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Originally Posted by SolitaryThinker 
YES!!! That's what I'm not doing, I don't cut myself any slack! I have been trying to put into words what me problem is and couldn't really get to it. I'm brutally hard on myself and everyone including my girlfriend tells me I am. I really don't give myself credit for much and always beat myself when I fail. It's really bad....I need to start cutting myself some slack...
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Originally Posted by OpioPhobe
ST - what about listening to music? Even when I couldn't focus on anything else I could always focus on music. Maybe try something upbeat. No matter how down I was, music would help some.
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Yes, ST, you should cut yourself some slack. I commend you , for reaching out tonight! You know what is good for you and you are going for it, but it is tough at certain stages.
Read my signature that I put on today. I found it yesterday, and I decided that I want to forgive myself and not look back. Not think of the negative things of the past, but look to the future and think positive. make a gratitude list. that really does help, even though it does not seem like it would, it does.
hang in there, you are doing it. don't lose the ground you have gained.
this can be done. you can do it. people do. wishing you the best, you sound like a great guy, and SR can be your family!
Read my signature that I put on today. I found it yesterday, and I decided that I want to forgive myself and not look back. Not think of the negative things of the past, but look to the future and think positive. make a gratitude list. that really does help, even though it does not seem like it would, it does.
hang in there, you are doing it. don't lose the ground you have gained.
this can be done. you can do it. people do. wishing you the best, you sound like a great guy, and SR can be your family!
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Originally Posted by SolitaryThinker
yea I need a therapist I'm having a hard time getting a decent one to work with my insurance. I have been off the books for several years so hve no actual proof of income
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Juts remember that these feelings will pass. These are just feelings, ride um out.
The consequences of drinking though could last a long time and you may not even make it back.
Way to go on 2 weeks!
The consequences of drinking though could last a long time and you may not even make it back.
Way to go on 2 weeks!
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Originally Posted by SolitaryThinker
I'm really trying, and not shutting anything down in my head at all. I'm just having a really really hard time. I wish I had more people in my life in general, or an actual parent to help me. This solo stuff is brutal, and I'm 28 but pretty much 16 still, with 28 year old bills and responsablities. Really struggling but I'm not gonna drink.
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Originally Posted by chicory
Yes, ST, you should cut yourself some slack. I commend you , for reaching out tonight! You know what is good for you and you are going for it, but it is tough at certain stages. Read my signature that I put on today. I found it yesterday, and I decided that I want to forgive myself and not look back. Not think of the negative things of the past, but look to the future and think positive. make a gratitude list. that really does help, even though it does not seem like it would, it does. hang in there, you are doing it. don't lose the ground you have gained. this can be done. you can do it. people do. wishing you the best, you sound like a great guy, and SR can be your family!
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I'm at day 23 and I've been having a lot of the same feelings--I've been so foggy and unproductive, it's frustrating. But everyone assures me it will get better soon and I feel like today that started to happen. Advice I got "for the first 30 days, just try not to get fired and don't worry about accomplishing anything else." That really helped me be a little less hard on myself. I will start doing more self care stuff like meditation, etc. but it's also ok to give it a month and wait until I feel better before I start.
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Originally Posted by deeker
SolitaryThinker there is a fun little thread here called the Lighter Side. Maybe you need to relax and laugh a little.
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Originally Posted by Kitkat331
I'm at day 23 and I've been having a lot of the same feelings--I've been so foggy and unproductive, it's frustrating. But everyone assures me it will get better soon and I feel like today that started to happen. Advice I got "for the first 30 days, just try not to get fired and don't worry about accomplishing anything else." That really helped me be a little less hard on myself. I will start doing more self care stuff like meditation, etc. but it's also ok to give it a month and wait until I feel better before I start.
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Originally Posted by Amazingglazier
Got that for years, but it's allout and no in,LOL!
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Yeah, I think give yourself a couple weeks to be lazy (as much as possible without causing big problems for yourself.) At least that's what I'm doing. Then after that you'll hopefully have your focus back & can make up for lost time.
I feel your pain tho--sobriety was supposed to make us feel MORE clearheaded, wasn't it??
I feel your pain tho--sobriety was supposed to make us feel MORE clearheaded, wasn't it??
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