Yay! Go me. :)
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Yay! Go me. :)
Today marks day 14 for me! I'm so proud of myself!!!
I just have to vent for a second.
I am fortunate that my parents are letting me live with them for the time being. BUT from the second they get home until they go to sleep they are drinking hard liquor. It is so hard for me to be around it. I just go straight to my room after work and stay there. I can't be selfish and ask them to stop drinking. I can't push recovery onto them. I know I just have to suck it up until I can afford to move out. I just hate living like this and seeing my parents continue to down spiral just sucks.
*thanks for listening*
PS
Can anyone recommend any online speakers or anything of that sort?
I just have to vent for a second.
I am fortunate that my parents are letting me live with them for the time being. BUT from the second they get home until they go to sleep they are drinking hard liquor. It is so hard for me to be around it. I just go straight to my room after work and stay there. I can't be selfish and ask them to stop drinking. I can't push recovery onto them. I know I just have to suck it up until I can afford to move out. I just hate living like this and seeing my parents continue to down spiral just sucks.
*thanks for listening*
PS
Can anyone recommend any online speakers or anything of that sort?
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Congrats on 14 Jess! Have you mentioned to them you have stopped drinking? If not, maybe that will encourage them to turn it down a notch with the boozing. However, unfortunately it may wind up just being something you have to deal with until you get your own place. If you can resist the urge to drink with seeing your parents drinking all the time, it can only make you stronger!! But I completely understand it aint makin it any easier! Best of luck!!
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is there any chance that instead of goin straight to your room after work you could go out and do something to occupy the time?
is there any chance that instead of goin straight to your room after work you could go out and do something to occupy the time?
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Tom That seems so simple and idk why I didn't think of it. I guess I've just gotten use to it. It's comfortable and relaxing for me sometimes but I could always go to more meetings. Or an evening walk. Thanks!
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congrats queenjess, 14 days,
I've been wanting to share this for some time. So why not now? Okay then.
Years ago I was dating a lady who liked her vodka (really liked it). When her folks came over they always brought a couple bottles of wine. And at five o'clock, not a second sooner, the cork would come out. Wine was always available for every occasion, beer and vodka...
Now her sister's brother was an "alcoholic" shhhhhh! it's supposed to be anonymous. But whenever they showed up for dinner. Nothing for nobody. It was an unwritten rule. When he was around nobody drank or even suggested it.
That's what annoys me sometimes hearing of others who are struggling that live with others who continue to drink with little or no respect for the A.
This is something that I have been thinking about almost every day when I hear others talk about how their "loved ones" continue to drink in front of them. Hell, I didn't even know this guy and I was all hush, hush about drinking. It was respect for someone else.
This is not aimed at you jess. Although I am sympathetic to your situation, I just felt like venting. I just can't understand why some people insist on drinking in front of a family member when they know about the issue.
I know I'm preaching to the choir but I just wanted to get it off my chest.
I've been wanting to share this for some time. So why not now? Okay then.
Years ago I was dating a lady who liked her vodka (really liked it). When her folks came over they always brought a couple bottles of wine. And at five o'clock, not a second sooner, the cork would come out. Wine was always available for every occasion, beer and vodka...
Now her sister's brother was an "alcoholic" shhhhhh! it's supposed to be anonymous. But whenever they showed up for dinner. Nothing for nobody. It was an unwritten rule. When he was around nobody drank or even suggested it.
That's what annoys me sometimes hearing of others who are struggling that live with others who continue to drink with little or no respect for the A.
This is something that I have been thinking about almost every day when I hear others talk about how their "loved ones" continue to drink in front of them. Hell, I didn't even know this guy and I was all hush, hush about drinking. It was respect for someone else.
This is not aimed at you jess. Although I am sympathetic to your situation, I just felt like venting. I just can't understand why some people insist on drinking in front of a family member when they know about the issue.
I know I'm preaching to the choir but I just wanted to get it off my chest.
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Thanks for that LBrain. You are right. It is a respect issue. I feel that they should at least hide the friggin bottle. I mean I know they have gotten the hint in the past because I refuse to wash the wine glasses when I do the dishes.
I KNOW my parents have become alcoholics (or maybe I'm just realizing it) but I can't tell them that. The disease is taking over their lives.
I KNOW my parents have become alcoholics (or maybe I'm just realizing it) but I can't tell them that. The disease is taking over their lives.
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Originally Posted by Lastqueenjess 
Tom That seems so simple and idk why I didn't think of it. I guess I've just gotten use to it. It's comfortable and relaxing for me sometimes but I could always go to more meetings. Or an evening walk. Thanks!
now that ya got yer mind thinkin, im sure you'll find all sorts of stuff you can do.
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Originally Posted by Lastqueenjess
Tom That seems so simple and idk why I didn't think of it. I guess I've just gotten use to it. It's comfortable and relaxing for me sometimes but I could always go to more meetings. Or an evening walk. Thanks!
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