16 Months Ago
 

I sat here on my first Friday night. Logged into SR reading and reading. I used to read here until I was tired and I would notice the SR traffic decreasing and wishing there were more new posts to read. I wish you all well. Stick here and make it work. Even at moderate levels, alcohol is bad for our bodies. Addicted or alcoholic or not, alcohol is unhealthy. It's gotten that simple for me, but it was a long road. I never had a DUI or jail, etc. I had a handle on it for a long time, but I could feel my grip starting to slip. Nobody I know thought I had a problem, but I sneaked my drinks, hid my bottles, rotated my stores, spiced my coffee and grinned through my hangovers like a pro.

For what it's worth, the single greatest revelation I had in this journey was this: I never wanted one drink, I don't miss one drink. I no longer romanticize about having 'A Beer' because I never had A beer. I drank because I liked to get drunk. I always did and I always will. So here's my advice, let go of the 'I miss a glass of wine' or 'I miss having a beer'. No you don't. No I don't. I tried hundreds of times to have one or two. Maybe thousands of times actually. I just can't.

Second, don't spend too much time worrying about how deep your bottom is. IMHO the bottom doesn't make us stop, our soul makes us stop. If you feel your done, don't worry that maybe your weren't bad enough. Bad enough isn't usually what it takes. Just consider yourself lucky because the bad **** could be just around the corner.

I had been sober for 7 years at one point. For anyone thinking about testing the waters again. Bad idea.

Be well. Stick around. One day at a time, or even one minute at a time if that's what it takes. Peace and I hope everyone has a good sober weekend.

VR

Well said! That is a Great way to look at things. As i was thinking tonight. Man just one glass of wine would hit the spot! Ya right, in my reality it would be just one bottle of wine. Thanks for the post it was very encouraging! I'm on day 26

Excellent post, thank you VR. I needed that tonight!! I went out with drinking friends and the thought of one glass went through my head more than once. One glass leads to one bottle and then another. Sobriety is the only way for people like us!

Great post, thank you and congratulations
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congratulations VR - great achievement. thanks for your post too :)

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Veryready, 16 months is so FANTASTIC, congratulations, rootin for ya. :egypt:

Congratulations on 16 months! :)

Awesome post and oh so true! And congrats on 16 months you rock :D.

Sixteen months sober is wonderful! Congrats on your success! :scoregood

Well put!!!

Right on VR, wise words indeed.

This is really a spot-on, wonderful, fantastic post that totally sums it up.

Way to go on 16 months, and thank you for this.


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Many congrats. Great post xxxx

Beautiful, VR, sums it up perfectly. Thank you.

And congratulations on 16 months - happy for you!

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I love this post! It reinforces my commitment to staying sober. Thank you VR. Every time I feel a bit sorry for myself or feel a bit weak, I get on this site and it always makes me feel better, and your post is proof positive of that.

Congrats to you and I wish everyone gets to the mindset that you did. :)

Well said and good advice. Thanks for being a part of my journey and congrats on 16 months!

Well done Ready. Thanks for the words of wisdom.