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Old 01-03-2014, 12:43 PM
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Old 01-03-2014, 12:44 PM
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Run on a treadmill? Didn't you write a post where you were surprised how you could run further with sobriety and it was satisfying? Go do a workout that wears you out and drink a protein shake afterward, when you land. That should get rid of some cravings.
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Old 01-03-2014, 12:57 PM
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AO you deserve to wake up free from a hangover ,
you deserve not to hurt your kidneys ,
you deserve to treat you liver well so you don't feel poisoned ,
you deserve a big bubble bath ,
you deserve a lovely refreshing shower ,
you deserve to not pass out ,
you deserve to not have bodily functioning accidents ,
you deserve not to be throwing up/ being sick , dry heaving ,
you deserve not to have the sweats ,
you deserve to not smell like an old gone wrong brewery ,
you deserve to have good teeth, gums not receded by alcohol ,
you deserve to treat yourself with loving kindness not alcohol abuse,
you deserve to live in freedom,

Bestwishes, m
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Old 01-03-2014, 12:58 PM
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Eat until you're full. I always feel less like drinking when I have a full stomach. Even better if you have something sweet after the main meal.

Or in other words, as I heard an old-timer in recovery say last week: "Don't drink. Do anything but drink. Rob a bank if you want, just don't drink."










(Except don't really rob a bank)
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Old 01-03-2014, 01:00 PM
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AO, play the tape all the way through, step by step to waking up tomorrow and all that will bring if you decide to give in.

You can do this!
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Old 01-03-2014, 01:06 PM
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I definitely vote for eating something delicious! Order something in, including some chocolate - order all your favourites!!
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Old 01-03-2014, 01:08 PM
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Remember that what you are feeling right now are simply emotions - and they will pass, just like they always do. Granted they are not good feelings, but they will eventually be gone. That is unless you drink - which will postpone them and make them worse tomorrow along with the hangover, guilt and shame that you know will be waiting for you.

And lastly, remember it's your choice. No one can "make" you drink...only you can willingly and knowingly purchase and lift a bottle to your lips. And by making that choice, you also choose all the bad things that will ineveitably come along with it.

So what should you do? Anything but drink that can get your mind off things. Take a walk, watch a movie, take a nap, wash some laundry, read a book, bake some cookies, reorganize your sock drawer, paint a picture, go to an AA meeting you've never been to, the list is very, very long. And you know you can do it, right?
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Old 01-03-2014, 01:14 PM
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I feel sorry for the old coot. And not like she deserves it, believe you me. She's a nasty, self righteous, terror on two old pegs that can and has destroyed people with her vitriolic mouth. She's an NPD to the nth degree, peppered with histrionics and a myriad of physical problems which demands my every moment. I could just kick myself for giving into my guilt of her being completely alone with no friends and no family.

I'm more of a wreck that I think I'm even aware of right now. I just contacted my therapist and told her to buckle down, it's going to be a bumpy ride.

I'm getting to 90 damn days if it flaking kills me.

She's taken enough. She can't have that too.
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Old 01-03-2014, 02:55 PM
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I know you'll do the right thing for yourself AO
Drinking would solve none of the things you're freaking about - but it could and most likely would make things a whole lot worse.

Drinking's not back on the table, regardless of what your imp-voice is telling you - just breathe and relax.
You're in control.

You can stay sober tonight, just like all the other nights.

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Old 01-03-2014, 03:35 PM
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Remind yourself that you no longer drink alcohol and that you deal with difficult or stressful situations using methods that do not involve alcohol, such as exercise, meditation, etc.

You don't drink alcohol anymore. Any suggestion to the contrary is your Addictive Voice and should be summarily dismissed.
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Old 01-03-2014, 03:39 PM
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AO, play the tape all the way through, step by step to waking up tomorrow and all that will bring if you decide to give in.

You can do this!
Yes alphaomega....you can tell the AV to go jump.
I had a sponsor who used to tell me to drink a big glass of milk when I felt this way...just a thought.

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Old 01-03-2014, 04:10 PM
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You need to reward yourself with a treat ( not alcohol). Something sweet usually works for me to take the edge off. Go to bed if you have to, just don't drink.
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Old 01-03-2014, 04:19 PM
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I got nothin'.

You know better than anyone what will work for you, so I appeal to the part of you that lovingly cares for you, that wants to be sober, and tell that part to do whatever's necessary to stay sober.
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Old 01-03-2014, 04:20 PM
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Someone here mentioned at one point how fast the AV vanishes after the first drink, the first sip. That reward we want so bad, the little break, relaxation we seek, all that thinking, poof, gone right when we take that first drink. Next thing we knowi it's a few glasses later and F it, we're off to the ozone again. So seductive, so tempting sometimes, but such a fraud and a fake, that voice telling us it's okay. This kind of thinking helps me.
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Old 01-03-2014, 04:27 PM
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Its a cold and its a broken hallelujah.
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Ok - I'm good.

Belly full - I was starving. Big cup of green tea.

I'm over the hump thanks to all you wonderful caring souls.

Dropped her off and literally started to immediately decompress. I could honestly feel it lift. I wish there was a way to measure that. It was surreal.

Phew.

Day 83 dusted and shelved. Bring on 84.

XO AO
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Old 01-03-2014, 04:52 PM
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Hi Alpha once you get back to your own home alone and close the door on the world, not us, just the rest of them, have a big mug of hot chocolate and some mince pies or left overs from Christmas.

We got rid of the all the ailments booze kindly gave us, I don't want any back and I'm sure you don't. This niggle will pass, let it fly on by with a big kick in av s derrière x
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Old 01-03-2014, 04:53 PM
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Sorry ditch the hot chocolate stick with the green tea x
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Old 01-03-2014, 05:03 PM
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Its a cold and its a broken hallelujah.
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I was literally hanging on minute by minute. I can't begin to thank everyone who took time out of their lives to help me through today.

Time is our most precious commodity as it is finite and limited.

I hung on to every word, every post, minute by minute.

Heartfelt thanks. I owe y'all one.
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Old 01-03-2014, 05:59 PM
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Old 01-03-2014, 06:02 PM
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Hang tough alpha!!!
You've GOT this!!!
Your posts have helped me many times!!
Glad you came here when you needed to!!
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