MrsSlk

My first post....my husband is an alcoholic. Heavy. I go to meetings...alanon. I don't know who to talk to. He's been sober for 49 days after a stint in the hospital for alcohol detox. He drank today and lied to me about it.

Dee74

Hi and welcome MrsSlk

I'm sorry for your situation but you'll find a lot of help here, and in our Family and Friends forums as well.

I'm glad you've found us

Do you have a sponsor in AlAnon at all?

D

MrsSlk

I don't yet, I just started. I just really don't know what to do anymore.

Dee74

Thats ok, I just thought a sponsor would be a good place to start - if you're not at that stage yet that's no problem

you'll find a lot of support here - lots of people with experience with loved ones and addiction who'll love to talk to you

D.

Mags1

Hi MrsSlk, welcome to SR, as Dee says lots of support and help here.

Sorry about your situation, keep posting and reading, it's helps x

Taking5

Go back to alanon and tell someone there about it. Do you have a sponsor?

IOAA2

Hi. I'm very sorry for your situation which is too common. The expression in Al anon "Keep coming, it WORKS." Is so true if we work/use it, the more meetings the better. It's where we learn we cannot get anyone sober or drunk, they do that. It's where we learn to take care of ourselves.

BE WELL

least

Welcome to the family. I'm sorry for the situation you're in and hope we can offer support. AlAnon is a good program for support. Tell them what you've told us and get suggestions from them.

I'm glad you joined us.

MrsSlk

It's been a rough 24 hours. Just keeps getting juicier by the hour. No sleep on this side of the pond. He has now not gone into work and is locked away in our bedroom. He can't be feeling too hot with what he had to drink and how much of it. I feel I have reached the end of my rope. This is a long time coming and not the 1st time or 2nd or 3rd or even 4th time that we have had this little dance. I hate seeing him like this, but I don't think I can help him. I have lost myself in his anguish. I've just lost myself.

feeling-good

First and foremost, look after yourself. I don't really know what else to say. I'm sorry you are going through this.

Perhaps take some cold water and put it outside the bedroom door for your husband?!

MrsSlk

It's so hard to want to help him feel better when he did this to himself. I am his wife...for better or worse right? What kind of person doesn't want to help the man she loves....?? I have so much anger towards him..still. Next Al-Anon meeting near me is still 12 hours away

12mancan

That's a tough situation to be in, I'm sorry. Try doing something that makes YOU feel good, like a run or hit up the gym... you can't 'fix' him, so I think your best bet is to try and get yourself feeling less 'lost' and go from there. Good luck, we're all here for you!

GotGrace

I am sorry, MrsSlk. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but all I can give you is a virtual hug. Please take care of yourself. (((MrsSlk)))

MrsSlk

Thank you