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A few days ago I posted the problems that I was having with my wife. She is very bossy and controlling. I had received some good advice from people on this site that I needed to keep my sobriety and problems with my wife separate. Unfortunately I didn't take the advice. I am just coming off a two day binder. It was ugly. What do I do now?
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Originally Posted by Eldy 
A few days ago I posted the problems that I was having with my wife. She is very bossy and controlling. I had received some good advice from people on this site that I needed to keep my sobriety and problems with my wife separate. Unfortunately I didn't take the advice. I am just coming off a two day binder. It was ugly. What do I do now?
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I agree with the above. I couldn't deal with or settle with ANY of my problems until I got clean. TBH, if someone in my life was preventing me from focusing on me, I had to take a break from them.
I'm not saying separation is in order, but I am saying that when my family was driving me crazy, I found getting out of the house and going for a drive, a walk in the park, etc. very helpful.
One night, I didn't want to use, but my sanity and serenity was being severely compromised. I took my nook, left the house, and went to a McDonald's to get on here and post. I was lucky enough to be working, later that night, but it helped me.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
I'm not saying separation is in order, but I am saying that when my family was driving me crazy, I found getting out of the house and going for a drive, a walk in the park, etc. very helpful.
One night, I didn't want to use, but my sanity and serenity was being severely compromised. I took my nook, left the house, and went to a McDonald's to get on here and post. I was lucky enough to be working, later that night, but it helped me.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
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Also nothing wrong communicating how you feel with your wife (sober of course).
You can make an arrangement that when you feel at the end of your rope, that you can take a time out. You could have a code, like if you say peaches that means your about to blow a gasket! ;-)
You can make an arrangement that when you feel at the end of your rope, that you can take a time out. You could have a code, like if you say peaches that means your about to blow a gasket! ;-)
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Your main focus needs to be being Sober!! . . . I think you'd agree that that bender didn't achieve anything, other than an awful hangover and feelings that you'd prefer not to be feeling right now.
So make this your new Day 1, and you've gotta do what you need to in order to protect your sobriety!!
So make this your new Day 1, and you've gotta do what you need to in order to protect your sobriety!!
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