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My husband is or was addicted to crack cocaine. He has been to treatment twice and has not completed the program either time. We no longer live in the same home. However, I have learned that he has started drinking again. Should this be of concern to me seeing that we were going to try and reconcile?
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Any addiction, no matter what type, will affect relationships without a doubt, addictions can be very selfish things to have, an addict ends up not focusing on much else other than where the next drink or high is going to come from.
As mentioned support for yourself may be a good idea, but until your husband deals with his addictions and becomes Sober, things are always going to be difficult!!
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As mentioned support for yourself may be a good idea, but until your husband deals with his addictions and becomes Sober, things are always going to be difficult!!
Welcome though to the Forum, as you can see, there's plenty of support!!
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I would see it as a big red flag. How can you reconcile if he's getting into another addiction? I also suggest AlAnon for support for yourself. 
We also have friends and family forums for those whose loved ones are addicted to substances or alcohol.
We also have friends and family forums for those whose loved ones are addicted to substances or alcohol.
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Join Date: Apr 2014
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It should certainly be of concern...as someone stated above, addictions cause people to be selfish and they begin to care only about where their next drink and/or high comes from...so I'd definitely say, even when it comes to loved ones, to never forget to take care of yourself as well(: there doesn't have to be any jumping the gun, but just stay cognizant of the situation/his behavior but above all else make sure you keep your well being on the front burner too
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Join Date: May 2014
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I think it is a big concern that he started drinking but not hopeless. I suggest taking care of yourself by going to a 12 step meeting and making friends with others in the same situation. Get in the middle of the herd.
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