I told my parents
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I told my parents
Last night I called my mother from the hospital, where I was having my vitals taken for withdrawal symptoms. I talked briefly with a psychiatrist. They prescribed me with one pill to quiet my anxiety and gave me information on how to get support to quit.
Talking to my mother on the phone and then my father the next morning, I haven't cried that much in years. They fully support me, and said nothing negative or hurtful, like I was afraid that would happen. My roommates and their girlfriends (all four of them) came to pick me up from the hospital and took me home. The nerves are all but gone now, but I'm still very afraid of the temptation coming back. My roommates both drink a heavy amount, and will continue to do so. I've told them that they have to keep all of their booze in their rooms now, but that still means there will be booze in the house.
Has anyone had experience with how to stay sober when everyone around you drinks?
Talking to my mother on the phone and then my father the next morning, I haven't cried that much in years. They fully support me, and said nothing negative or hurtful, like I was afraid that would happen. My roommates and their girlfriends (all four of them) came to pick me up from the hospital and took me home. The nerves are all but gone now, but I'm still very afraid of the temptation coming back. My roommates both drink a heavy amount, and will continue to do so. I've told them that they have to keep all of their booze in their rooms now, but that still means there will be booze in the house.
Has anyone had experience with how to stay sober when everyone around you drinks?
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Hey upsides,
Good for you! Seriously, this is SO good for you. Even though it feels like so many things, lousy, included.
If you are in school right now and over the summer, I would suggest getting in touch with campus health. Gather every single resource you can right now. They should have really great local resources, suggestions, support. Write all of your contact info down on one single page and keep it with you all the time.
Look for a student sobriety group on campus. This will help with branching your overall support system.
You are a writer...so write a lot.
About the roommates: good start. Can you ask them to keep all gatherings/celebrations involving alcohol elsewhere for a while while you gather your support system?
Do you have a follow-up from the ER appt. scheduled with your primary doc?
The above is not meant to be medical advice. Just an initial response to your question "Has anyone had experience with how to stay sober when everyone around you drinks?"...seek out and accumulate every resource available to you.
Do not stop looking for support and do not become complacent. If you know who you can turn to at any given moment then it helps take care of a large portion of fear in my experience.
This forum is an amazing support!! Keep writing and posting
Good for you! Seriously, this is SO good for you. Even though it feels like so many things, lousy, included.
If you are in school right now and over the summer, I would suggest getting in touch with campus health. Gather every single resource you can right now. They should have really great local resources, suggestions, support. Write all of your contact info down on one single page and keep it with you all the time.
Look for a student sobriety group on campus. This will help with branching your overall support system.
You are a writer...so write a lot.
About the roommates: good start. Can you ask them to keep all gatherings/celebrations involving alcohol elsewhere for a while while you gather your support system?
Do you have a follow-up from the ER appt. scheduled with your primary doc?
The above is not meant to be medical advice. Just an initial response to your question "Has anyone had experience with how to stay sober when everyone around you drinks?"...seek out and accumulate every resource available to you.
Do not stop looking for support and do not become complacent. If you know who you can turn to at any given moment then it helps take care of a large portion of fear in my experience.
This forum is an amazing support!! Keep writing and posting
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Some great advice here upsides.
I had to change my life pretty much - if you can't do that completely, at least look at what you can change.
If some of the choices are hard, make your priority your recovery. You'll look back and you won't be sorry
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I had to change my life pretty much - if you can't do that completely, at least look at what you can change.
If some of the choices are hard, make your priority your recovery. You'll look back and you won't be sorry
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my lease is up in August and I'm leaving this city, so that'll be good for me I think. as far as living with my parents, they're in a different city than my job so that is not an option.
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If your roommates are truly friends, they will support you, which it sounds like they do. Take this as sign to change your life. I started drinking in college, and became a professional. I've been hooked ever since, and after 30 years of it, I'm done. Mornings are much clearer now. Day 6 tomorrow.
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I agree that getting away from the situation/booze at home is best. However, the mind is a powerful thing, stronger than we could ever imagine. I'm in month 6, and my wife still drinks rather heavily. There's wine at my house every night. There's been times when I've got up for a drink of water in the middle of the night and found a half empty bottle of wine on the counter. No one would know. I could slam it. But I have made the conscious decision beforehand that booze of any kind is no longer something that I put into my body. Period. Done. F-you wine, get outta my face. I do a lot of work to enforce the mentality that booze just no longer applies to me. It is death. I you must stay put till you move out, you CAN stay sober if you really want to.
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Originally Posted by malcolmsloan 
There's wine at my house every night. There's been times when I've got up for a drink of water in the middle of the night and found a half empty bottle of wine on the counter. No one would know. I could slam it. But I have made the conscious decision beforehand that booze of any kind is no longer something that I put into my body. Period. Done. F-you wine, get outta my face.
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