
It almost destroyed me and my marriage. There is no doubt that my
professional standing was destroyed, all had lost confidence in me.
I was pathetic.

Alcohol is like a marriage that is sweet at the beginning and then
in time, turns into total chaos.

Embrace the advice that that you read in this forum.
Please do not regress to the point that many of us have.
If you continue to indulge, you will, beyond a doubt.

A raging fire can start from a single match.

Raider 05-11-2014 09:20 PM

Ok I give.......how old are you? I may be older.

Chicagoan 05-11-2014 09:23 PM

65 years young, LOL!
Feel like I'm 80.

Croissant 05-11-2014 09:41 PM

I think there's so many myths about alcohol in society...and also how using alcohol itself can lie to you.

I rarely drank til my early 30s. I wish I'd never danced that dance. My mother was a violent alcoholic....I had a fear I'd turn into a monster like her. But I was a happy drinker it seemed. The one who has a great time, loves everyone, makes sure everyone gets home safely.

Then I lied to myself. Hated my partner for pointing out I may be now drinking too much...and that happy girl started to only make guest appearances. Screw him, how uptight. Guess we need to break up.

7 years drinking alone.

I found a photo of myself the other night. I'm smiling with friends in a bar, lovely, young and healthy. I want to scream at her she's got a wonderful life ahead, just don't drink, you are going to meet a wonderful person....don't risk it.

But I thought it just made me happy. I didn't see the murk it was going to shroud me in, that I would lose every part of who I was....where is the warning on the label for that?

Raider 05-11-2014 09:50 PM

Ok 55 here. It's just a number!

Chicagoan 05-11-2014 10:06 PM

I also should mention that I lost my young son
due to drug and alcohol abuse 3 years ago.
He moved to the UK and was a big party guy.
His liver shut down. He believed he was
invulnerable. He started abusing when he
was 16. He was able to conceal it. I suspected
it, but I was in denial. I was drinking heavily
myself at the time. I set a great example
for him. I have a lot of garbage to work on.

aussieblue 05-11-2014 10:21 PM

Sorry for your loss Chicagoan.

Dee74 05-11-2014 10:41 PM

I'm sorry too Chicagoan.

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Croissant 05-11-2014 10:44 PM

Chicagoan, I am so sorry to hear of something like that.

I know it's of little comfort, but there are many sober parents who can't save their children. You know the grip this disgusting thing has on us all.

No one could have stopped me once I put my mind to my relationship with alcohol.

Chicagoan 05-11-2014 11:49 PM

Thank you for your sincere empathy, my friends.
I got totally smashed for weeks after it happened.
When they returned him to the US, I quit drinking
a couple of days for his funeral, it was total anguish.
It is really something that you never get over.
He was extremely intelligent and could have had
a very successful future if he had not become
addicted.

When I was at the detox center, there were so
many kids in the adolescent section, it was sad.
But hopefully, many of them will recover and not take
the path that I took.

My Grandfather died an alcoholic, my father died an
alcoholic, my Son died an alcoholic and I am an
alcoholic. I believe that genetics does play a role
in this deadly disease.

Notimetoloose 05-12-2014 12:01 AM

I am so very sorry.


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