New guy - am I strong enough?
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New guy - am I strong enough?
This is my first posting after signing up... I've been trying, albeit halfheartedly, to give up booze for several years. I keep disappointing myself by thinking I can drink sociably and end up lying, disappointing, frustrating and depressing myself and my family. Last night was the last straw! I thought I was being so coy, hiding my drinking from my family several times during the holidays until last night when I was detected by my wife. What a sneak! I am very weak when it comes to this and can use any help you can offer...
Thanks for listening!
KevinJ
PS... I apologize if this is not the correct content for a posting. If not, someone please advise!
Thanks for listening!
KevinJ
PS... I apologize if this is not the correct content for a posting. If not, someone please advise!
to SR! You've come to a very friendly supportive place. We are here to encourage you to stay sober. I'm glad you joined the family. Member
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Ireland
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Hey Kevin, welcome to the Forum!! 
Yeap your in the right place, the newcomers section is a great place for your first post! Great you've made the decision to be Sober! you'll find loads of support here!!
Yeap your in the right place, the newcomers section is a great place for your first post! Great you've made the decision to be Sober! you'll find loads of support here!!
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Posts: 1,062
Welcome to SR Kevin!
The content is just fine! You are reaching out for help and that is good!
There are many, many people here that are willing to help and support your efforts...
Keep reading these boards and posting... There is great information here!
The content is just fine! You are reaching out for help and that is good!
There are many, many people here that are willing to help and support your efforts...
Keep reading these boards and posting... There is great information here!
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Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: Seattle
Posts: 29
Kevin,
I know you probably feel bad right now, but try not to beat yourself up. This will get better. Some people can drink socially and still maintain their sobriety. You might need to try a period of abstinence before trying again. Just set a goal or trial period until alcohol no longer interests you. The trick is to not seek alcohol, but not to fear it either.
Wish you the best ---nick
I know you probably feel bad right now, but try not to beat yourself up. This will get better. Some people can drink socially and still maintain their sobriety. You might need to try a period of abstinence before trying again. Just set a goal or trial period until alcohol no longer interests you. The trick is to not seek alcohol, but not to fear it either.
Wish you the best ---nick
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Join Date: Apr 2013
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You have landed in the right place. To answer your question ... yes, you are strong enough but all of us need help. We're social beings and there is no shame in reaching out for help. Coming to SR is a great first step because it's a wonderful place that has been a significant part of my recovery.
Thank you for posting, keep posting. Take care and be well.
Thank you for posting, keep posting. Take care and be well.
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Somewhere else
Posts: 395
Welcome Kevin, glad you are here!! I know all about the sneaking part. I love not having to lie or hide anymore. It is such a relief, sometimes I get ready to lie and then I realize I don't have to, it just became so natrual. Keep posting there is lots of support here.
Hillbilly Girl
Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: In my Garden
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Hi Kevin'
I am new to this site also...just a few days & also have been struggling to "grasp" hold of sobriety for a couple of years....just know I want it more than anything....want to be free from the "ball & chain". We can do this Kevin. Take it easy on yourself - Im really working on letting go of yesterday & just move forward with today. Winding down in day 3 today - keep posting here & I will do the same
I am new to this site also...just a few days & also have been struggling to "grasp" hold of sobriety for a couple of years....just know I want it more than anything....want to be free from the "ball & chain". We can do this Kevin. Take it easy on yourself - Im really working on letting go of yesterday & just move forward with today. Winding down in day 3 today - keep posting here & I will do the same
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: San Diego, Cali
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Hi kevinj, 
Welcome to SR ~ you will find a lot of support here.
Only you can answer if you are strong enough to quit. It isn't easy....but the best things in life rarely are.
Best of luck in your journey. The first few weeks are very hard....but it gets easier. Hang in there,
Lillian
PS - there is a December class still open for newcomers. I've found a lot of support in my September class...it's actually helped me tremendously.
Welcome to SR ~ you will find a lot of support here.
Only you can answer if you are strong enough to quit. It isn't easy....but the best things in life rarely are.
Best of luck in your journey. The first few weeks are very hard....but it gets easier. Hang in there,
Lillian
PS - there is a December class still open for newcomers. I've found a lot of support in my September class...it's actually helped me tremendously.
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: San Diego
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Welcome to SR, Kevin. You can absolutely do it—the proof is all around this website. You sure have come to the right place. You'll find tons of people like me who tried, failed, tried, failed, and then finally found a way out. There are many paths out, and many tools to help. The one overarching principle is to pick yourself up, learn from setbacks, and move forward. You want to quit, and you're reaching out for help — that's half the game right there. You're going to be really glad you didn't give up!
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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Hi Kevin and welcome to SR! Man, I relate to the secrecy thing. I think you will find many others share some aspect of this. Part of my waking up to the extent of my problem was finding myself in the garage, pulling off the bottle I had stashed in order to hide my drinking from my family. Ouch. My days of social, casual drinking were over.
SR is such a great place for support. Glad to have you. Again, welcome!
SR is such a great place for support. Glad to have you. Again, welcome!
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