Day one
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Day one
Hi all
Day one
It's been close to 30 years of pretty heavy drinking, with a few periods of breaks. But not really to my surprise it is getting worse and I need and want to stop.
I am getting older and I can't expect my body to hold up like a 20 yr old! And I want to live to see my daughters grow up.
So here I am, day one. Any insights/help would be much appreciated.
Day one
It's been close to 30 years of pretty heavy drinking, with a few periods of breaks. But not really to my surprise it is getting worse and I need and want to stop.
I am getting older and I can't expect my body to hold up like a 20 yr old! And I want to live to see my daughters grow up.
So here I am, day one. Any insights/help would be much appreciated.
Just a welcome for now, Steffie. You may not know it yet, but you just took the most courageous step of your life. We're so glad you decided to join us on our journey.
I'm a mom too - there are many of us here. There's something for everyone here at SR so take a look around & find a spot that feels right for you.
I'm a mom too - there are many of us here. There's something for everyone here at SR so take a look around & find a spot that feels right for you.
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Hi steffie and welcome. This is a great place to get ideas and inspiration. Personally I use AVRT it helps me to focus on my urges and desires to drink and to see them for what they are. You can google AVRT and there is a free introduction . You need to do some reading on here to find something you feel will work for you but it is possible . There is a much better life waiting if you want it. Lots of luck and please keep posting
Hey Steffie, It was 30 years of heavy drinking for me too but I stopped in March last year. My life has never been better, my health is great and I even look way better. I'm doing an online course this year, cycling, walking, working full time, running a home, looking after my elderly mother and it's (relatively) easy these days. It can be the same for you.
You adopt the philosophy of not drinking for one day at a time and your whole life changes. 24 hours is all you need to think about today.
You adopt the philosophy of not drinking for one day at a time and your whole life changes. 24 hours is all you need to think about today.
I use AVRT too and it has really helped me immensely.
Of course, if I were you, I'd research the philosophies and methods of all of the various recovery program options and choose the one that resonates with you the most.
Of course, if I were you, I'd research the philosophies and methods of all of the various recovery program options and choose the one that resonates with you the most.
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Thanks to you all for your messages of support!
I have to say that waking up day 2 not hungover is just about the very best feeling in the world. I had a nice long walk with my dog after getting my daughters off to school, in the sunshine, and just contemplated my life to this point. It's a lot of soul searching and looking back to all the reasons why drinking has been so important to me. Of course, the real underlying reason is simply that I am an addict and was born with it. But if what I have to do to be sober is focussing on one moment at a time, then that is just a great way of living anyway.
I started tai chi a couple weeks ago in the hopes that it would be a possible way out of drinking, and although I see that only myself can make me stop, the tai chi helps with clearing my mind of the urges so far. But the biggest step for me was to tell my wife all the sad truth of my "secret" drinking I had been keeping up. Of course she suspected, as alcohol has always been a big thing with me, but it felt so good just to lay out all my guilty feelings, and health concerns, etc. to her. She was wonderfully supportive and will help me anyway she can.
Thank you again everyone, this site is truly a gift for all of us I suspect.
All the best
Mark
I have to say that waking up day 2 not hungover is just about the very best feeling in the world. I had a nice long walk with my dog after getting my daughters off to school, in the sunshine, and just contemplated my life to this point. It's a lot of soul searching and looking back to all the reasons why drinking has been so important to me. Of course, the real underlying reason is simply that I am an addict and was born with it. But if what I have to do to be sober is focussing on one moment at a time, then that is just a great way of living anyway.
I started tai chi a couple weeks ago in the hopes that it would be a possible way out of drinking, and although I see that only myself can make me stop, the tai chi helps with clearing my mind of the urges so far. But the biggest step for me was to tell my wife all the sad truth of my "secret" drinking I had been keeping up. Of course she suspected, as alcohol has always been a big thing with me, but it felt so good just to lay out all my guilty feelings, and health concerns, etc. to her. She was wonderfully supportive and will help me anyway she can.
Thank you again everyone, this site is truly a gift for all of us I suspect.
All the best
Mark
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