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im up in the the middle of the night man going through some kinda weird detox type thing....its like im gearing up for a 4 day event or something.....
i did never mean to uptown you or anna or anyone..im so sorry
i did never mean to uptown you or anna or anyone..im so sorry
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my brain is like operating on an ouch system....you folks dont seem to remember this kinda stuff....i guess...im up for the night...sweating bullets...you tell me to quit...i CANT
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Hey Hooped. It's 5:30 am here on the East Coast. I went to bed and you were struggling and I just got up and you are still here.
Wow. I am sorry things aren't good for you right now.
Something that helped me a lot and still does is reading other people's posts. We can tend to get very myopic when we are drinking. It sounds like you have turned inwards and the ruminating seemed to be hurting you.
Being on this thread at this point is sort of like being in your room with the door locked. Even if people want to get to you they can't. Things have to change right? How about taking a break from posting and reading other threads. There are a lot of people here who have been where you are…….and have made it to the other side.
I am one of them. When I first got sober I took all the help and advice I could get.
You sound beat, but going round in circles is going to keep you right where you are. If you are feeling intense read some of the journeys others have posted about and really try to understand the process.
It doesn't matter if you are in the boonies, people get sober all over the place.
Call the doctor
Cancel your bro-in-law's visit
Start reading about successful sobriety and how people got there.
I know you want help but you are pounding your head against the wall here. Don't buy into the helplessness, no one can do this for you.
You know the saying about doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. None of us got sober using words, we got sober because we changed our behaviors. Take a break from posting and do some reading, none of us learn anything when we are talking.
People here are very supportive but sometimes we can hurt more than we are helping. When we are talking to the unhealthy part of the brain we are giving it the attention it craves. Don't give it that power. You can do this.
Wow. I am sorry things aren't good for you right now.
Something that helped me a lot and still does is reading other people's posts. We can tend to get very myopic when we are drinking. It sounds like you have turned inwards and the ruminating seemed to be hurting you.
Being on this thread at this point is sort of like being in your room with the door locked. Even if people want to get to you they can't. Things have to change right? How about taking a break from posting and reading other threads. There are a lot of people here who have been where you are…….and have made it to the other side.
I am one of them. When I first got sober I took all the help and advice I could get.
You sound beat, but going round in circles is going to keep you right where you are. If you are feeling intense read some of the journeys others have posted about and really try to understand the process.
It doesn't matter if you are in the boonies, people get sober all over the place.
Call the doctor
Cancel your bro-in-law's visit
Start reading about successful sobriety and how people got there.
I know you want help but you are pounding your head against the wall here. Don't buy into the helplessness, no one can do this for you.
You know the saying about doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. None of us got sober using words, we got sober because we changed our behaviors. Take a break from posting and do some reading, none of us learn anything when we are talking.
People here are very supportive but sometimes we can hurt more than we are helping. When we are talking to the unhealthy part of the brain we are giving it the attention it craves. Don't give it that power. You can do this.
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if i could go to bed i would.....oh man....dont you people remember?
I've got an obligation to the other people in Newcomers.
You're not being very fair to them right now.
I have to draw the line somewhere, and I'm drawing it now.
It's time to shut down the thread and for you to log off.
Be honest. You're not looking for recovery - not tonight.
Please accept my decision as being in your best interest.
You're not painting yourself in a great light right now, my friend.
If you need medical help tonight call 911.
Come back tomorrow, sober and looking for solutions, and you'll get all the help you need..
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