cj24

I am 30 and still live with my parents...is that weird?

Raider

Well, kinda.....why do you still live there?

sillysuzanfree

It depends on the circumstances of course. I came back to my parents after many years of being away. I did it because I was in my disease (alcohol) and had no other choice. Now I am still here but helping them out in my sobriety.

Please tell us your story.

doggonecarl

Weird is the word we tend to use when we pretend to look at our situation through someone elses eyes. If it works for you and your parents, it's fine.

cj24

I don't get paid enough, I guess.

FreeOwl

are you feeling uncomfortable about it?

are there clear reasons that you are in that situation?

do you have ideas / dreams / goals of another situation you'd like to create?

are you taking steps toward that vision?

weird is a relative term - but you seem to be seeking assurances so maybe you are feeling off-base and would like to see yourself living a different life?

Raider

Well that's a pretty good reason, if you are ok with it.

Squizz

If you're okay with it, it's not a big deal. If it bothers you, it might be something you may look into changing.

foolsgold66

I'll go with depends. Some people that live in expensive areas tend to live with their parents longer. I was out the door at 17 and never looked back.

heath480

Here in the UK,25% of people your age live with their parents,it was in the news this week.

I have two of my sons here with me,one is 34 and the other almost 36.

cj24

Thanks guys. I dunno. I don't have many friends now. But you know...I will go on facebook and i will see people my age moved out, married and with kids.

I am fine with living here. My parents are fine with it. I just wonder if I am a weirdo for it.

Raider

No you are not a weirdo.

pattyj

I am 31 and still live with my parents in Seattle. I actually moved out for 6 years, got myself into an abusive relationship and moved back to get my life on track. We have a large house, I hardly ever see them and am saving a ton of money. I am proud and confident when I say I live with my parents, others are just jealous that they have to worry about cooking, cleaning and bills. I have lived out on my own and know that I can do it but I like being spoiled right now. My parents like having someone there and I plan to stay until they get sick of me. You are lucky to have them there for support so take advantage of the time you get with them. People who are married with kids our age just did things a lot quicker. I am taking my time, I refuse to settle and I am not in the mood for kids at this point in life. We all do life on our own terms, don't compare yourself to others.

CAPTAINZING2000

I child proofed my house and they still found a way to get back in. Grrrrr

KateL

If you enjoy your life living with your parents, I actually think it's rather nice. Nothing weird about it at all if it suits you xxxx

Anna

If you're okay with it, then it's all good.

If you think it's something you want to change, then you can think about making a change.

Ruby2

I moved out after undergrad, moved out of state, married, divorced and then moved back to my home state when I was 35. Moved in with my parents and wasn't making much so didn't get an apartment or roommate. By that time all my friends were still married and all had kids except me. I lived with my parents until I was 38 when I had a different job and bought a house. I quite liked living with my parents. I like my parents as people. But I also had friends that I spent time with. I worked as did my parents. I guess it is all perspective. I don't think it is weird. It just seemed natural.

Like Anna said, if you're okay with it, it's all good. If you want to make a change, think about making a change.

least

I don't see anything weird about it. If it's agreeable for all parties then I don't see a problem.

Kimura

Have you lived with your parents your whole 30 years?
That maybe a little weird but depends on your culture.

If you've flatted and now your just back at your parents inbetweent houses then that pretty normal these days. Not like 30 years ago when 30 yr olds owned houses

UnixBer

Well I agree it's not weird. It doesn't really matter where you're located if you're happy about it. It's just that the guideline of moving out from home early is to ensure that the person gets to experience the world on their own terms, have totally their own space, decisions and those important things.

When I first moved home (later I moved back , then away again) it was propably the best things in my life so far. It was only after that that I changed dramatically as a person. So dramatic was the change I put on myself after that... Sure there are people who live all their lives with their parents etc. and I don't see anything wrong with that, if you don't see anything wrong with that. It is all individual then...