Colinb1

Just a thought, I have been sober now for 20 days and will stay that way now but why wife still drinks wine a couple of time a week. She did out of respect ask me if I would mind and I said no and it doesn't bother me at all to my surprise. I wondered how the community would cope with this?

Dee74

Different people react in different ways. Some people would find it hard, and believe that support from a spouse should extend to not drinking....

others believe we have to get used to being around drinkers - it's our problem not theirs.

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Shoebox62

I agree with Dee. My wife continues to drink, although she is very discrete about it and doesn't keep alcohol anywhere where I can see it. If she was storing it in the fridge or somewhere public, it would be more of a problem. Do I wish she would stop drinking completely? I'll be honest and say, "yes". But I understand that I cannot control another human being. As long as she is considerate and supportive of my sobriety - which is certainly is - I feel that's all I can ask. If it becomes too much of an issue for me down the road, I guess we'll need to make decisions together about how to proceed. But, like Dee said, the world is filled with drinkers and you can't interacting with them all...

Colinb1

Thats what I thought we need to be stong when we are out temptaion will always be around us so my take was "start as I mean to continue" as you say its not her problem so why should I make her suffer for my issues.