TOPIC: What Phase Of Life Are You In?
I just turned 39. I have never settled down, spent most of my late 20's and 30's drinking and traveling to the far corners of the world. Broke up with the woman who I thought would be my wife 2 years ago. I'm now 1.5 years sober, and recently changed careers. It's always been a challenge or me to stay put in one place. But a part of me is looking for a place to call "home" for a while. In short: I'm all over the place. But being all over the place in a sober state of mind has made it much easier to make decisions.
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I'm a 47 year old married mother and executive. I have two teenage children. This is day 3 sober for me. Over the last ten years I've tried and failed so many times. I don't want my children to leave for college and never remember what their mom was like sober. They are great kids and my husband is a wonderful support. I made it through today. I guess for now that's what counts!
I am 43 and a mother of four. I am happily married to my college sweetheart. My eldest son heads to college in the fall. My youngest child is ten. I have been sober a little over six months. I read with increasing life expectancy, we all get what is considered a second adulthood. Having been mostly a stay-at-home mom for the last 18 years, I am eager for a new vocation. I am excited to enter into this new phase of my life sober, healthy, alive.
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37 married with 11 yr old boy and 7 year old girl. Hairstylist. Met my husband in a bar over a drink, almost lost him over a drink. I am trying, really trying this time. 11 days in. I came to realize i was an alcoholic like 10 years ago. Today I am actively doing something about it.
Wow! 39 is middle life! I'm in old age then. I didn't get sober until my late 40s...am 50 now.
I'll be 49 this year and next year I will be half a century .
I should be retired, but I haven't won the lottery yet so that won't happen until I do hahaha.
Where I am in my life right now living with my daughter and her family and just living a very simple life. Right now that is working for me and I'm content.
I should be retired, but I haven't won the lottery yet so that won't happen until I do hahaha.
Where I am in my life right now living with my daughter and her family and just living a very simple life. Right now that is working for me and I'm content.
31 M love long walks on the beach lol
I am married with a 4 year old and a baby boy due this month. Time to get healthy and become a role model for my children and stop lying to myself. Life doesn't have to be full of anxiety and hang overs. I am realizing I do need to drink every night to live. Either you control your demons or they control you. Finally getting some clarity in life.
I am married with a 4 year old and a baby boy due this month. Time to get healthy and become a role model for my children and stop lying to myself. Life doesn't have to be full of anxiety and hang overs. I am realizing I do need to drink every night to live. Either you control your demons or they control you. Finally getting some clarity in life.
I agree. I guess when I was 39 I was thinking it was the beginning of midlife at that time.... I don't think that way now! To be fair, I do feel younger now than I did in my last few years of drinking...
I am retired. My drinking escalated when I retired. I think I felt isolated no longer working. On top of that, we moved the first year of my retirement. I was lonely and turned into one of those senior citizens with an alcohol problem.
42. 3 kids. Work, marriage, dogs, family, life. I think I'm in the Blur Stage. People tell me it will slow down some day and I'll miss all of this chaos, and sometimes I even believe them. Life is a tapestry of moments, little pauses in the daily madness, freeze frames where I know I'm in my heart I'm in the right place. Those moments were few and far between before the last hundred days, but they are starting to come more often now.
I think middle age is about 5 years ahead , whatever age you are …
I'm sure i'm still a child in recovery , i'm still learning and i know nothing . I used to think i knew stuff that was important , nowadays attitude and learning to be my own firm and loving adult seems more relevant .
An ideal retirement project is to build a summer house/ sheltered extension in the garden if you have one , for more room to pursue ones hobbies . or a meditation or hobby room or a "den" .
Sharon you have 22 years of dealing with lifes' changes and managing to keep on the right path . I'm sure you'll be able to deal with these changes and continue to live in sober glory ODAAT .
Keep on
Bestwishes, m
I'm sure i'm still a child in recovery , i'm still learning and i know nothing . I used to think i knew stuff that was important , nowadays attitude and learning to be my own firm and loving adult seems more relevant .
An ideal retirement project is to build a summer house/ sheltered extension in the garden if you have one , for more room to pursue ones hobbies . or a meditation or hobby room or a "den" .
Sharon you have 22 years of dealing with lifes' changes and managing to keep on the right path . I'm sure you'll be able to deal with these changes and continue to live in sober glory ODAAT .
Keep on
Bestwishes, m
Sober Recovery RULES...!!!! and
so does this little cutie as he dances towards
his favorite holiday coming soon. Easter
Each one of you all at different stages of
life, with a single purpose, learning to stay
sober or clean with the help of others traveling
the same road of recovery supporting each
other with care, understanding, willingness,
honesty, openmindedness, love, trust, forgiveness,
to reach a happy destiny in life.
There isn't a thing we have to go thru that
has to be done alone because we have the
fellowship of recovery on our side. Each
one of us has something special to bring
to the table that can help someone, somewhere
out there in our SR sober recovery world.
You guys are so articulate in sharing your
own experiences, strengths and hopes with
each of us. Don't ever stop sharing, because
it gives each of us hope to live a stronger,
healthy, happy life for yrs to come.
so does this little cutie as he dances towards
his favorite holiday coming soon. Easter
Each one of you all at different stages of
life, with a single purpose, learning to stay
sober or clean with the help of others traveling
the same road of recovery supporting each
other with care, understanding, willingness,
honesty, openmindedness, love, trust, forgiveness,
to reach a happy destiny in life.
There isn't a thing we have to go thru that
has to be done alone because we have the
fellowship of recovery on our side. Each
one of us has something special to bring
to the table that can help someone, somewhere
out there in our SR sober recovery world.
You guys are so articulate in sharing your
own experiences, strengths and hopes with
each of us. Don't ever stop sharing, because
it gives each of us hope to live a stronger,
healthy, happy life for yrs to come.
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Well, I'll join the 39ers gang!! I turn 40 next month.
I've been married twice - technically I am still married to my second husband, although he kicked me out of our house (after I got sober - great stuff) - our house that I pay in entirety for!
We have one 8, nearly 9 year old daughter, who is currently living with her dad. My first husband died last year from complications of type 1 diabetes. There is a lot in my life that I wish was different, but I cannot force things to be that way - I have tried too many times and too hard for too long. All I can do now is leave it in God's hands which I do.
I'm very grateful to be sober and live in hope.
I've been married twice - technically I am still married to my second husband, although he kicked me out of our house (after I got sober - great stuff) - our house that I pay in entirety for!
We have one 8, nearly 9 year old daughter, who is currently living with her dad. My first husband died last year from complications of type 1 diabetes. There is a lot in my life that I wish was different, but I cannot force things to be that way - I have tried too many times and too hard for too long. All I can do now is leave it in God's hands which I do.
I'm very grateful to be sober and live in hope.
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