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Old 01-19-2014, 04:10 PM
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Day 1. Again :(

Well I screwed up. I never seem to be able to make it more than 6 days. I did good all day. Felt good. I don't know what happened. So disappointed.
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Old 01-19-2014, 04:12 PM
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It's happened to a lot of us. Forgive yourself, learn from it, and move forward again.
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Old 01-19-2014, 04:12 PM
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Can you share a little on what you were doing to stay sober this time, Brit?

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Old 01-19-2014, 04:15 PM
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I have had so many day 1s too. I am really sick of it. I read somewhere about being sick and tired of being sick and tired. Maybe that is where we have to get. Best to you and you are not alone.
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Old 01-19-2014, 04:19 PM
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Well I was just reading about it, trying to stay busy and getting on here often. My husband and I quit together so we were supporting each other. I was fine til my neighbor came over with a beer and basically begged me to drink with her. Honestly I could've gone without it easy but I decided I deserved a few beers for being so good all week. My husband didn't want to drink either. I let him down too and I feel horrible. I am shocked how fast I went from being totally ok with not drinking to drunk in less than 2 hours. Sucks
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Old 01-19-2014, 04:23 PM
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Hang in there! I am on day 1 also. This is my second time trying. Last week I went 2 days without drinking which hasn't happened in 6 years. Keep your head up. You can do this!
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Old 01-19-2014, 04:26 PM
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don't beat yourself up... that only plays into the cycle.

It happened. It's now behind you. What you do next is what counts the most.

No idea what your history / patterns / situation are but I'm assuming if you're here and posting a thread with the title and tone you are - that you have been struggling with stopping and have an honest desire to break the cycle.

In my experience, it took more than just saying I was going to stop drinking... it takes action, support, a strategy....

Take what you've learned as a further example to yourself of why you want to be sober, then ask yourself "How can I turn this experience into fuel for sobriety going forward?"

You can do it.

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Old 01-19-2014, 04:38 PM
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You may need to stear clear of your neighbor for a little while. It is rude when people can't take no for an answer. If it takes saying no more than 2 or 3 times for a peer to get it that you're not drinking, avoid hanging out with them. It's hard enough battling our own addictive voice, let alone getting pressured from someone else. Give it another try!
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Old 01-19-2014, 05:32 PM
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Brit & Jillian.....I am back at one day also....disappointed in myself too, but just have to "start" again....determined to not let it "drag" into another stretch. Be good to yourselves
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Old 01-19-2014, 05:39 PM
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I did that dance for months. People on here helped me determine that I needed a better long term plan. I'm 8 days sober now and counting. You can kick this thing if you are determined enough.
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Old 01-19-2014, 05:50 PM
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Several times, well meaning friends bought alcohol back into my life and I was hooked again Brit.

In the end I realised I had to make a lot of changes if I wanted to stay sober.

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Old 01-19-2014, 05:52 PM
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Thanks guys. Today is a new day and I am going to make this my first priority.
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Old 01-19-2014, 05:53 PM
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Keep trying Brit. You can do it x
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Old 01-19-2014, 06:31 PM
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Hi Brit,
I see you have a lot of positive support, all I can say is to be kind to yourself it has happened, Not totally your fault as from what I read your Neighbor cam over with a Beer.
I would suggest that "NO ALCOHOL Permitted in the house. Now this is where you have to be tough and let your friend's know this. This what have done and the amount of friends I have = 0. But then you have to ask are they really friends or are they drinking acquaintances??? I would lean toward the Latter, and because you aren't drinking they (so called Friends) have no excuse to lean on you or in my case make fun of. I was their as I was a lot shorter smaller frame and I used to get drunk so quick.

Today for me is Day 20 Sober.
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Old 01-19-2014, 10:48 PM
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I'm on day 1 again too. I hate myself. I have to stop drinking!!!!!!
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Old 01-19-2014, 11:05 PM
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Old 01-19-2014, 11:34 PM
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Glad you're back! You've only added to you're story later on
Just rem that theres no good reason to drink, but many reasons not to
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Old 01-20-2014, 03:06 AM
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Well I screwed up. I never seem to be able to make it more than 6 days. I did good all day. Felt good. I don't know what happened. So disappointed.
So your next goal is to make it more than six days. Seven would be a win.

It's all about making progress. Rome wasn't built in a day. If you can stay off the sauce for a longer period every time you give sobering up a shot, eventually you will make it. Sobriety followed by relapse isn't failure if it's part of the process to reaching continuing sobriety -- then it's just part of the process.

Long-term thinking is key. Short-term thinking is what gets us into this mess in the first place.
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