How we act
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How we act
I've often heard that how pepole act when they are drunk is the type of person they truly are on the inside. This has recently come to my attention and I've been putting a lot of thought into it. I know that inhibitions get extremely lowered once someone is drinking. So, it is possible, that the "true" person comes out. I become a sexist, racist, ******* when I get too drunk. I'm beginning to think that maybe that I really am those things and that I am just able to hold them in sober. Yes, I need to focus on not drinking, but if I truly am those things, I need to rethink my whole approach.
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Drinking changed me in a bad way--I was selfish, intolerant, impatient (I could go on and on). I've been sober for nearly 6 months, and I'm finally getting to see the person I used to be (a good thing, I think!).
I think that you'll find that, the longer you are sober, the more you'll get to know who you truly are. Please be good to yourself during this process.
I think that you'll find that, the longer you are sober, the more you'll get to know who you truly are. Please be good to yourself during this process.
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This is where it got confusing for me - I was the nicest, most motivated girl in the world when drinking. I get grouchy and pouty and lazy when I don't drink, but I haven't made it more than 2 weeks without drinking in 5 years, so maybe it will get better after a few weeks...I think you probably lose your filter, but that doesn't define your character.
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I appreciate the replies and perspective. I hate the person I become when I'm drunk, but I cannot contain that person. Which, makes me believe that is my true inner-self. My biggest problem is that I've been wronged by so many people in my life and I've never had an outlet or come to grips with it. When I drink, I generalize and take out my pain anyway I can. That is why I've had a problem drinking, b/c it helps me forget the pain. Being sober will help, but I'm not sure whats going to give me peace on the inside.
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Originally Posted by choublak 
The belief that people have "done you wrong" is cause for anger and resentment. Doesn't really get you anywhere, I've found.
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Originally Posted by choublak
Your true inner-self isn't permanently set in stone.
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I choose to believe that the way I am drunk is not how I truly am. In fact, towards the end of my drinking I didn't even know who that person was when drunk. I was obnoxious, emotionally unstable, mean, and self destructive. For a little while when I was first sober, I didn't know who I was, but I knew I wasn't THAT. It has taken a little while to discover again who I am and what I stand for and it's still a work in progress. So although I sometimes said things while drinking that I really did think, that was not who I am as a person.
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When I have too much to drink, I become an ********. I am loud, obnoxious, and crass. If I drink myself into a blind stupor, I will start fights with friends and random strangers. But, before alcohol became a problem I was none of these characteristics. Quite the opposite actually.
I realized that I was just insecure with low self-esteem and when I'm drunk, I am trying to cover up for these insecurities. I hated my job, was overweight, and I felt like a failure but I didn't feel like that when I was drinking. Booze made me more 'charming', confident, and better looking in my own mind.
To everybody else, I am sure they thought the sober me was much more charming than the drunken, 'arrogant', ***** me.
I realized that I was just insecure with low self-esteem and when I'm drunk, I am trying to cover up for these insecurities. I hated my job, was overweight, and I felt like a failure but I didn't feel like that when I was drinking. Booze made me more 'charming', confident, and better looking in my own mind.
To everybody else, I am sure they thought the sober me was much more charming than the drunken, 'arrogant', ***** me.
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Originally Posted by choublak
Everybody is a product of circumstance, lol it's not unique to you or any one select person.
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I have no idea who that person was that used to leave a trail if havoc wherever she went. This is me. And similar to what foolsgold just said, I do not have the power of telekenisis and cannot fly.
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