christimc

I support at all, he is making all of this about him or maybe I'm the selfish one, who knows. But I sure am thinking if I'm this bad a person shy not just poor a drink right now

GreenEggsAndHam

Trust me on this one: Just dump it and try to stop making excuses to drink. Only sobriety will make you a better person.

Nonsensical

The more decisions you allow the alcoholic living in your head to make for you, the deeper your hole becomes.

christimc

Ok dumping out now this is harder this time around

PaperDolls

There are no reasons to drink, they are all excuses.

Stay strong. It will get easier.

Anna

This is about you, not your husband.

Focus on what you want.

BoatDaddy

For me it's been hard to communicate with my wife about how severe the problem is. She recognized the consequences so it's easier for her to see the errors but when you're battling addiction it's so much different. Be patient with him and try to verbalize what you're feeling. This may help him understand better. And another thing to remember is that you can only control the positive changes in your life. You have that power over yourself and no one else. Fight the urges to drink and each time you will be stronger because of it.

We're all pulling for you!!

christimc

Ty my problem is definitely hard to verbalize. Not sure I can actually say out loud I have a problem. He only sees the bad, the money or missing work sometimes I don't feel he thinks of me just the affects of the problem

least

Don't tell him you're trying to change - show him. After a while he'll see you're making a genuine effort to turn your life around.

sunshinescooby

i empathize with you.. I keep telling my husband I'm an alcoholic, and I need to quit drinking. He says nothing. Not sure if he's worried, doesn't believe me or what.. I'm very concerned about how our relationship will change if I can stay sober..