TOPIC: What Phase Of Life Are You In?
 

The reason why I am asking is because there
are many folks in recovery at all different stages
of life and was curious as to where you are.

For example.....

There are children learning about addiction and recovery.

There are students, whether it be High School or College.

There are married folks, parents, single, divorced.

There are those disabled.

There are those that are professionals, whether it be
Lawyers, Doctors, Teachers, Bankers, Clergical, etc.

Then there are those in the retirement stage which
is where Im at and entering with my husband.

How are you living life in recovery at the stage
you are at right now? If anyone is in retirement
stage, when did you begin recovery. Before, during
or after you retired?

Yes me!! I'm retired!!! Started recovery after I retired. I don't know why I waited. My guess is everyone else was drinking, so I did also (not that they had to drag me to it). After retirement, without the responsibility of getting up and going to work, I quickly went out of control and I had the time to think about it. I'm still early so I still avoid drinking situations. I'm glad you're here!!!

I'm trying to remain rooted firmly in the....

RIGHT NOW

Stage of life.

:)

Thanks Raider. I'm glad ur here too..!!!! :c043:

I read your post on seeing your therapist
and was blessed with someone in recovery
to work with and help you. That is awesome
news to hear as you continue on journey
in retirement. Yeah..!!!! :)

The right now phase in life and recovery
is the best neutral place to be no matter
where we are in life. Keep it Simple FreeOwl..!!! :c014:

To stay on the subject. Middle life for myself, I am 39.

I always tough I wanted to live life sober before I hit 40.

Doing it now, I have a little year old son, I don't want to be a drunk dad.

Wait just a sec! If 39/40 is mid life, what the heck stage am I in.......

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Fuzz says Hi

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Anxiety, anxiousness is already being felt
between both my spouse and I as he has
2 days left to work.

I had the opportunity to quit work 2 yrs ago,
so ive had the house to myself, doing what
I like, such as gardening, watching recorded
programs that dont interest my husband.

Now that he will be home all the time now,
it will take some adjustments between the
2 of us.

All I can say is....I will be here, connected
like I have always been because I will need
your support if things get testy. :react

Apparently from the side works....

Hey Sharin, I retired three years before my H. I thought it was going to be difficult having him around. Turned out to be no problem.

Thepatman......I got sober when my 2 little
ones were about 3 and 6 and was glad to be
a positive role model in recovery for them
and a mom. Where else will our babies learn
about the dangers in the world than right here
with their parents.

Learn all you can about addiction and pass
on ur knowledge, wisdom, love and care to
him as he grows and be the best dad, father,
husband sober for yrs to come. :c014:

I thought 50yrs and beyond was middle age. :)

We have many youngens like urself here in SR. :)

Yikes! Can I pull my foot from my mouth now? LOL!

But raider, your age is of your heart, and your a sweetheart ;-)

:c009:Fuzz your a cutie..! :)

I'm an early 30's, single teacher living in Japan. Always thought that I would get sober when I married and started a family, but it has become ever more apparent that my alcohol habit is a major factor in keeping me from finding and maintaining a quality romantic relationship. It's a bit of a catch-22; "I can still drink because I dont yet have family respOnsibilities, but I'll never have a family life if I don't stop drinking..."

On a bit of a side note, I do hope to retire in about 10 years, so the extra cash from not drinking is definitely very important!!

Hard to admit but middle aged educator, mom, wife, sister, daughter and friend. I got sober for me. Besides a few tough days and a bit of brain fog, i feel good. I'm personally glad to be so busy. It keeps me more focused and gives me goals to work towards. I think whatever stage you are in you have to have something to focus on, a goal to attain. I'm sure in retirement you can create an endless list of things to do keep you busy, reward your with and to enjoy besides booze. Wishing you luck. You've come to a great and supportive place.

Midlife is going to be a long time for me! We are still in midlife, Raider!
;)

I am in the 13 years before retirement stage with no job stage and very little money stage
hoping someone will hire this over the hill woman for minimum wage over these younger folks
so she can support herself through this stage.

But hey I am clean and sober. Could be worse. ;)

There were a lot of consequences to my addiction. I am paying for them now.

Aasharon... Phase?

They come and go as when the moon turns.

They begin and end like a moment of my youth.

They last forever like the darkest of my days.

But they never seem new until I look back on the last.

Any way I look at it I teeter on the next!

Glad you are well!

Ken

I'm 24. Got sober 5 months ago and feel like I'm just starting to live my life now. Or rather, pick up where I left off 7 or 8 years ago.

I'm young, but I have lost a lot already and I know very well the destructive capabilities of addiction.

I am 29, a military wife with 3 beautiful babies 5,3, and 16 months. About to hit my dirty 30's, except I feel 40.
I am in "no idea what the heck happens next" phase as I enter into sobriety. Scared but excited for the future as I have never been sober my entire adult life (except while pregnant and breastfeeding......quitting was easiest then, makes me want to have more babies because as soon as I got pregnant, drinking wasn't even on my mind).