Ruby2

I've had the same thinking in my head. Thinking that if my alcoholic husband were only gone I could return again to "normal" drinking. Only fooling myself. I had this thought a couple of weeks ago and I have four months so it still continues to sneak up on you when you least expect it. Good catch!!

Looking4Help123

My voice tries it too many times. I have become really good at challenging all the assumptions in what it is trying to say to me. The primary one being I have tried that before and it DOES NOT WORK. Another thing I say to myself is that alcohol will not improve my life one bit, actually it'll make it worse in this situation, so why are you trying to convince me me to make my life worse?

Seems to work for me.

mimi2014

Notreally...what a great question and how right you are. I'm ashamed to admit it, but there were a lot of celebratory times I don't even remember. One of which was my son's prom last year. Such a waste of life. The only memories I have of that day is pictures. What I wouldn't give to go back and do that one over. Mountainman - yes that's exactly where that thought wanted me to go. I don't ever want to go back there.

mimi2014

Good catch for you too Ruby! Congrats on 4 months WTG!

mimi2014

Looking - I never thought about it that way. I'm going to use that next time. Thanks!

1newcreation

Yeah...know all bout the "coulda would shoulda" voice so keep reminding myself the past is called that coz it is..past! Know if I listen to it for too long, I'm gonna go places I don't want to. Congrats 3wks

Aiko

Dear mimi2014

I think we all tend to blame others...
If you drink and can not control is cb you are an alcoholic on its way up.

you need to be sober to deal with your marriage!
If it compensates the good things over the bad things,
is a balance!

They all are right on what they say!
your AV will try all tricks to drag you back!
Do not let it convince you!

Congrats on day 22