self fulfilling prophecy?
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self fulfilling prophecy?
I am 44 days sober today and getting some things together in my life. I'm starting yoga which i hope to make a regular part of my life. I've gotten a sponser who i admire and hope we can be friends outside of our addiction/aa. I'm working on enjoying life in the moment because ,as someone said in aa this morning, the past is gone and the future's not here yet. So i feel really good today and i am scared to be happy. I feel like if i get too comfortable in my happiness something is bound to go wrong to remind me that I'm still the same person i was a month and a half ago, no matter how many positive changes happen in my life. So i guess my question is how do i become comfortable in my happiness? It's a foreign emotion to me.
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enjoy it while we can
Originally Posted by kellygurl1711 
So i guess my question is how do i become comfortable in my happiness?
we had better enjoy the good happy times while they are here
because sometimes bumps in the road quickly appear
but
we learn to handle all of those while sober
builds our character
reaffirming with time spent in sobriety
no matter what happens in my (our) life I (we) will not need a drink so as to cope
or maybe you are on what they call the pink cloud in AA
my thought on this
enjoy it while we can
MM
note
I have seen ones drink again due to hard times
and
I have seen ones drink again due to sweet happy times
best we always be on guard -- no matter what type of mood we are in
we need to look at weight scales -- the old double hanging type
on one side are our emotions and on the other side our thinking
we need to keep these in balance
not to let our emotions over ride our thinking
or to let our thinking over ride our emotions
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Live in the now. Yesterday is past and you cannot change it. Tomorrow isn't here yet, so worrying about what might happen is pointless. Enjoy today while it is happening. If you are happy, then be happy. I am happy for you! 
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i asked this same question around the same time of sobriety as you are.
for me i just decided for the time being to not become to complacent with my sobriety, knowing full well that i could relapse at a moments notice.
i feel like after a year or so of sobriety than i can start to kick back and relax a bit knowing that i'm probably going to be ok soberness wise.
but thats just for me, probably different for other people
for me i just decided for the time being to not become to complacent with my sobriety, knowing full well that i could relapse at a moments notice.
i feel like after a year or so of sobriety than i can start to kick back and relax a bit knowing that i'm probably going to be ok soberness wise.
but thats just for me, probably different for other people
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I'm only 5 days in but feeling kind of the same today. I'm feeling so happy this morning I am worried it will all come crashing down this afternoon when AV kicks in. But I am trying to be content with my happiness this morning and enjoy it, but stay vigilant also.
I have no idea if I am doing anything right! But I sure am trying!
Congrats on your 44 days!!
I have no idea if I am doing anything right! But I sure am trying!
Congrats on your 44 days!!
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I agree. How does anyone enjoy their happiness at the time it's happening when it can change at any moment? It's a question every human has to ask themselves.
I think it helps me to just remember that what happens to me whether good or bad for the most part is not a reflection of who I really am deep down. It's just moments in time. Enjoy the pleasant ones and know the not so pleasant ones come with lessons and will pass too.
I've found the less I argue with how life really operates and just go with the flow of it, the more peaceful I am. And peace and serenity and me being okay with who I am is really what I want. Happiness and sadness are just part of life. They are not who I am.
Great job on the 44 days! 44 days of getting to know the real you better! Know that you deserve that!!
I think it helps me to just remember that what happens to me whether good or bad for the most part is not a reflection of who I really am deep down. It's just moments in time. Enjoy the pleasant ones and know the not so pleasant ones come with lessons and will pass too.
I've found the less I argue with how life really operates and just go with the flow of it, the more peaceful I am. And peace and serenity and me being okay with who I am is really what I want. Happiness and sadness are just part of life. They are not who I am.
Great job on the 44 days! 44 days of getting to know the real you better! Know that you deserve that!!
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I think, as much as possible, it's good to try to live without expectations.
"A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle is an amazing guide to living in the moment and letting go of everything else.
"A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle is an amazing guide to living in the moment and letting go of everything else.
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It took me a while to trust my happiness and not be scared of it Kellygurl.
As long as you have support, and you use it, and you stay sober, you'll come to terms with being happy.
You'll learn, as I did, that you deserve it
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As long as you have support, and you use it, and you stay sober, you'll come to terms with being happy.
You'll learn, as I did, that you deserve it
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