Sunflower92663

I wonder if I'm the only one that lies to there self constantly about the extent of my alcohol problem. I seem to have lost my morals and my relationship with God a lot of time. I hate myself when I drink but I still seek sympathy from my mom and sister. I tell them I have been sober for a very long time yet it's a lie. I think I tell them that so I might be considered somewhat normal. I'm not! I love to drink but it's positively destroying everything I know and love. I hate myself for this cycle I'm on. I wonder if anyone else feels this way?

Nonsensical

I used to, but I was able to break the cycle.

We usually lie because it's what we wish the truth was. Make your lies not lies by living the way you know you should.

Best of Luck on Your Journey!

Mountainmanbob

felt that way many times while drinking

self deception (lying to ourselves) and lying to others
comes along with the bottle for many or I should say most alcoholics

please -- break free
and be the sober person that you (deep inside) truly wish to be

there is much help for you available -- reach out

heath480

I lied and got to the stage where I believed my lies.

You are certainly not alone.

Since getting sober I have realised that self-honesty is essential to my staying that way.

I hope you make the decision to give sobriety a go.

eaglesa1a

Sunflower, one comment you made really has hit home for me recently. It has helped me to think of how the drinking has actually manifested itself at times in its immorality. When you start to think of how it affects your core values, you tend to take it even more seriously.

Lance40

Great post. My alcoholism never was a serious problem until I made a conscious return to core values that were taught to me by my parents when I was young. When I embraced those values then my drinking started to become bothersome to the point where it became a moral imperative for me to quit.

ElleDee

I've been in denial for years. But I'm trying to not be and to stay sober. We have all lied to ourselves, not just about the extent of our drinking. Keep coming here for support, I think it's a great place to get it.

Croissant

I think that is what it took for me, to some degree. I had the anguish of calling in sick one time too many. As I lay in bed, feeling physically ill with a hangover, I told myself I could not keep putting myself through this. The physical health concerns were enough, but the lying....the debating on whether texting or phoning the fake excuse in was easier...my moral compass was on a road to nowhere.

I went from the healthiest one in the office, with so much accrued annual leave...to eating through all my sick leave and then my annual leave.

aasharon90

I will never be my mom, dad, siblings,
friends or anyone else. I am who I am.
I am me. One person made up differently
from anyone else in the world. Just like
I learned that no 2 people are exactly alike.

I had to first learn how not to drink one
day at a time. Once I learned what tools
to use in recovery to how not to drink
by changing or removing people, places
and things that are associated with alcohol,
then I could take another step.

Each step in recovery is another building
stone in my foundation built strong and
solid to live my sober life upon for many
yrs. down the road. Building blocks.

Admitting I have a drinking problem with
an addiction to alcohol or any mind altering
drug is a good first step. Accepting this fact
knowing that my life had become totally
unmanageable with this addiction is another
good step I had to learn.

When I began learning everything there
is to know about my addiction and how
it affected my mind, body and soul and
use many useful, affective methods to
help me stay sober then I could begin
to clear away the clutter and damage I
caused in the past, like lieing, stealing,
unfaithfulness, etc.

When I lied I learned in recovery that it
was important to make amends to those
I lied to. That was something I didn't want
to do. I didn't and still don't like confrontation.
To face the person or persons I lied to.

So, in order to avoid having to make
amends, I had to learn how not to lie.
It takes practice, but it can be done.

I make sure that if I need to get out
of something that it is a good reason
so that it is not a lie.

Dee74

I think when you're doing something you're ashamed of, you lie to cover it up...then you feel ashamed over the lies so you lie more...

Being honest with people lifted a HUGE burden off me, sunflower.

But maybe it's best to get sober first? 'Spiritual Housekeeping' can wait....
Whats your plan to get sober?

D

least

I lied to myself and my kids when I was drinking. Now that I have nothing to cover up, I no longer have to lie.

Erratic

Ive lied about my drinking, family and work. so your not alone.

Im normally a very honest person and say how things is, but drink it has taken the brink of
where I will lie if I need to if im having a drink.

Many times I have thought I am going to be sacked from work or lose my family. The lie is how long can it go on? Both I can loose very soon, so im working on it.