Struggling with acceptance
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Struggling with acceptance
Hi everyone. I just downloaded this app to my phone. I've been struggling for quite a while with accepting I'm an alcoholic. I know it's just my addictive mind telling me this to get me to keep drinking. I've never been a daily drinker but when I do drink it's never only one or two. If I drink that I want more and keep going. I've tried buying smaller bottles like a lot of people do and that does work sometimes. But other times then I go out and get more. I wish that voice in my head would go away that tells me I have no problem and I'm "not like others". I know that's ********.... :-/
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welcome
This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed. ( bb,chtp 3,1st ed)
it is the delusional thinking you are experiencing.Some call it the obsession to drink.
It is pure insanity in my book for me to think like that.
Chapter 3 in the big book talks about that thinking we sometimes have or had.
The thoughts that precede a drink...The thoughts we seem unable to manage at times
I suggest you study chpt 3 intensely and see what you can learn and then try to identify those thoughts in your head as they come.
I was on step 3 when I noticed they was gone
what a happy day
This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed. ( bb,chtp 3,1st ed)
it is the delusional thinking you are experiencing.Some call it the obsession to drink.
It is pure insanity in my book for me to think like that.
Chapter 3 in the big book talks about that thinking we sometimes have or had.
The thoughts that precede a drink...The thoughts we seem unable to manage at times
I suggest you study chpt 3 intensely and see what you can learn and then try to identify those thoughts in your head as they come.
I was on step 3 when I noticed they was gone
what a happy day
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Originally Posted by Tommyh 
welcome This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed. ( bb,chtp 3,1st ed) it is the delusional thinking you are experiencing.Some call it the obsession to drink. It is pure insanity in my book for me to think like that. Chapter 3 in the big book talks about that thinking we sometimes have or had. The thoughts that precede a drink...The thoughts we seem unable to manage at times I suggest you study chpt 3 intensely and see what you can learn and then try to identify those thoughts in your head as they come. I was on step 3 when I noticed they was gone what a happy day
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Originally Posted by linds79
I wish that voice in my head would go away that tells me I have no problem and I'm "not like others". I know that's ********.... :-/
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Welcome, and I'm glad you understand that it's your disease talking to you. You don't have to label yourself as 'alcoholic' but it's important to accept that you can no longer drink alcohol, ever. 
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Originally Posted by Anna
Welcome, and I'm glad you understand that it's your disease talking to you. You don't have to label yourself as 'alcoholic' but it's important to accept that you can no longer drink alcohol, ever.
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Welcome! I can relate. I drink every few days. Usually it starts out okay. Never "normal" but okay. I think oh I can handle this. My drinking is fine. Then as the weeks go on I drink more and more until something bad happens. The bad thing that happens keeps getting worse and worse. I'm just hoping this last time was the last. Good luck to you. This site is eye opening!
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Originally Posted by Lily123
Welcome! I can relate. I drink every few days. Usually it starts out okay. Never "normal" but okay. I think oh I can handle this. My drinking is fine. Then as the weeks go on I drink more and more until something bad happens. The bad thing that happens keeps getting worse and worse. I'm just hoping this last time was the last. Good luck to you. This site is eye opening!
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If forever is too intense a concept, focus on not drinking today - thats more achievable...but also commit to coming back and reaffirming that decision tomorrow
The more sober days you rack up the better picture you'll get of life sober. I'm confident you'll come to see it's nothing to be afraid of
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The more sober days you rack up the better picture you'll get of life sober. I'm confident you'll come to see it's nothing to be afraid of
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welcome!
there's a phone app???
Hey, congratulations on taking steps to work on your acceptance. I understand... we all do. It's a journey, in my experience.
I wish you strength and clarity as you choose the sober path.
there's a phone app???
Hey, congratulations on taking steps to work on your acceptance. I understand... we all do. It's a journey, in my experience.
I wish you strength and clarity as you choose the sober path.
No quitting on yer quit eh!
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Yes, there is a phone app! A great $1.99 investment! And for me, a newcomer, and other lifer's I've talked to, the AV we have never goes away...... we just recognize when he whispers..... it's a long, hard road, but every mile is worth it!
No quitting on yer quit eh!
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And Dee is right, forever is too long of a concept! I love when people reach birthdays and milestones, but in a way it is also depressing, how will I ever get that far in sobriety? The answer is clear, one minute, one hour, one day, one month...
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Originally Posted by Dee74
If forever is too intense a concept, focus on not drinking today - thats more achievable...but also commit to coming back and reaffirming that decision tomorrow The more sober days you rack up the better picture you'll get of life sober. I'm confident you'll come to see it's nothing to be afraid of D
The more sober days you rack up the better picture you'll get of life sober. I'm confident you'll come to see it's nothing to be afraid of DMember
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl
welcome! there's a phone app??? Hey, congratulations on taking steps to work on your acceptance. I understand... we all do. It's a journey, in my experience. I wish you strength and clarity as you choose the sober path.
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Originally Posted by abcowboy
Yes, there is a phone app! A great $1.99 investment! And for me, a newcomer, and other lifer's I've talked to, the AV we have never goes away...... we just recognize when he whispers..... it's a long, hard road, but every mile is worth it!
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