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Old 02-05-2014, 04:21 PM
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Hey folks, Just had to get this out of my system. Last week, my partner left our relationship saying that he couldn't emotionally cope any longer or commit due to a string of recent events that had very understandably upset him. He lost his mum only a few months ago and has had other issues to deal with. I was shocked when he suddenly announced he was leaving but let him go and asked him if he was thinking of alcohol, to please call a strong man who he felt he could talk to. A few days later, he got in touch with me to say he'd relapsed again. I tried to talk to him kindly and encouraged him to get in touch with other men who he felt he could relate to. He has contacted me again via facebook and I feel I have to walk on eggshells regarding the subject of alcohol but also realise it is no longer any of my business whether he is drinking or not. I try to be supportive but find myself worried sick about him and find it difficult to switch off. He says he regrets the decision to leave and has indicated that he would like to get back with me once he has sorted himself out. Being a recovering alcoholic myself, my first priority in life is my recovery and I have asked him to not come round to my flat or telephone while I concentrate on my sobriety and he concentrates on his otherwise both of our lives could be at stake. He contacts me via facebook so at least I know he is alive. I love him and care for him deeply but have no idea at the moment whether or not our relationship could be rekindled. Recovery first, one day at a time. As well as various regular recovery meetings, I have started attending online Friends and Family meetings, which I find help me. Has anyone else had any experience of this and if so, how did they cope with it? I am finding it very painful. Many thanks, Emma
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Old 02-05-2014, 04:32 PM
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I haven't had to got thru this but just want to offer you a big hug and I'm sorry your are going thru this. It is not easy to watch people go thru this.
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Old 02-05-2014, 05:18 PM
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No experience here either but a from me too.
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Old 02-06-2014, 02:57 PM
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Thanks, guys - that means a lot.
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Old 02-06-2014, 03:41 PM
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Hugs to you, Emmsie. Keep your sobriety the priority and it will work out.
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Old 02-06-2014, 03:46 PM
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I will be praying for you Emmsie!! Just know you are not alone!!!!
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I think you have your priorities straight, if thats any help emmsie

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Old 02-06-2014, 05:38 PM
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Thanks for your support, folks. Really helped me to get that off my chest.
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