Completely Unprepared
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Grand Rapids MI
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Completely Unprepared
My daughters cancer is better on one level and worse on another. I know drinking is not the solution but I am so tired of feeling so bad. The depression and anxiety are
overwhelming. The only thing I can compare it too is quiting drinking where each day is worse not better.
I try to live in the day but sometimes I feel so lost.
Have to get off this pity pot it is killing me. All I can do is to put us in God's hands
overwhelming. The only thing I can compare it too is quiting drinking where each day is worse not better.
I try to live in the day but sometimes I feel so lost.
Have to get off this pity pot it is killing me. All I can do is to put us in God's hands
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Join Date: May 2013
Location: North East, US
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MIR I'm so sorry that you are going through such a horrific experience. I can't even imagine being in your shoes. It's ok to have a pity party sometime. When my husband was battling for his life, I started to fall apart. A very kind nurse pulled me into their break room. She told me this give yourself 2 days to fall apart, and then it's game face no wallowing. She told me that if I fell apart in front of him he'd fall apart.
Being the support system to someone who is so sick is draining and a scary. But you're going to get through this and so is your daughter.
Allow yourself to feel and process when you are alone. Cry hard if you have to and don't stuff it. Talk to all us here. Pray get together with good friends. So thst when your with her you can be her rock.
We are all behind you and I have no doubt you will get through this sober!
Being the support system to someone who is so sick is draining and a scary. But you're going to get through this and so is your daughter.
Allow yourself to feel and process when you are alone. Cry hard if you have to and don't stuff it. Talk to all us here. Pray get together with good friends. So thst when your with her you can be her rock.
We are all behind you and I have no doubt you will get through this sober!
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Gatineau, QC, CA
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I don't think one can be prepared for such a life challenge.
I always admire your courage and your posts and courage in your sobriety inspire me.
I don't think I can say anything to remove the pain you are experiencing, we are here and praying for you and your daughter.
Blessings
I always admire your courage and your posts and courage in your sobriety inspire me.
I don't think I can say anything to remove the pain you are experiencing, we are here and praying for you and your daughter.
Blessings
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You could never be prepared to go through something as terrible as you are with your daughter.
She needs you and that's what you have to focus on.
Prayers for you, your daughter and your family.
She needs you and that's what you have to focus on.
Prayers for you, your daughter and your family.
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Join Date: Feb 2014
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MIR, you are going through something that no parent should have to experience. Feelings of frustration, sadness and anxiety are so natural and expected.
Stay strong, MIR. Lean on us; we are here for you.
Stay strong, MIR. Lean on us; we are here for you.
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Originally Posted by MIRecovery 
Be her rock? I'm lucky if I am warm jello 
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There are no words. As a parent, I can only imagine that your emotions are almost unbearable. I follow many of your posts and I can tell you that your strength and fortitude of mind always shines through. I am betting that you are stronger than you realize. Love and prayers.
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MIR,
This has to be the hardest thing ever. Just remember, your sober presence means more to her than you probably know. It has to be draining and nearly unbearable for you. You are a good mom. praying for you both!
This has to be the hardest thing ever. Just remember, your sober presence means more to her than you probably know. It has to be draining and nearly unbearable for you. You are a good mom. praying for you both!
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I'm glad you want to post about what's going on. I hope it helps in some small way to know we're all with you as you go through this. Prayers will continue for you, your daughter, and family. 
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