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Old 04-17-2014, 12:31 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I'm a 29 year old female from the sunny Caribbean. I'm two weeks sober as of today.

I have a lot of trouble fitting in, as I'm naturally introverted. For years I used alcohol to overcome shyness and anxiety. It was fine at first. I enjoyed the popularity of being an "it" girl, but eventually the facade started crumbling and I had to drink more and more to keep up outward appearances. Things got worse when I was diagnosed with ADHD and depression. After a string of alcohol-related failures in my career, friendships and love, I've decided to quit drinking entirely.

I don't have any friends to confide in at the moment (my ex got them all after our recent breakup), so I joined SR to find a support system for myself. It hasn't been easy at all but I keep telling myself, "one day at a time." Hopefully one day I'll be one who can offer advice and inspiration to others on this forum!
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Old 04-17-2014, 12:37 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Welcome to SR!

You will have good support here, the folks are very nice.
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Old 04-17-2014, 12:41 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Welcome, SunshinePepper It's great to have you on board
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Old 04-17-2014, 12:42 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Welcome and continue your progress. One of the best pieces of advise I got was "keep coming." That turned out to be invaluable.

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WHAT I USED TO CALL BOREDOM I NOW CALL SERENITY.
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Old 04-17-2014, 12:47 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Welcome sunshinepepper, you will get plenty of support here.
Congrats on your decision and 2 weeks.
Is it possible to find an aa meeting where you live?

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Old 04-17-2014, 12:49 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Welcome to SR, sunshinepepper. And congrats on 2 sober weeks. Glad you found us. I have only been here for 2 months but it feels like home.
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Old 04-17-2014, 12:51 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Welcome, congrats on 2 weeks. You'll find lots of support and understanding here.
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Old 04-17-2014, 01:23 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I didn't know about this! Thanks so much for the link.
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Old 04-17-2014, 03:24 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Old 04-17-2014, 03:36 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Greetings sunshinepepper. You're among friends who care and understand.

I drank to calm my nerves and anxiety. In the end it only made things worse. I didn't mature the way I should have. Staying numb I avoided having the necessary feelings & emotions to grow. I wish I'd realized what I was doing to myself at 29 - it took me much longer. I'm glad you're here.
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Old 04-17-2014, 05:42 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Welcome sunshinepepper

I'm not as outgoing as I was when drinking - but this is the real me. It's no mistake that the friends I have now, who know the real me, are worth their weight in gold.

There's lots of support here - I'm glad you've found us

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Old 04-17-2014, 06:37 PM   #12 (permalink)
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I started drinking because I thought it helped me relax and made me more interesting. At the end of my run, I was an unreliable nervous wreck. Congratulations on a firm two weeks. Best of luck, as well.
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Welcome SunshinePepper - you'll find lots of love and support here from all different types of people that will teach you lots - have open ears, an open mind, and an open heart.
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Welcome sunshinepepper and congratulations on your decision to put down the drink.

I can relate as I too used booze to 'aid' my anxiety and shyness in social situations. A few years down the line both were way worse than before.

You will find lots of support here
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Hi and Welcome Sunshinepepper.
Well done on two weeks sober.
Lots of info and help here at SR xx
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Old 04-17-2014, 08:15 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Welcome SunshinePepper, hope you hang on for the ride on the sober train! Congrats! Stay Strong and Well ! Bobby
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Old 05-09-2014, 12:47 PM   #18 (permalink)
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Wow, thanks for the support everyone! I'm finding it a bit difficult at the moment so it was really helpful to read these kind words.
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Keep reading and posting, sunshinepepper. You don't need to fight this alone
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Welcome Sunshine! I'm exactly the same. I started drinking as a way to overcome my shyness and social anxiety until it all went too far. I've decided to tackle my anxieties without alcohol. I hope you find lots of support here.
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