New Here and In Need of Support Please
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New Here and In Need of Support Please
Hi All, so I joined about three weeks ago, but haven't been too active in posting. I was doing really well, and then last night I drank. A lot. I'm terribly ashamed and I'm desperately trying to fight that all-or-nothing mentality (eg "Screw it, I already messed up, so why try?"). I know my emotions are a key trigger. I was feeling lonely and depressed. Not too great at being newly divorced and alone. Anyway, any kind words are appreciated. Thanks in advance 
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It's not how many times you fall down. It's how many times you get back up. Thus, do yourself a favor. First and foremost, forgive yourself for blowing it. Then get rid of not some, not most, but all of the alcohol in your home. Focus on the positive, not the negative. Think about how much you've NOT drank over the last few weeks. Now dust yourself off, take a hot bath the first chance you get and just concentrate on staying clean and sober for today and today, only.
Don't make the goal bigger than it needs to be and sobriety won't feel so overwhelming.
You can do this!
It's not how many times you fall down. It's how many times you get back up. Thus, do yourself a favor. First and foremost, forgive yourself for blowing it. Then get rid of not some, not most, but all of the alcohol in your home. Focus on the positive, not the negative. Think about how much you've NOT drank over the last few weeks. Now dust yourself off, take a hot bath the first chance you get and just concentrate on staying clean and sober for today and today, only.
Don't make the goal bigger than it needs to be and sobriety won't feel so overwhelming.
You can do this!
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Originally Posted by Amajorityofone 
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It's not how many times you fall down. It's how many times you get back up. Thus, do yourself a favor. First and foremost, forgive yourself for blowing it. Then get rid of not some, not most, but all of the alcohol in your home. Focus on the positive, not the negative. Think about how much you've NOT drank over the last few weeks. Now dust yourself off, take a hot bath the first chance you get and just concentrate on staying clean and sober for today and today, only.
Don't make the goal bigger than it needs to be and sobriety won't feel so overwhelming.
You can do this!
It's not how many times you fall down. It's how many times you get back up. Thus, do yourself a favor. First and foremost, forgive yourself for blowing it. Then get rid of not some, not most, but all of the alcohol in your home. Focus on the positive, not the negative. Think about how much you've NOT drank over the last few weeks. Now dust yourself off, take a hot bath the first chance you get and just concentrate on staying clean and sober for today and today, only.
Don't make the goal bigger than it needs to be and sobriety won't feel so overwhelming.
You can do this!
Also, try to come here before you pick up that first drink and give us a chance to support you.
We're here to help; use us.
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Join Date: Mar 2014
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Welcome, Im sorry youre going through a tough time, break ups are never easy. There is lots of support on here, welcome to the family
If you join the March 2014 thread you will find all sorts of posts from people who decided to get sober this month.
Good luck, and dont give up! One day at a time x
If you join the March 2014 thread you will find all sorts of posts from people who decided to get sober this month.
Good luck, and dont give up! One day at a time x
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Join Date: Jan 2014
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Just put "Need help now" or similar in the message line on this newcomers thread and guaranteed you will get a quick response. I hope that you feel better when you get thru the day and be kind to yourself. None of us are perfect but the main thing is not to give up trying. Let us know how you are doing x
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Originally Posted by Purple777
Thanks.. SO much guys. Really. Stupid question, but where would I post if I needed help, in the moment?
Forgive yourself and learn from it. Start again tomorrow.
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Hi Purple
The others are right - posting here would yield instant support, The Class of March support thread can also be very helpful - check it out :
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-3-a-18.html
Don't be shy - we're here to help
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The others are right - posting here would yield instant support, The Class of March support thread can also be very helpful - check it out :
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-3-a-18.html
Don't be shy - we're here to help
D
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Hi Purple. I did the same thing many times - always expected to be comforted by a few drinks. It never worked that way - all I did was make myself more anxious and miserable. It takes us a while to really get that. It sounds like you learned something. Hold your head up and keep going - you can do this.
I did the same thing many times - always expected to be comforted by a few drinks. It never worked that way - all I did was make myself more anxious and miserable. It takes us a while to really get that. It sounds like you learned something. Hold your head up and keep going - you can do this.
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