TOPIC: What Phase Of Life Are You In?
Member
Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: England
Posts: 424
31 married mum of one. Would like another but I need to get my drinking under control before even considering it!
Have a responsible job but plenty of time off (I'm only contracted for 39 weeks of the year). Hit a low point over the past few days so I've joined to show I'm serious about quitting drinking.
Have a responsible job but plenty of time off (I'm only contracted for 39 weeks of the year). Hit a low point over the past few days so I've joined to show I'm serious about quitting drinking.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,236
I was 30 yrs old when I entered recovery
via rehab thru family intervention. I too
a wife married about 8 yrs, 2 little ones,
3 and 6. I spent 28 day in rehab learning
about my addiction and its affects on not
only myself but those around me.
After rehab, my life continued on as a stay
at home mom and wife with recovery tools
and knowledge to help me every step of the
way.
While my son was in school, I went to noon
meetings taking my daughter with me. She
was content with her coloring books, reading
books, and dolls while I listened, absorbed,
learned how many others sitting in those rooms
lived their own lives before, during and after
entering recovery.
I returned home, applying many useful
suggestions passed on to me to insure I
was safe from picking up a drink.
I was away from my little family for those
28 days in rehab, and I was told if I returned
home id sure drink again. They wanted to send
me away to a halfway house for 6 weeks and I
didn't want that. I had to do whatever I needed
to do to remain sober and stay at home with
my family.
So I told myself, what is one hour sitting
in a meeting compared to living away from
my family for 6 week. My answer was, id
take that one hour a day anytime.
And I did. I hung on. Listened. Learned
from many who stayed sober for long
periods of time. Absorbed what I heard.
Then applied it to my everyday life.
One hour each day for a many day at
a time till all that I absorbed began to
sink in and make sense. 23 yrs. of all
that ive learned, absorbed and applied
continues to work in my life today to insure
I don't drink, I remain healthy, happy,
and honest in all areas of my life.
It doesn't just end here as my recovery/
journey continues each day passing on
all that was so freely passed on to me
over the yrs. to others struggling with
addiction themselves.
A mom. A wife. A 25yr. marriage ended.
Remarried 5 yrs now. Retirement. What's
next? Staying sober today.
via rehab thru family intervention. I too
a wife married about 8 yrs, 2 little ones,
3 and 6. I spent 28 day in rehab learning
about my addiction and its affects on not
only myself but those around me.
After rehab, my life continued on as a stay
at home mom and wife with recovery tools
and knowledge to help me every step of the
way.
While my son was in school, I went to noon
meetings taking my daughter with me. She
was content with her coloring books, reading
books, and dolls while I listened, absorbed,
learned how many others sitting in those rooms
lived their own lives before, during and after
entering recovery.
I returned home, applying many useful
suggestions passed on to me to insure I
was safe from picking up a drink.
I was away from my little family for those
28 days in rehab, and I was told if I returned
home id sure drink again. They wanted to send
me away to a halfway house for 6 weeks and I
didn't want that. I had to do whatever I needed
to do to remain sober and stay at home with
my family.
So I told myself, what is one hour sitting
in a meeting compared to living away from
my family for 6 week. My answer was, id
take that one hour a day anytime.
And I did. I hung on. Listened. Learned
from many who stayed sober for long
periods of time. Absorbed what I heard.
Then applied it to my everyday life.
One hour each day for a many day at
a time till all that I absorbed began to
sink in and make sense. 23 yrs. of all
that ive learned, absorbed and applied
continues to work in my life today to insure
I don't drink, I remain healthy, happy,
and honest in all areas of my life.
It doesn't just end here as my recovery/
journey continues each day passing on
all that was so freely passed on to me
over the yrs. to others struggling with
addiction themselves.
A mom. A wife. A 25yr. marriage ended.
Remarried 5 yrs now. Retirement. What's
next? Staying sober today.
No quitting on yer quit eh!
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Alberta, Canada
Posts: 3,870
57 year old father of 4 grown children and husband to my second wife who is undoubtedly the best thing that ever happened to me. Have my own small, but successful construction business and thinking about retirement, however, the youngest daughter thinks that being a "professional student" is a great career choice lol, so until she changes careers, I owe, I owe, so it's off to work I go..
Member
Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: California
Posts: 228
This is really fascinating to see where everyone is at. It seems being isolated is a major risk factor for alcoholism, so people who are stay-at-home parents and retired are highly at-risk people.
I was an alcoholic when I was in my early twenties and started my first recovery at 25. That didn't take, but I had my first child at 26 and didn't drink for that pregnancy. I started drinking a bit after she was born, but not too much.
When I was home with 2 kids, things started getting out of control again.
Now I'm 35. My kids are 9 and 6 and I'm in grad school, hoping to start a new career as a high school teacher. I know I won't be able to do this unless I get sober for real. There's no way. The school day starts at 7:45 and teaching is HARD!
I was an alcoholic when I was in my early twenties and started my first recovery at 25. That didn't take, but I had my first child at 26 and didn't drink for that pregnancy. I started drinking a bit after she was born, but not too much.
When I was home with 2 kids, things started getting out of control again.
Now I'm 35. My kids are 9 and 6 and I'm in grad school, hoping to start a new career as a high school teacher. I know I won't be able to do this unless I get sober for real. There's no way. The school day starts at 7:45 and teaching is HARD!
Member
Join Date: Apr 2014
Posts: 92
Late to this party but great thread...
38 divorced mom of one young child
Demanding professional job that is a huge trigger for me but I'm working through it. Possibly a career change is necessary but my ego gets in the way.
Focusing on fitness in addition to sobriety.
Want to focus on pampering myself rather than treating my body like trash.
38 divorced mom of one young child
Demanding professional job that is a huge trigger for me but I'm working through it. Possibly a career change is necessary but my ego gets in the way.
Focusing on fitness in addition to sobriety.
Want to focus on pampering myself rather than treating my body like trash.
Member
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Ireland
Posts: 25,826
Single, no children, work full time!! . . . I turned 30 yrs old last year and knew something had to change.
The thing is, when you have no responsibilities like kids/family etc it's very easy to convince yourself, "why should I care?", I used to think "well if I died today, it wouldn't really matter" . . . I still have those thoughts now and again, as in what's really the point of getting up each morning, going to work, coming home and repeating that pattern of life.
However now Sober there is more hope, sure my life doesn't seem like it has much in it at the moment, but Sober I can re write how the story ends according to my choosing, compared to wasting away inside a bottle!!
The thing is, when you have no responsibilities like kids/family etc it's very easy to convince yourself, "why should I care?", I used to think "well if I died today, it wouldn't really matter" . . . I still have those thoughts now and again, as in what's really the point of getting up each morning, going to work, coming home and repeating that pattern of life.
However now Sober there is more hope, sure my life doesn't seem like it has much in it at the moment, but Sober I can re write how the story ends according to my choosing, compared to wasting away inside a bottle!!
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,236
You're never too late for a good SR topic
party.
I've enjoyed reading each members post
sharing about where they are in life and
what is important to each at their stage.
Wanting to get healthy in all areas of
each ones lives, family, work, careers,
retirement is very important.
Whatever it takes to remain sober or
clean with the fellowship of wonderful,
caring folks in SR..!!!
party.
I've enjoyed reading each members post
sharing about where they are in life and
what is important to each at their stage.
Wanting to get healthy in all areas of
each ones lives, family, work, careers,
retirement is very important.
Whatever it takes to remain sober or
clean with the fellowship of wonderful,
caring folks in SR..!!!
Member
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 1,534
Married, 46 years old, 4 kids ages 17, 13, 10, and 5, and an 85 year old dad to help care for too. I finally feel alive again. I found myself after almost 30 years of drinking. So glad to be here among all these amazing folks!
I am beginning to realize what my passions are after so many years of thinking I didn't have any interests other than drinking. That has been one of the coolest gifts of sobriety; realizing I have a light inside!
I am beginning to realize what my passions are after so many years of thinking I didn't have any interests other than drinking. That has been one of the coolest gifts of sobriety; realizing I have a light inside!
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,236
Retirement phase in recovery has begun. 
At 30 yrs old, married with 2 little ones I entered
recovery. It took staying in rehab for 28 days for
the fog to clear out of my head to receive proper
knowledge and tools of a recovery program to
live by in that stage of life.
The first stages of life as a childhood was
tramatic for me having gone thru childhood
abuse at the hands of a sick parent. The
beginning stages that would define who I
was to be in later life.
The affects of that time in my life was to
soon be numbed by alcohol and block out
the horrors of that abuse. Eventually
alcohol would become a normal part of
my everyday life and marriage until things
in life began to not go so well.
In rehab I learned how alcohol controlled
my every action, thought, behavior within
my latter teenage yrs thru my 20's all the
way to 30 yrs old.
When my recovery began at the age 30
I was still an at home mom, unhappy in
my marriage and relocating to Texas away
from my hometown which also made me
extremely unhappy and lonely.
Still, with a recovery program into play
and a major part of my life, I plowed,
clawed every step of the way thru those
married yrs getting kids graduated from
both high school and eventually college
with no addiction for them.
Then, I was granted a reprieve and miracle
when my HP allowed me to return to my
hometown on a job ticket and to end my
unhappy and dishonest marriage of 25 yrs.
Another stage of life safely conquered sober.
2006 im in my late 40's knocking on 50,
living single in my apt., working and going
to meetings staying deeply connected to
my recovery program.
The next 5 or so yrs, I would meet my
now husband who was placed on my
path to marry and become stable in
life and anchored on my recovery foundation.
Today is a new stage in life for both
my husband and I as we are both
officially retired together. Now, with
a new stage in life we will both be
facing and experiencing new challenges
in life, health, recovery, faith and whatever
life throws at us.
We will be living life each day at a time,
enjoying a new freedom, experiencing
new challenges and staying within our
means, relax, enjoy, be patient, kind,
caring, supportive with each other and
leave the rest to the Man upstairs to
protect and guide us along our way thru
these new yrs. in retirement and recovery.
Following a simple yet effective formula
of recovery each day we stick to will
and can guarantee us not to drink today
and for yrs ahead of us.
It can be the same for you too.
At 30 yrs old, married with 2 little ones I entered
recovery. It took staying in rehab for 28 days for
the fog to clear out of my head to receive proper
knowledge and tools of a recovery program to
live by in that stage of life.
The first stages of life as a childhood was
tramatic for me having gone thru childhood
abuse at the hands of a sick parent. The
beginning stages that would define who I
was to be in later life.
The affects of that time in my life was to
soon be numbed by alcohol and block out
the horrors of that abuse. Eventually
alcohol would become a normal part of
my everyday life and marriage until things
in life began to not go so well.
In rehab I learned how alcohol controlled
my every action, thought, behavior within
my latter teenage yrs thru my 20's all the
way to 30 yrs old.
When my recovery began at the age 30
I was still an at home mom, unhappy in
my marriage and relocating to Texas away
from my hometown which also made me
extremely unhappy and lonely.
Still, with a recovery program into play
and a major part of my life, I plowed,
clawed every step of the way thru those
married yrs getting kids graduated from
both high school and eventually college
with no addiction for them.
Then, I was granted a reprieve and miracle
when my HP allowed me to return to my
hometown on a job ticket and to end my
unhappy and dishonest marriage of 25 yrs.
Another stage of life safely conquered sober.
2006 im in my late 40's knocking on 50,
living single in my apt., working and going
to meetings staying deeply connected to
my recovery program.
The next 5 or so yrs, I would meet my
now husband who was placed on my
path to marry and become stable in
life and anchored on my recovery foundation.
Today is a new stage in life for both
my husband and I as we are both
officially retired together. Now, with
a new stage in life we will both be
facing and experiencing new challenges
in life, health, recovery, faith and whatever
life throws at us.
We will be living life each day at a time,
enjoying a new freedom, experiencing
new challenges and staying within our
means, relax, enjoy, be patient, kind,
caring, supportive with each other and
leave the rest to the Man upstairs to
protect and guide us along our way thru
these new yrs. in retirement and recovery.
Following a simple yet effective formula
of recovery each day we stick to will
and can guarantee us not to drink today
and for yrs ahead of us.
It can be the same for you too.
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