Jus

I've been noticing, not a lot of ENTHUSIASUM.

I think making an effort to be enthused about learning
to live a sober, healthier, happier and more fulfilled life, should make you
ENTHUSED!!!

I've been trying here, I won't start another thread in the newcomers.

Is it better to stay gloom and doomy?

Am I wrong??
Or have I been imagining,
not a whole lot of enthusiasm?

ReadyAtLast

It's just very difficult for people early on .Even just getting through the early days is really difficult -expecting people to jump around with enthusiasm is maybe expecting too much

It does come,in time

I love your enthusiasm though : )

Anna

No need to post here in Newcomers if you don't want to, Jus.

I know a lot of members struggle here and that's okay. Early recovery can be a very difficult time.

I think that every sober day is a big accomplishment, and I see lots of people who are succeeding each and every day.

Jus

Yeah you're right about this. What works for one, doesn't always work for everyone. We're all different, it's just I've noticed how well it works for me, and hoped it would help others.

The program I use stresses this. Right from day one, working on my sobriety, I worked hard on enthusiasm, even the days I didn't feel like it. So I figured it would be a good tool for others.

Excuse my ignorance.

Thank you.

aasharon90

Ive noticed how enthusiastic many have been,
just like I in the beginning of recovery, to get
started, hurry up and get sober or clean, hurry
up and make everything right that ive done
wrong when drinking or using. Enthusiastic about
always having sunny days with no storms.
Instant gradification. And so on......

What I had to do was slow down, accept that
there will be a few steps forward of accomplishments
and maybe some steps backwards with disappointments.

However, to know that all this too shall pass if
we get into a slump or when things in life are
not moving as fast as we would want them to
be. To stay on target with learning, absorbing,
applying new, healthy, fun, honest ways to live
life on lifes terms.

Sure, I get totally enthusiastic when Im rewarded
for doing the right things in life. I mean who
wouldn't. Enthusiastic means to be grateful
for all those good things and when bad things
happen that we recognize them and work thru
them without using a controlled substance such
as alcohol, poison, drugs, pills to only make
matters worse.

Enthusiastic to remain calm in the storms
of life. Acceptance. Patiant. Grateful. Sober.
Clean. Each a step at a time. Then jump up
and down with excitement and know it is ok
to do so.

Rejoice and be happy living a life in recovery.

Pete55

Try, willingness and faith, willing to do something to stay sober and faith it will be OK as long as you do what it takes for you to remain sober.

LadyBlue0527

Hi jus, I understand where you're coming from but you have to remember all paths are different even though we're all making the same journey.

What you feel one day is not going to be the same as others. There are people who are at all different levels in this.

Is being happy about being sober a must? Striving for it, sure, but it's not going to be achieved every moment of every day.

I'm ten months in and ecstatically happy for what I've achieved and I still have my days that are riddled with doubt and depression. Thank (insert favorite deity or whatever) for this board. I can come here and revel in my happiness but I can also come here when I'm at the worst of my worst and find love, caring, and companionship with a group of people that I so deeply identify with. Thus far there has been no judgement of the day that I'm having and I'm thankful for that.

I'm not sure how much of a help this board would be if every person who posted was on top of the world and enthusiastic with every single post.

Being realistic, this addiction sucks to the utmost no matter how far out you are. Sometimes all that we need to make it through a day is to hear from someone who is exactly where we are at the moment.

We need that in order to be reminded of something very important. We are not alone.

resolute50

Yes,you're wrong.

Nonsensical

One thing won't help everyone. But one thing will help someone.

And that's enough.

Keep shining your light.

deeker

Reality is that getting clean and sober is going to be the hardest thing many of us will ever
do in our lives. So yah I think it's wrong to think everyone is going to be enthused about it.
It's gonna be work. But well worth the work.

You can't see the end product in the early days.

Raider

I understand.

PinotNOmore

May I ask what program you are using? I would love to be more enthusiastic about this process!! :-)

autan

When I first stopped, I was scared, not enthusiastic. I was going through emotional turmoil and really struggled. In fact if you read back to my very early posts, you see a man in conflict with everything and everyone around him. Alcohol was the cure to my life and I had just abandoned it.

Enthusiasm is not a word to describe, how I felt or wanted people to add pressure on me.

I remember somebody asked me if I had a plan. I started saying, things like I have tried to do this without a plan, they have been stopped longer than me, they must have had a plan. I was stressed out over not having a plan, I had a drink instead.

Relax into things.

GreenEggsAndHam

Well you have to keep in mind this is the beginner's forum and many people are emerging from low bottoms, depression, pits of despair, guilt, shame, unpleasant withdrawals, etc.

I see lots of all types of posts. Some days I step away for a bit if I find I'm getting on edge about anything in the forum.

I love your signature - the part about looking in the mirror if you want to find someone to change your life. Made me smile.

1meropet1

Well today is it...day 1 finally had enough..

grubby

I feel the same right about now, i am sober...... but just really B.O.R.E.D

Don't worry, its not just you

Jus

Sorry about maybe getting a bit over enthusiastic lol. I've worked damn hard to get where I am today (not exaggerating) And for me being enthusiastic works. I work hard on it daily, not to EVER go back to that hell.

I guess part of me gets mad at this disease when I see so many struggling with it.

I'm not here to judge...EVER.

If I've upset some, I'm sorry. I know we're all different, and yes we can't be yippy skippy every day, but I sure try hard to be, even when a part of me doesn't feel that way. I know all about depression and the horrible dark place, that's why I work hard at this, and maybe hope others see how it helps.

Guess I made a mistake starting this thread.

Onward we go.

Psssst I will still remain over enthusiastic LOL

Life is to short to be miserable
I've wasted to many years that way.

Roger that

Holli

I don't mean to be unkind, but my reaction was exactly as resolute50, and I think it was the slightly manic ????

I have some (OK, a lot) of time spent with a local psychiatrist, and it wouldn't be fair to say he razzed me for this, but he certainly challenged me on my pervasively positive aspect. Which I eventually learned was a cover I used to mask my real feelings. I still fall into this trap sometimes because it is a lesson I learned well when I was young. Just for the record, the first time I met with him, I cried for an hour. The second time, I had no problems to work out whatsoever.

I am NOT saying this is you, just that this was what I learned about myself. People are complicated. :-)

And PLEASE keep posting whatever moves you!

Dee74

I wasn't especially enthusiastic until I had a few months under my belt...getting sober was damn hard work and I was a tad cranky

I'm glad there's enthusiastic people like yourself tho Jus - those people really lifted me when I was new and scared and needed the lift.

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Dee74

Welcome to SR 1meropet1

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