Relapse-shame
Love the Slug
What's the point I'll fail anyway is the Slug speaking, he wants a drink. Each time I recognise his voice and refuse to heed him, it is as though I've put him on a stone in the full glare of the sun, he is shrivelling up. And Mate he don't like that.
I bet you are real good at beating yourself up. Try not to. Make a plan as though you where gHello MrBen,
I know too well this remorse/shame merry-go-round, and it makes you feel what is the point?, I'll fail anyway.
I'm finding the addicted voice (AVRT) tool really helpful. My inner beast is The Slug.oing to war, and call in all the troops (Medical help, support groups etc.). Then fight for your life, you're worth fighting for.
Best of Luck M8
I bet you are real good at beating yourself up. Try not to. Make a plan as though you where gHello MrBen,
I know too well this remorse/shame merry-go-round, and it makes you feel what is the point?, I'll fail anyway.
I'm finding the addicted voice (AVRT) tool really helpful. My inner beast is The Slug.oing to war, and call in all the troops (Medical help, support groups etc.). Then fight for your life, you're worth fighting for.
Best of Luck M8
Gonna use this - I used to say mine was Binky the bad clown...but you know he was just to damn fun!
EndGame
Join Date: Jun 2013
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I was very close with my maternal grandmother as a child. The way things were back then, my family spent almost every holiday and a lot of weekends with her and my grandfather, who I also liked being with. She always made me feel special and, in part due to her suffering from what I later understood was likely bipolar depression, she was always very excited about our visits, and generally spoiled me with toys, candies and things she baked. A child's trifecta.
When she was dying of cancer, everyone was very secretive about what was going on. Her condition was fatal, and at some point, the doctor's could do nothing more than make her "comfortable" until the end. I was about five or six at the time, and had no experience with death or dying.
When she died, my mother had something of a nervous breakdown, which I later understood was a result of the extremely conflicted relationship she had with my grandmother. My Mom stayed away for a couple of months, and my siblings and I were separated, staying with different neighbors and relatives while she was away. It was a very scary time.
I remember thinking while I was in bed at night, that if I remained perfectly still, without making a sound, that things would go back to the way they were. Of course my magical thinking didn't work, but it got me through the weeks and months that followed my grandmother's death. My grandmother didn't return, and my mother was a wreck when we finally got back together as a family. All my stillness and all my crying didn't change a thing, but it helped me survive a couple of unthinkable losses that I was entirely incapable of understanding.
A French philosopher and scientist once wrote, "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone." The more active I was in early sobriety, the more able I was to sit comfortably with myself.
You don't say how long you were sober for. I was "trying" to quit for years- I got a week here and there, once I got six months but then had a "planned relapse" (just one night etc)
Over time I came to I came to embrace sobriety with all I have for me the change did happen very quickly when I was in a desperate state and within 24 hours I knew something had changed for me. At the time I did not know what it meant and for all I knew it could have been the beginning of the end- but I felt better in a few days and I felt like a burden had been lifted.
Nower days I am aware of "where I am at" I maintain an awareness of how committed I am to my recovery and where I am at emotionally/psychologically etc. The ideas that promote drinking still do occur- but now I am able to recognise them for what they are . The central issue for me is embracing sobriety rather than not drinking, the point being I try to maintain an awareness of how far I am drifting from where I am "centred" in my recovery
Over time I came to I came to embrace sobriety with all I have for me the change did happen very quickly when I was in a desperate state and within 24 hours I knew something had changed for me. At the time I did not know what it meant and for all I knew it could have been the beginning of the end- but I felt better in a few days and I felt like a burden had been lifted.
Nower days I am aware of "where I am at" I maintain an awareness of how committed I am to my recovery and where I am at emotionally/psychologically etc. The ideas that promote drinking still do occur- but now I am able to recognise them for what they are . The central issue for me is embracing sobriety rather than not drinking, the point being I try to maintain an awareness of how far I am drifting from where I am "centred" in my recovery
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