Dollyangel17

So a coworker came up to my desk and put a nip of Baileys on it and said to enjoy it for Valentines Day. I haven't come out and told fellow workers I quit drinking because of alcoholism. They (or most of them) think I stopped for weight loss purposes.

It was all I could handle telling them at the time. I politely said thank you, but after she left, I quietly gave it to another coworker, whom I believe has a suspicion of the real reason I quit. This coworker seemed to understand me giving it to her and stashed it in her purse.

I just wonder if its time to tell them the real reason I don't drink anymore so as to not get boozy gifts anymore. I likely wouldn't say anything unless another "gift" came my way...what do you all think?

least

I wouldn't tell co workers the truth. Just tell them you quit drinking cause you got tired of it. That's the truth and they don't need to know "the whole truth".

PurpleKnight

Yeah keep it casual! . . . no one needs to know the full details!!

venuscat

Hi Dollyangel17,

I agree with least; I don't tell people in the work place.
I say I don't drink if asked...no one bats an eyelid these days.
Lots of people are on health kicks. I just prefer to stay a little private...

Love Venus xx

OliveDog

For what it's worth, I agree with Least. There's probably nothing much to be gained from revealing more to your coworkers. It sounds like you can handle the occasional, potentially awkward moment.

Incidentally, Bailey's was my last drink -- just because it was the last thing in the house. I think I developed a taste aversion to it, which may have helped reduce any cravings for me so far. When I think of alcohol, I think of that last swallow of Bailey's. And it turns my stomach.

venuscat

(LOL I think I meant eyelash...but whatever)

sugarbear1

They can bat whatever they want, it's none of their business as to the exact nature of your not drinking....

Tamerua

Just say you don't drink, no need to say why. good for you for giving it away.

Dollyangel17

I suppose it would be easier if they didn't already know me as a drinker...(never was shy about my love of wine), but you are right...best to keep it short and sweet. I don't want to make them or myself uncomfortable with a dramatic explanation.

zerothehero

I'm 50 days sober today, and continue to tell people I'm dieting and cleansing. Come spring they will be surprised I'm still not drinking. I'll just keep saying "not tonight, thanks." I've also received alcohol gifts, and just accept them graciously and regift them.

Once I feel past some of the PAWS symptoms I may feel comfortable sharing more. I'm confident I won't return to alcohol, but summer will be my true test. Other than taking some days off to take care of myself, I'd say I'm a better worker now that I'm sober, but people don't understand the process, and many are suspicious of any addict. Unfortunate but true.